I (19M) have been crushing on a coworker but I suck at making it go anywhere.

I've always been awkward around people, and this is the first time I've actually been interested in dating someone. So even though I don't know her very well, I feel good about giving it a shot.

But after today, I just feel exhausted. I keep looking for an excuse to slip her my number, and my attempts to put myself out there resulted only in me humiliating myself. I had to talk to her about a customer, and I approached her confidently, but I'm just not good at talking to people, so it ended with me sort of rambling, her staring at me blankly, then me walking away abruptly out of embarrassment. I heard another coworker say something about not even understanding what I said lol. Part of the reason it was so awkward in the first place is because I didn't really need to talk to her about it, and because I knew I could come across the wrong way, and anyway... it was just a shitshow.

So yeah, I have the confidence and desire to make this happen, but both my confidence and desire ended up taking a hit today. As well as most days I actually try anything. Also, I think she's a bit of an introvert too, and it's just weird talking to her. It takes effort, and my mind kind of spirals out of control in the moment. So any advice on how to recover from my embarrassment, to not come on to strong, and how a socially awkward person like myself can chat up another socially awkward person would be appreciated. Should I just give up at this point lol, I think maybe it's a sign we're not compatible?

TL;DR--Advice on how to recover from embarrassment? Specifically on how a socially awkward person can make a move on another socially awkward person?



Submitted August 08, 2020 at 12:06AM

I've always been awkward around people, and this is the first time I've actually been interested in dating someone. So even though I don't know her very well, I feel good about giving it a shot.But after today, I just feel exhausted. I keep looking for an excuse to slip her my number, and my attempts to put myself out there resulted only in me humiliating myself. I had to talk to her about a customer, and I approached her confidently, but I'm just not good at talking to people, so it ended with me sort of rambling, her staring at me blankly, then me walking away abruptly out of embarrassment. I heard another coworker say something about not even understanding what I said lol. Part of the reason it was so awkward in the first place is because I didn't really need to talk to her about it, and because I knew I could come across the wrong way, and anyway... it was just a shitshow.So yeah, I have the confidence and desire to make this happen, but both my confidence and desire ended up taking a hit today. As well as most days I actually try anything. Also, I think she's a bit of an introvert too, and it's just weird talking to her. It takes effort, and my mind kind of spirals out of control in the moment. So any advice on how to recover from my embarrassment, to not come on to strong, and how a socially awkward person like myself can chat up another socially awkward person would be appreciated. Should I just give up at this point lol, I think maybe it's a sign we're not compatible?TL;DR--Advice on how to recover from embarrassment? Specifically on how a socially awkward person can make a move on another socially awkward person?
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