Hooked up with a guy last weekend and we had a good time. I found him kinda cool and was hoping to keep him around for fun. We were suppose to hangout tonight but he said I can’t sleepover like last week as he likes to sleep alone. The problem is, I’ve always slept over at my previous hook ups/fwbs place and the fact that I slept over last week and he said I can’t this time, I felt like he just wasn’t as interested this time and I didn’t want to let myself down so I declined. He was kinda cool about it and said sorry for making me feel bad. Did I overreact or he just wasn’t as interested? Submitted June 13, 2020 at 12:02AM Hooked up with a guy last weekend and we had a good time. I found him kinda cool and was hoping to keep him around for fun. We were suppose to hangout tonight but he said I can’t sleepover like last week as he likes to sleep alone. The problem is, I’ve always slept over at my previous hook ups/fwbs place and the fact that I slept over last week and he said I

Same, although for me it's just demi June 12, 2020 at 11:59PM

I think asexual fits pretty well, you could be an asexual lesbian meaning you’re interested in women romantically/sensually/platonically but just not sexually. Use what’s label you think is best for you💜 June 12, 2020 at 11:57PM

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True. But like, I can be really squeamish when it comes to questions like that, not just because it makes me feel uncomfortable due to my gender dysphoria, but also because I have tokophobia and just the mention of pregnancy can make me nauseous. June 12, 2020 at 11:54PM

.....that's just rude- I'm not even aro. I'm disabled and I hate when people tell me "you'll need someone to take care of you!!" Fuck you my girlfriend is not my nurse. June 12, 2020 at 11:41PM

Nvm i got it June 12, 2020 at 11:39PM

Ok I'm honestly interested in what issues we supposedly caused. You're perfectly valid even if you've never been in a relationship. Plenty of people know their sexuality before they're ever in a relationship. Not to mention that it completely ignores that aromantic people exist. To my knowledge the only issues we've had with the LGBTQ+ community has been with exclusionists who have been upset since the community expanded beyond LG. June 12, 2020 at 11:38PM

You mean like,popping a pimple instead of being paranoic of people seeing it?(i dont care bout what people think of me aestetically and al BUT YOU GOT THE POINT) June 12, 2020 at 11:37PM

You can! I'm not great with words and I'm not exactly an expert on the subject, but I can tell you my personal experience. Romantic interest and sexual interest aren't one in the same for me. I'm interested in romantic relationships with women and men alike, but I'm not interested in sex. (Which makes me a Bi-romantic asexual I think?) Some people need sex to be a part of a non-platonic relationship, but it's not an important part for everyone. June 12, 2020 at 11:35PM

You can absolutely be attracted to people in different ways! This can include romantically (want to date them), sensually (want to cuddle them/nonsexual physical closeness), platonically (friends), or aesthetically (they’re pretty) June 12, 2020 at 11:35PM

A common non-positive reaction I've had when telling people about being asexual is "that's not a thing" . The positive counterpart to it has been "oh I actually don't know anything about asexuality. Ok if I ask about it? Another negative one was "oh, so you're still asexual?" when talking to a friend a few weeks after telling them about asexuality, which thankfully only happened once. As for aro (though grey-ro might be more accurate for myself), I don't usually use the term when talking about it with someone outside of the a-spec community. I just tell people that I'm not interested in being in a romantic relationship. And people I haven't told about being ace as well generally assume that I missed a yet at the end of that line. June 12, 2020 at 11:34PM

I'd consider that a bonus. :) Aesthetically pleasing people doing things you find arousing is combining two things you can enjoy together. I don't need to put chocolate syrup in my milk to enjoy it but it does make me enjoy it more than I would otherwise. In response to feeling like an addiction, maybe you could try thinnking of it more like maintenance? If you take care of the urge then you can focus on what you actually want to be doing. Distract yourself right afterwards if you don't want to dwell on it. June 12, 2020 at 11:33PM

You too! June 12, 2020 at 11:29PM

Feels good man, you do you with pride June 12, 2020 at 11:29PM

I wish I had some good advice for you, but I'm afraid I'm in a similar situation. Finding a partner who is okay with who I am sometimes feels impossible. Sex is important to some people, but there are people out there who don't care strongly about it and people who'd rather go without. People like you and people like me. Finding those people is a challenge, but I don't think it's hopeless, even if it feels like it sometimes haha. June 12, 2020 at 11:25PM

This has received the stamp of approval from your friendly neighborhood Demiromantic asexual xD June 12, 2020 at 11:25PM

I struggle with the same feeling, I just go with “on the ace spectrum” because there’s a lot of grey area there, and it’s a useful catch-all term without getting bogged down with having to figure out specifics. I don’t know if I’m 100% asexual... but I do know that I don’t feel allo. So a-spec it is :) June 12, 2020 at 11:09PM

Societal pressure - The reason I always wanted to have a gf and sex Being AroAce - The reason I never tried to have a gf and sex Realizing my sexual and romantic attraction has been the most freeing experience in a long time June 12, 2020 at 11:09PM

My husband has struggled with bouts of depression on and off since before we got together. He was diagnosed as bi polar in college but he’s never really had bits of mania just OCD and depressive episodes. We’ve been together for seven years, married 5. When he’s struggling normally he has turned to me for comfort - but this time it’s different. He hasn’t had an episode for about 2 years - but since later this past fall he said he feels as if his hormones are changing, then suddenly in the last month he’s seemed really off - normal stress from work, and also working on his masters - but he’s struggled with ED as well. We’re still having frequently sex - he just has to take me Medicine. He says it’s not me he can’t self pleasure either. I’ve kept asking him if everything is okay between un and he says yes - but I’ve had the feeling it isn’t. Tonight I confronted him and he admitted I’m part of it which is why he has struggled to talk to me about it. He said he still loves me but he elud

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