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My boyfriend and I are both asexual. I’m 22, and he’s 30 and we’ve been going out officially for around 4 months (unofficially around 2.5 years, we were slow to label lol). It’s so refreshing to be with someone who I know will respect me and my boundaries without question. He’s quickly becoming my best friend (and I’m normally slow to realizations so this is really telling), and I’m so happy to have him in my life. I’ve dated allos before, when I was trying to figure myself out. They all wanted to change me, thinking that sooner or later I’d suddenly want to have sex. They were nice guys, but I wasn’t going to make that personal sacrifice for them. But with my guy... we just work. We aren’t touchy-feely, but being with him is so amazing. In fact, and I haven’t told him yet... I’m pretty sure I’m falling for him. And I’ve never falling in love before so this is big. But given our track record before, it will probably take another year to actually admit that to him lol. April 1...

No no no- dressing up like a dinosaur and eating Dino (shaped) Mac and cheese while drawing dinosaurs who are eating mac n cheese is really where it’s at. https://www.google.com/search?q=dino+mac+and+cheese&rlz=1C9BKJA_enUS798US798&hl=en-US&prmd=isvn&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjDy6OPu9HhAhUPUK0KHZMKChoQ_AUoAXoECAwQAQ&biw=1024&bih=653 April 15, 2019 at 06:28AM

They’re worried we won’t bang them. Guess what. They’re right! April 15, 2019 at 05:59AM

Bingo! I have heard this most often from people who were attracted to me. Like dude, don’t take it personally. April 15, 2019 at 05:57AM

What language are you learning? April 15, 2019 at 05:30AM

My guess is that it comes from a subconscious attempt to figure out where we belong in their scheme. It’s no surprise that people create in groups and out groups, and tend to prefer people in their in groups. So my guess is that if they have a generally positive (or at least not negative) view of you and you don’t fit into the out group (gay, bi, etc. in this case), they’ll subconsciously regard you as a member of their in group. When you aren’t following the standard behavior of the group, it causes dissonance. The attempt to address the dissonance manifests as rationalizing it as you not having enough experience to relate. TLDR: the human mind is weird and makes people think/do weird things when they don’t get stuff April 15, 2019 at 05:29AM

Not what I meant but cake is good April 15, 2019 at 05:25AM

”I want it in me” K but what if we’re talking about cake? April 15, 2019 at 05:19AM

I love intimacy with my close friends, but can’t bear it with anyone who wants to be a “romantic interest”. It’s sounds so contradictory but here I am. April 15, 2019 at 05:15AM

That doesn't rule out demisexual though which is a type of asexuality. But it depends on the circumstances. April 15, 2019 at 05:07AM

No problem April 15, 2019 at 05:07AM

Great lol. Thanks for reading and for the help, it’s much appreciated April 15, 2019 at 05:07AM

Probably ace. April 15, 2019 at 05:05AM

Thanks. And... if I haven’t ever thought that? April 15, 2019 at 05:05AM

I mean I don't think I'm ace but this is so relatable April 15, 2019 at 05:05AM

If you ever thought "I want to put my thing in it" or "I want it in me" that's sexual attraction and you're probably not ace. April 15, 2019 at 05:04AM

That is one possible reason, or because it pleases them... I love the follow up look on a partners face when I've performed oral well. (I lean towards being a bit subby) Point is, you (if ace) are unlikely to get an 'urge' but could be willing and find enjoyable the experience of a partners urges... Big downside potential, allo partners will often be unhappy if they are always the one initiating. April 15, 2019 at 04:53AM

Jean-Luc Picard approves. He didn't want jamaharon anyway. April 15, 2019 at 04:50AM

I have a quick question so it’s been about 2 week since I’ve been on birth control got it April 1st and today I had sex with my partner and I told him to cum in me and he did .... even though I’m on it should I get a 🤰🏾 test just in case or should it be effective by now ?? Also just to put out there it’s been awhile since I had a sexual intercourse so we had it while I was on my period 🙈 but someone please reply !!! Submitted April 15, 2019 at 03:59AM I have a quick question so it’s been about 2 week since I’ve been on birth control got it April 1st and today I had sex with my partner and I told him to cum in me and he did .... even though I’m on it should I get a 🤰🏾 test just in case or should it be effective by now ?? Also just to put out there it’s been awhile since I had a sexual intercourse so we had it while I was on my period 🙈 but someone please reply !!!

Hey guys, ​ Throwaway for obvious reasons but I want to clear my head out like I can't in person with someone else, I also want to ask for advice and thoughts. ​ So basically I joined a frat recently, kinda reluctantly as well but im not gonna go over that cause it has little bearing. We had a party and I went to the pregame beforehand. I'd say im a good moderate, to heavy weight when it comes to drinking or so I thought. I ended playing too many card drinking games, and just drinking too much in general. Once the party started more drinking, and then when I had girl friends come over they gave me some of their drinks as well. The point is I don't remember much about the night, but apparently at the party I started dancing with random girls with no consent and made them uncomfortable (DUH). Once I went outside and realized that I was too fucked up, cause I was told so, I stayed outside and puked (one of the only things I remember about that night). There was more stuf...

So it finally took like three months for my boyfriends penis to fit inside of me without it hurting like crazy. I think it was mostly nerves having me clench up. Sex now with him doesn’t hurt but it feels uncomfortable. We’ve had sex twice so far and both times it felt like I had to fart. I was on top of him but the upper half of my body was pressed against his. My question is is this normal to feel like you gotta fart during sex? Is it because of the position we were in? Any ways to prevent this? Submitted April 15, 2019 at 04:06AM So it finally took like three months for my boyfriends penis to fit inside of me without it hurting like crazy. I think it was mostly nerves having me clench up.Sex now with him doesn’t hurt but it feels uncomfortable. We’ve had sex twice so far and both times it felt like I had to fart. I was on top of him but the upper half of my body was pressed against his.My question is is this normal to feel like you gotta fart during sex? Is it because of th...

It obviously feels good but what does this good feeling feel like exactly? Submitted April 15, 2019 at 04:19AM It obviously feels good but what does this good feeling feel like exactly?

Me [M] and my 17 year old gf (legal where I am) have been dating for 10 months now. She's given me head multiple times yet I have never even gotten to rub her. When I ask her why,she always responds with she's not interested. Recently we had a talk and she said that she doesn't want head because she's not interested in cumming and she doesn't like the thought of her being the only one that receives pleasure. She said that she would have sex before she let me eat her out. I'm afraid that I couldn't make her cum from sex and I want to be able to eat her out so she can cum. How do I approach this situation ? How do I make her understand that I just want to make her feel good and that it's okay if she's the only one that is getting pleasure from that Submitted April 15, 2019 at 04:19AM Me [M] and my 17 year old gf (legal where I am) have been dating for 10 months now. She's given me head multiple times yet I have never even gotten to rub her. ...

My partner shared his blood test results to show he’s clean. Majority of the result is in foreign language and I have no idea which English abbreviations on the list are indicators for stds... Submitted April 15, 2019 at 04:20AM My partner shared his blood test results to show he’s clean. Majority of the result is in foreign language and I have no idea which English abbreviations on the list are indicators for stds...

Okay, my penis is uncircumcised and i can slide the penis foreskin down only when its flaccid, still working on stretching it when its “hard” but me and my gf really want to have sex now, so my question is, can i have sex with my foreskin on? Can it damage the penis or something? Submitted April 15, 2019 at 04:22AM Okay, my penis is uncircumcised and i can slide the penis foreskin down only when its flaccid, still working on stretching it when its “hard” but me and my gf really want to have sex now, so my question is, can i have sex with my foreskin on? Can it damage the penis or something?

So I’ve developed a fantasy of watching my wife having sex with another man and watching also known as cuckolding. It turns me on so much but I hate that it turns me on. I feel embarrassed thinking about it. I have tried to get her opinion on it but she doesn’t really give a straight answer. I’ve also asked her what she would do if it actually was something I liked. What should I do about this? It’s the only way I can get off while having sex with her. Submitted April 15, 2019 at 04:25AM So I’ve developed a fantasy of watching my wife having sex with another man and watching also known as cuckolding. It turns me on so much but I hate that it turns me on. I feel embarrassed thinking about it. I have tried to get her opinion on it but she doesn’t really give a straight answer. I’ve also asked her what she would do if it actually was something I liked. What should I do about this? It’s the only way I can get off while having sex with her.

It always been like that , when I masturbated and when I had sex (several times) I always finished extremely fast, and it leave us both disappointed She never said that she was disappointed but I wished the acts would be longer and more fun that way Submitted April 15, 2019 at 04:25AM It always been like that , when I masturbated and when I had sex (several times) I always finished extremely fast, and it leave us both disappointed She never said that she was disappointed but I wished the acts would be longer and more fun that way

In San Francisco we used to have Armory which often featured adult shows and so on. Unfortunately it closed down. I am wondering are there alternatives in the city or in the Bay Area? Submitted April 15, 2019 at 04:28AM In San Francisco we used to have Armory which often featured adult shows and so on. Unfortunately it closed down.I am wondering are there alternatives in the city or in the Bay Area?

I recently connected with an awesome person. We get along great and one day things got physical. Just a heated make-out session and I received oral. The following week we texted a little bit and made our sexual desires for one another well known haha. After planning a date to meet up again and take things further, they informed me that before we engage in intercourse that I should know that they have HSV2. They're medicated and haven't had breakouts or symptoms for a long while. As well as them having unprotected sex with a monogamous partner for years and them not spreading the virus. It was all communicated to me properly and respectfully, but I am very unsure of how to go forward with things from here. It would strictly be a casual "friends with benefits" situation, not a lasting relationship. Which to me might not make it worth the potential risk. Is there anyone else who has gone through and might be able to share some wisdom. Not seeking an answer, just trying ...

We have only been dating for a little over a month but having a threesome has been on my bucket list for a while now. I want a ffm threesome so bad but he’s a shy sweet guy and I’m afraid he will think I’m gross. I’m hoping since I want this to be with another girl he might be more open. How do I even go about this? Submitted April 15, 2019 at 04:37AM We have only been dating for a little over a month but having a threesome has been on my bucket list for a while now. I want a ffm threesome so bad but he’s a shy sweet guy and I’m afraid he will think I’m gross. I’m hoping since I want this to be with another girl he might be more open. How do I even go about this?

I’ve been out of high school for two years, and have only had sex with 2 chicks in that time period. I honestly don’t know what I’m missing, I think I have a good personality, I’m decent looking, and I have a good social presence but I’ve struck out over and over again. I know I don’t see 3/4 the amount of females I did when I was in school but for fucks sakes that shouldn’t be a excuse. I’m just trying to look for some advice, not getting laid has really had a effect on my mental Submitted April 15, 2019 at 04:42AM I’ve been out of high school for two years, and have only had sex with 2 chicks in that time period. I honestly don’t know what I’m missing, I think I have a good personality, I’m decent looking, and I have a good social presence but I’ve struck out over and over again. I know I don’t see 3/4 the amount of females I did when I was in school but for fucks sakes that shouldn’t be a excuse. I’m just trying to look for some advice, not getting laid has really had a effec...

I started using vibrators at age 18 mostly clitoral vibrators and I'm 22 now. When I was younger my orgams were intense and strong. Now they're kinda boring. How can I make them stronger again? Submitted April 15, 2019 at 04:44AM I started using vibrators at age 18 mostly clitoral vibrators and I'm 22 now. When I was younger my orgams were intense and strong. Now they're kinda boring.How can I make them stronger again?

My girlfriend (22) and I (m-23) have talked at length about our fantasies and the porn we watch. We have been in a relationship for 6 years now and are trying to find new ways to spice up our sex life. I mentioned that we could show each other the porn that we watch to get off, as this seems like a good way to focus on each others sexual desires. Since talking about it we haven't really taken the time to actually do it. So I was wondering if anyone had any hints and tips? How should I take the initiative and introduce it into our bedroom/sex life? Is there porn that is better to watch as a couple? Logistically, how have you watched it? We have a TV in the bedroom (not a smart TV), a smart TV in the livingroom, we have the PS4, we could use a laptop or our phones? Is renting DVD's a better option? I want it to be easy enough so that we don't have to stop sex or anything to change a video. And most importantly, did it inject a different sense of fun into your sex life? ...

My wife is very good looking but isn't confident with her only body image. She is fairly shy and certainly not an exhibitionist. I really get a buzz when we are out just wandering around in public and I see guys checking her out which happens a lot. I find myself wanting more and more to explore this by getting her into situations where she is partly or fully naked and 'accidentally' seen by strangers. There have been a couple of times she has put herself in this situation for 'maybe' being seen but not really deliberately, and one where I asked her to do it and I absolutely loved it. ​ The first were things like her wanting to spray tan before going out for the night, and not wanting to get the bathroom tiles covered in a layer of tan spray we went outside to tan her up fully naked on the back patio in full view of the neighbours if they happened to look over our way, which unfortunately they did not. ​ The most recent, and best, was a couple of nights away f...

I've been jerking off frequently for a few months now after doing it very little. I noticed my feet would get pins and needles but eventually they'd subside. This Saturday I went a little extra harder than usual and went on for an hour and came... and I touched my dick afterwards and felt a small shock in my feet. I decided to let it be for a few days.. and I did it again tonight... and its still hapening. Is this normal or should I stop before I do more damage? Submitted April 15, 2019 at 07:00AM I've been jerking off frequently for a few months now after doing it very little. I noticed my feet would get pins and needles but eventually they'd subside. This Saturday I went a little extra harder than usual and went on for an hour and came... and I touched my dick afterwards and felt a small shock in my feet. I decided to let it be for a few days.. and I did it again tonight... and its still hapening. Is this normal or should I stop before I do more damage?

I first got sexual urges in early primary school but have always been very ashamed, even now. Whenever I masturbate I feel really depressed and distracted, because I don't like the feeling horny. Everyone I know thinks I'm asexual, as I've always denied attraction for either sex, but realistically I am heterosexual. This discomfort regarding my sexuality has led to general social awkwardness, specifically around women. Even when a situation is not related to anything sexual, I feel incredibly uncomfortable talking to women. I know this is all a bit muddled but I've never really spoken about this before, so my questions are: 1. What can I do to feel more comfortable with my sexual urges? 2. How can I go about talking to females my age in sexual and non-sexual circumstances? 3. How do I go about speaking to family and friends about this? 4. Is it worth considering therapy? Submitted April 15, 2019 at 07:11AM I first got sexual urges in early primary school but have...

throwaway just in case I've told my girlfriend kinks before and she knows all of them except for the biggest one. So my biggest kink are girls who are sluts. Things like, being fucked by many guys at once, bukkake, just a girl who wants to take everything she can get, etc. Sometimes I've also imagined her telling me that she wants my friends or her friends to fuck her/cum on her. Or that before she comes home from school, she goes to her friends house, he cums on her and she sends a selfie to me. Things like those turn me on somehow. ​ She has told me before that doing anything sexual is strictly limited to the person she loves. I've asked her before if she would ever do something like this (hypothetically if she wasn't in a relationship) and she told me that she would never. I was thinking to suggest something like role playing or (because we text some nsfw stuff to each other sometimes too) that she would tell me fake stories in text. If she is not on board with i...

I was asked a question a while back by a girl that I have known forever, she asked "What turns you on?" I didn't know how to answer... I'm almost always turned on by everything as long as there is a female involved, but I seem very composed. One girl I used to hook up with said I was heartless and had no passion. Truth be told I'm afraid of seeming vulnerable, And to top it off, all my life I've been told girls don't want dude who always seem eager for sex... But I am, like always. My question is should I let girls know that I am always eager, or try playing it cool forever? Submitted April 15, 2019 at 07:16AM I was asked a question a while back by a girl that I have known forever, she asked "What turns you on?" I didn't know how to answer... I'm almost always turned on by everything as long as there is a female involved, but I seem very composed. One girl I used to hook up with said I was heartless and had no passion. Truth be tol...

Summer last year I met someone, knowing I was moving overseas in winter. He was aware of this and wanted to continue seeing me. We both developed feelings and were very transparent about it. He hoped that I would reconsider moving. It wasn't an option and I left early December. He still contacts me and is unable to move on. I for my part don't reach out, but feel the same way and respond. He keeps asking me to return and give "us" a real chance. I wish, that I could, but it's not a possibility. It hurts and I miss him dearly. Any advice? Submitted April 14, 2019 at 09:50AM Summer last year I met someone, knowing I was moving overseas in winter. He was aware of this and wanted to continue seeing me. We both developed feelings and were very transparent about it. He hoped that I would reconsider moving. It wasn't an option and I left early December. He still contacts me and is unable to move on. I for my part don't reach out, but feel the same way and ...

Ok I'll start by saying I'm 55 so well over the thirty.. So honesty bit. Been divorced twice (4yrs and 10yrs) And generally was an ok experience overall and I'm adult enough to say that the last one ended because we both stopped trying and doing the little things that matter. I'm well over and I don't carry baggage forward as I know a good part of it was my fault. ( no funny stuff affairs etc just how it went). I've took a long hard look and come out the other side. I'm basically a really nice person who tries his best at whatever he does. I think poss too nice sometimes. Now to the main bit.. I've done the OLD stuff including NSA but I find the actual people face to face bit really frustrating . I've worked in retail sales for years and you get really tired of the silly stuff people talk about. And I think it rubs off in real life. Don't get me wrong I've always found it hard talking with people which is why I don't mind being on m...

Hi all - late 30's, single here. While out at certain local establishments for dinner or drinks, I always take notice of the attractiveness of some of the wait staff. Physically, as well as them seeming to be friendly, unfake people. It always gets me thinking to myself - Wow, I would really like to ask this person out for a drink sometime and get to know them outside of a work environment - but am always held back over the seemingly social faux pas of this behaviour. I don't want to be creepy about it, but would it turn me into the creep to do this? Or am I missing out because I am not taking the chances? Waitresses of reddit - does this happen to you a lot at work? Do you wish it didn't? Submitted April 14, 2019 at 12:08PM Hi all - late 30's, single here.While out at certain local establishments for dinner or drinks, I always take notice of the attractiveness of some of the wait staff. Physically, as well as them seeming to be friendly, unfake people.It alw...

What happened and how did you deal with it? Submitted April 14, 2019 at 01:23PM What happened and how did you deal with it?

So I recently redone loaded a dating app and after sending out 30 messages I’ve heard back from maybe 5 people. And from there one 1-2 people has progressed into potentially hanging out. I mean what’s up with that? did online dating change? It’s almost disheartening. Submitted April 14, 2019 at 01:33PM So I recently redone loaded a dating app and after sending out 30 messages I’ve heard back from maybe 5 people. And from there one 1-2 people has progressed into potentially hanging out. I mean what’s up with that? did online dating change? It’s almost disheartening.

I'm a little confused after a date last night. For a little background, a couple that is good friends of mine asked me if I wanted to meet a single female friend of theirs. (We are both over 50 and divorced.) They set up a card party with a bunch of other couples. After the party, I asked for her number which she entered into my phone. I called her a day later and left a message asking if she'd like to get together to talk, figuring we didn't get a lot of time together at the party. I didn't hear back so I called the next day and left another similar message. I didn't hear anything for almost 2 weeks. Figured I failed the audition and was okay with it. This past Monday I get a text from her saying she didn't realize she had a bunch of voicemail messages on her phone, 2 of which were mine. She apologized and suggested we get together during the week for a drink. We met at a restaurant for drinks, and it ended up being 3 drinks and 3 hours of conversation. It wa...

I haven't dated much ever. I've been in one long-term relationship, and a couple dates here and there, and that's pretty much it. I rarely ever develop feelings for someone. Last year, I was in Canada for work for 3 weeks (I'm American) and I (30M) met a girl (22F). We hooked up the first day we met and we just hit it off. She stayed over at my apartment for almost 2 weeks straight. We went out, hooked up, had sex, went out on dates, and just had a real great connection. It was casual and I guess a fling(?). A month later, I decided to visit again for a week. We picked back up right where we left off. Dates were great, conversations were great, sex was great, I just had a great time with her. I kept going back to visit her. Went about 5 times over 6 months. In Feb, my boss mentioned that we needed someone in the Canada office for a short period of time. I immediately jumped at the opportunity and said I'll do it! (The office is empty, I'm the only one here)...

So I'm no Don Juan or anything, but I do occasionally get matches. But whatever I'm doing is apparently not quite right because if I send said match a message, I rarely get anything back. I'm not super damanding, but I'll generally write it off after a week or so, and I usually only send the one message so as to not weird people out. I'll usually just ask about something I found interesting in their profile hoping to open up a conversation. Am I doing something wrong or is this just how things go? Submitted April 14, 2019 at 07:14PM So I'm no Don Juan or anything, but I do occasionally get matches. But whatever I'm doing is apparently not quite right because if I send said match a message, I rarely get anything back. I'm not super damanding, but I'll generally write it off after a week or so, and I usually only send the one message so as to not weird people out. I'll usually just ask about something I found interesting in their profile ho...

I'm a huge fan of the spray and pray method of online dating. Here's what I know about so far that I've had success with. Tinder eHarmony Match Bumble Hinge OkCupid Coffee meets Bagel Am I missing any decent ones? First person to say POF gets a frowny face 😁 Submitted April 14, 2019 at 07:47PM I'm a huge fan of the spray and pray method of online dating. Here's what I know about so far that I've had success with.TindereHarmonyMatchBumbleHingeOkCupidCoffee meets BagelAm I missing any decent ones? First person to say POF gets a frowny face 😁

I joined it and all the guys on there seem so much more like adults than I do, I mean I am an adult I'm basically in my 30s but I feel kind of overwhelmed they all have real jobs and have all these travel photos haha. But I think because I've never been on it before, I didn't think there was anything beyond POF and OKcupid.....and the guys on there well aren't very adult 😅 Don't get me wrong I love a good gaming session, some pizza and a TV binge. I am the biggest geek I know, so maybe these proffesional guys will think I'm too immature for them. And the fact I'm a student and a mother and not drop dead gorgeous. Where is the medium dating app haha where guys are mature and ready for a relationship and are able to hold a steady job? UPDATE: I left the app haha I think I might have been the shortest member of the app ever. Submitted April 14, 2019 at 08:28PM I joined it and all the guys on there seem so much more like adults than I do, I mean I am...

Hello everyone, I am 28 and dating a guy who is 30, since the beginning of February. We have been taking it veeeery slowly, with a date a week except when one of us have been traveling. The dates have been so great though, he comes up with thoughtful dates that he thinks I will like based on my hobbies, and he has cooked for me as well. We have stayed up all night just talking and laughing, although he doesn't open up very much but a little bit. He has been super busy at work as he works in finance and is up for promotion this year, plus someone resigned so he had to take on that role as well. So last time I saw him which was two weekends ago, I got us cinema tickets and then cooked for him as well, which made him more affectionate and calling me nicknames. We haven't spoken much about what we are, as we both agreed to take it slowly when we first met, because we both came out of relationships in November. Last time he said he likes our vibe, that I am unique and special. ...

I encountered a guy through OLD, we exchanged numbers, and we made plans. Hours before our date, I reached out and canceled; I just didn’t want to go out. I’ve met up with dozens of men through OLD — so it wasn’t nerves or anxiety — but, as I have gotten older and my life has become busier, I’ve become ambivalent about dating. The problem is that it’s tough to detect that “spark” online, but first dates just seem to be an investment on which I’m getting no returns. I hate to be that girl who just vaguely cancels a date and wishes you well, but I also don’t want to be that girl who is obviously disinterested on a first date. I’ve taken almost a year off from dating (since I ended my last LTR), and I’m wondering if I just need more time. Submitted April 14, 2019 at 08:52PM I encountered a guy through OLD, we exchanged numbers, and we made plans. Hours before our date, I reached out and canceled; I just didn’t want to go out.I’ve met up with dozens of men through OLD — so it was...

And then you’re not sure if you actually like them or if your hormones are just taking over? Submitted April 14, 2019 at 10:07PM And then you’re not sure if you actually like them or if your hormones are just taking over?

I'm about to start a doctoral career, not a surgeon but I do have doctoral and medicine in my title. I will go from zero income to over six figures in a year. I'm only five foot nine in the very skinny build, keep my hair shaved because well not much of it left LOL... and often have been told multiple times that people think I'm in my late twenties at least. That being said as with probably most males we have a very fond attractiveness to younger girls, especially those are early to mid-20s at least for me that. Now for the reality I have attempted several dating sites showing me with my white coat, standard professional semi-professional dating pic's and what not. and the reality of this whole experiment is I can't land a woman under 35, I can't land a woman that I find attractive. I know this may sound mean, but I have yet to go on a date with a woman who excites me physically. I know there's the reality of If would ever even want to date someone that...

I am (F31) and seeing a guy who is 34. He consented to let me spank him until I think he learns his lesson whenever I think he misbehaves or requires an attitude adjustment. It has reduced the amount of arguments we have and for a few weeks afterwards, I have the most well mannered and eager to please man around. Also, there is no sex after a bare bottomed spanking. They are not foreplay. Submitted April 14, 2019 at 10:46PM I am (F31) and seeing a guy who is 34. He consented to let me spank him until I think he learns his lesson whenever I think he misbehaves or requires an attitude adjustment. It has reduced the amount of arguments we have and for a few weeks afterwards, I have the most well mannered and eager to please man around. Also, there is no sex after a bare bottomed spanking. They are not foreplay.

Hey DoT. Sorry for the long post, but I’m trying to figure out if I want to stop seeing this guy or ask him to slow his roll. If I’m not 100% into him now, is continuing to see him a lost cause and should I just break it off or should I tell him my concerns and see what he says? Been dating this guy for about 4-5 weeks. He went hard on the text messaging from day 1. We talked on the phone for a couple hours the day after we matched on OKC and had a good convo despite my protestations about talking on the phone. The “Good morning” texts started the next day even before we met, and haven’t let up since. I actually posted on a weekly thread before our first date that I wasn’t sure about him because there was just so much texting. At first it was quality getting to know you stuff, but lately it’s just aggressively boring. However, our first date went well, and we do have some significant compatibilities and things I really like about him—no kids/don’t want kids; he’s very caring, open, ...

I am a 50-YO woman, met a mid-50s guy OLD, we agreed to a quick coffee meeting. I liked a lot about his personality, and he's a good-looking guy, and he liked me. However, I was surprsied that his personal style was a little more flashy than I anticipated from his on line profile. Big gold chain around his neck, and lot of cologne. But also he's from Greece (we are in upper Midwest) so I am thinking it's possible some of this is just cultural differences and surface stuff. So my question is, would it be weird if I ask him to perhaps not wear cologne for a first actual date? I don't want him to feel personally criticized, and Lord knows I'd think it odd if a guy was like "hey I like you but can you wear nicer shoes" or something of that ilk. Perhaps this is the same. But yet, I don't want surface differences to get in the way of getting to know each-other, if there's a chance we really continue to enjoy each-other's company. Your thoughts, D...

I was talking to a friend the other day about this topic: old exes resurrecting after the break-up. I started to think about it, and I cannot recall even one ex who has not contacted me weeks, months or years later after a break-up to talk, catch up, and ultimately want to 'hang out.' (except for at the time my very last ex) The last relationship that I had that ended, ended about a month ago and I was a little perturbed at this topic, because the guy who I stopped seeing before the last one (polite and easy clean break), contacted me "out of the blue" to see "how my love life was going." I am pretty sure he saw me on the dating apps as I saw him, too. Then I was telling my friend that the latest bf was the ONLY one I can think of who has NOT resurrected. Then cue the next day when I get this long sad 'sorry about who I am, I am trying to become a better person, going to therapy, you are so amazing, blah blah blah" text out of the blue. Why is th...

I’m having anxiety, because I’m wanting to join a class that I know my ex goes to. We left thing on semi-good terms the last time we talked. But I’m having anxiety thinking I could run into him. How do I battle this anxiety? I don’t want this to deter me from things I like doing. The truth is he wasn’t invested, so I think I just feel a control aspect in myself since I’m the one that had stronger feelings. I’m over it for the most past but I can’t get this out of my system. I’m now dating someone else who’s a better fit. Does anyone else experience this? Submitted April 14, 2019 at 11:50PM I’m having anxiety, because I’m wanting to join a class that I know my ex goes to. We left thing on semi-good terms the last time we talked.But I’m having anxiety thinking I could run into him. How do I battle this anxiety? I don’t want this to deter me from things I like doing. The truth is he wasn’t invested, so I think I just feel a control aspect in myself since I’m the one that had stro...

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What dating apps do you use and have luck with? I’m a 32 year old guy. Kinda on the heavier side having issues finding decent apps for meeting people on. Submitted April 15, 2019 at 02:17AM What dating apps do you use and have luck with? I’m a 32 year old guy. Kinda on the heavier side having issues finding decent apps for meeting people on.

I just had a first date (from a dating app) and the last thing he said to me as we parted on my doorstep was “Let me know if you want to go out again.” I’ve gotten this line before. I’ve also had more than one boyfriend tell me, “I didn’t think you were interested on the first few dates.” I smile a lot, laugh at their jokes, ask them questions, and thank them enthusiastically for anything purchased. I linger until THEY call it a night (I am afraid of ending the date first for fear of seeming uninterested). I can’t imagine showing more interest unless I grabbed them and kissed them. Halp?! Submitted April 15, 2019 at 03:30AM I just had a first date (from a dating app) and the last thing he said to me as we parted on my doorstep was “Let me know if you want to go out again.”I’ve gotten this line before.I’ve also had more than one boyfriend tell me, “I didn’t think you were interested on the first few dates.”I smile a lot, laugh at their jokes, ask them questions, and thank the...

I've been on the receiving end of this three times. I don't know how or why. The first two made me really uncomfortable as I could not return the feeling and knew it. This last time, I'm really hoping I get there. I just have such a hang up with it and those bags I'm dragging with me! Anyway, if it is one sided, but there is some possibility of it growing, how long would you stick around? Submitted April 15, 2019 at 04:20AM I've been on the receiving end of this three times. I don't know how or why. The first two made me really uncomfortable as I could not return the feeling and knew it. This last time, I'm really hoping I get there. I just have such a hang up with it and those bags I'm dragging with me!Anyway, if it is one sided, but there is some possibility of it growing, how long would you stick around?

30m, I don’t get a whole lot of hits. I did meet someone great about a month ago, but it didn’t work out. So this week I’ve gotten back on the wagon and I’ve just been swiping like crazy. The lack of positive feedback sucks. I did go out Friday night to try to put myself out there. I didn’t meet anyone though which was disheartening. Which lead me back to swiping nonstop. Edited my profiles a couple times. Yeah it’s been a rough weekend. Thanks for reading, I’ll take responses off the air. Submitted April 15, 2019 at 05:55AM 30m, I don’t get a whole lot of hits. I did meet someone great about a month ago, but it didn’t work out. So this week I’ve gotten back on the wagon and I’ve just been swiping like crazy.The lack of positive feedback sucks. I did go out Friday night to try to put myself out there. I didn’t meet anyone though which was disheartening.Which lead me back to swiping nonstop. Edited my profiles a couple times. Yeah it’s been a rough weekend. Thanks for reading, ...

A few weeks ago I participated in a discussion on my local subreddit about how much OLD sucks. The result of that discussion was a woman pretty blindly asking me out. I said yes and it turned out that she was an amazing, beautiful, fun person. I took her to my favorite place in the city, and then to a dinner. We had, as far as I know, a great time. The thing is, I have taken a job in another city and will be moving soon, so nothing was really ever going to come from it... ​ But in the days leading up we texted a bit and talked and had a good vibe going on. After the date? Nothing. Not a single response even to indicate she had a good time. This was 2 weeks ago, and I'm still..hung up on it. I haven't texted her more than a single "I had such a great time." And to inquire about a job interview I knew she had the next day. But zero response. I'm not the type to hound someone who doesn't respond but... it just sucks. ​ I'm a really great guy, and I...

As I lay here on this blow up mattress I hear her moaning as her bf is fucking here. Man I need to get laid her moans are getting me hard af :( Submitted April 15, 2019 at 05:00AM As I lay here on this blow up mattress I hear her moaning as her bf is fucking here. Man I need to get laid her moans are getting me hard af :(

I don't know if this is the right place to post about this but I've always had really strong sexual urges. Lately it's gotten so bad that it's honestly just making me depressed. I want to take it slow with my girlfriend, maybe even save ourselves for marriage as stupid and corny as it sounds, but I can't if as soon as I see her I'm thinking if 12 different ways to plow her while she eats another girl out. Sometimes I even hear a little voice at the back of my head saying that if I can have sex with her, I should just do it with someone else and it scares the shit out of me. I don't want to do with anyone else I just want it with her. I just feel unhappy and because of them I can barely think straight. I just want it to stop. Can anyone offer some advice? Submitted April 15, 2019 at 05:03AM I don't know if this is the right place to post about this but I've always had really strong sexual urges. Lately it's gotten so bad that it's hones...

I was with my girlfriend and we were making out when she straddle me. Things got heated. She started grinding into my pelvis. She ended up having an orgasm and told me she wanted me inside of her. I started rubbing her clit and then she came again. ​ I wasn't expecting her to orgasm from dry humphing and didn't know what to do. We haven't actually had sex yet and...I don't know. I thought about trying to have sex after but she got all cuddly and wanted to stare at me...I'm very confused about what happened....was that sex? Submitted April 15, 2019 at 05:03AM I was with my girlfriend and we were making out when she straddle me. Things got heated. She started grinding into my pelvis. She ended up having an orgasm and told me she wanted me inside of her. I started rubbing her clit and then she came again.​I wasn't expecting her to orgasm from dry humphing and didn't know what to do. We haven't actually had sex yet and...I don't know. I thought ...

Keep having this issue— my bf stimulates my clit with either his fingers or mouth and it feels good but right when I’m about to climax my clit feels painfully sensitive I have to tell him to stop. It’s become a thing and we don’t know how to fix it. He’s tried different techniques and tries to avoid directly touching the clit itself but it still keeps popping out and is sensitive in a bad way. Is there anything he or I can do to help my clit feel good and not like a raw wound? Vibrator, lube, ...? I know other women have this problem. Please share your experiences with me!! Submitted April 15, 2019 at 05:22AM Keep having this issue— my bf stimulates my clit with either his fingers or mouth and it feels good but right when I’m about to climax my clit feels painfully sensitive I have to tell him to stop. It’s become a thing and we don’t know how to fix it. He’s tried different techniques and tries to avoid directly touching the clit itself but it still keeps popping out and is ...

I'm a little drunk so excuse any errors, but I've had this for at least 2 years now. Its about a 1cm tag. I don't ever recall having a problem with hemorrhoids but I have had issues with the tearing in that area since I was a teenager. The tag just seems to be getting bigger and it makes me feel like shit, pun intended. I haven't had sex for a while and not sure I really want to knowing someone will eventually see that part of my body. But I also know getting it removed isn't advisable, which fucking sucks and I'll have to just live with it. I'm still considering talking to a doctor to figure out my options though. So my question is, would this bother you? I know assholes aren't exactly the epitome of sexiness but I hate that mine no longer looks how its supposed to. Especially at 20 years old when my parts are held up to these weird porn star standards. I guess I just need some reassurance, but I really hate this. Any comments from other women with th...

I’m not really sure what I’m looking for by posting this story of mine. For the most part, I’ve tried to put my past behind me and “keep right on”... until the end of the road. Well here I am, tired and weary, needing to just get my story and past off my chest. I know I’m risking a lot posting this on a site like Reddit but honestly.. whatever happens, happens. Typing it all out may be all I need. I mean eventually I’ll get to end and perhaps decide not to click the “Post” button. Before you even ask, yes I’ve sought and gotten some sort of professional help for what I’ve been through. I been to a few therapists, doctors, psychiatrists, support groups, you name it. The only real place i received any acceptance (which is all that I really want) was in a smaller support group but even then I often felt like the odd man out and not taken as seriously. Like my case wasn’t worthy enough to be considered serious or something like that. I told my mother most of what happened because she’s...