The end of the date was so underwhelming

I'm a little confused after a date last night. For a little background, a couple that is good friends of mine asked me if I wanted to meet a single female friend of theirs. (We are both over 50 and divorced.) They set up a card party with a bunch of other couples. After the party, I asked for her number which she entered into my phone. I called her a day later and left a message asking if she'd like to get together to talk, figuring we didn't get a lot of time together at the party. I didn't hear back so I called the next day and left another similar message. I didn't hear anything for almost 2 weeks. Figured I failed the audition and was okay with it.

This past Monday I get a text from her saying she didn't realize she had a bunch of voicemail messages on her phone, 2 of which were mine. She apologized and suggested we get together during the week for a drink. We met at a restaurant for drinks, and it ended up being 3 drinks and 3 hours of conversation. It was fun. Laughing at each other's comments and a bit of physical contact when laughing or emphasizing a point. She seemed into me as I am was her. We left it that we would maybe do a hike on Saturday.

Friday, I text her to set up plans for the hike. She texts back confirming the plan and adds that her friend has tickets to see a band at a bar Saturday night and can't go, would I like to go? I said "Sure!" Weather was great on Saturday so I pick her up, head to the trail and have a nice early afternoon hike. Afterward, I drop her off and agree to come back to get her at 7:30 to head to the show. We get to the bar around 8 to find the band won't start until 9. We get drinks, talk, meet some of each other's friends. The band was good but loud, limiting some conversation. Occasionally I would put my arm around her waist as I leaned in to talk to her. She would bump into me a little moving to the music. Nothing overly affectionate either way. A little before 11, she asks if I'm ready to head out. By then, I was.

So we head back towards her house, me wondering what will happen. I'm hopeful for at least a kiss goodnight. I pull up in front of her house and put the car in park. She looks at the time on my radio and makes a comment that I won't get home too late. What? Then she unbuckles her seat belt and leans toward me. I'm thinking maybe a kiss and turn my face towards her. Her head quickly passes to the right and I get a friendly hug. She says "Thanks for coming out tonight." Also, if I want to do something this week to contact her but do it early because her schedule fills up fast, that she'll be out of town Friday and some of Saturday. I said "OK, I'll let you know. Have a good night." then drove home. in my head, I felt like I couldn't get away fast enough.

I'm confused. The end of the date was so underwhelming. I wasn't hoping to make out, just a kiss. Is she interested in me that way? I hardly feel like pursuing it anymore. My gut feeling isn't good. Am I being too harsh? Should I give it more time and try again? Thanks for reading.

Submitted April 14, 2019 at 03:10PM

I'm a little confused after a date last night. For a little background, a couple that is good friends of mine asked me if I wanted to meet a single female friend of theirs. (We are both over 50 and divorced.) They set up a card party with a bunch of other couples. After the party, I asked for her number which she entered into my phone. I called her a day later and left a message asking if she'd like to get together to talk, figuring we didn't get a lot of time together at the party. I didn't hear back so I called the next day and left another similar message. I didn't hear anything for almost 2 weeks. Figured I failed the audition and was okay with it.This past Monday I get a text from her saying she didn't realize she had a bunch of voicemail messages on her phone, 2 of which were mine. She apologized and suggested we get together during the week for a drink. We met at a restaurant for drinks, and it ended up being 3 drinks and 3 hours of conversation. It was fun. Laughing at each other's comments and a bit of physical contact when laughing or emphasizing a point. She seemed into me as I am was her. We left it that we would maybe do a hike on Saturday.Friday, I text her to set up plans for the hike. She texts back confirming the plan and adds that her friend has tickets to see a band at a bar Saturday night and can't go, would I like to go? I said "Sure!" Weather was great on Saturday so I pick her up, head to the trail and have a nice early afternoon hike. Afterward, I drop her off and agree to come back to get her at 7:30 to head to the show. We get to the bar around 8 to find the band won't start until 9. We get drinks, talk, meet some of each other's friends. The band was good but loud, limiting some conversation. Occasionally I would put my arm around her waist as I leaned in to talk to her. She would bump into me a little moving to the music. Nothing overly affectionate either way. A little before 11, she asks if I'm ready to head out. By then, I was.So we head back towards her house, me wondering what will happen. I'm hopeful for at least a kiss goodnight. I pull up in front of her house and put the car in park. She looks at the time on my radio and makes a comment that I won't get home too late. What? Then she unbuckles her seat belt and leans toward me. I'm thinking maybe a kiss and turn my face towards her. Her head quickly passes to the right and I get a friendly hug. She says "Thanks for coming out tonight." Also, if I want to do something this week to contact her but do it early because her schedule fills up fast, that she'll be out of town Friday and some of Saturday. I said "OK, I'll let you know. Have a good night." then drove home. in my head, I felt like I couldn't get away fast enough.I'm confused. The end of the date was so underwhelming. I wasn't hoping to make out, just a kiss. Is she interested in me that way? I hardly feel like pursuing it anymore. My gut feeling isn't good. Am I being too harsh? Should I give it more time and try again? Thanks for reading.