I'm trying to figure out how this is related to asexuality, but honest I am clueless. Reddit is weird sometimes. November 12, 2020 at 12:04AM

Oh my goodness this is so sweet! I’m really happy for the two of you, congratulations on your engagement and thank you for sharing!💜 November 11, 2020 at 11:58PM

My view (no personal experience...yet. I'm ace and a theoretical but so far never a practicing poly) is that the link between them is that being ace/aro and being poly both cause you to question the heteronormative societal view of relationships in a different way from how you question it if you're gay/bi/lesbian only, or how you don't question it if you're straight. What is this view? I would describe it as the societal expectation that the most important relationship someone can have is a sexual and romantic one between a man and woman, leading to marriage and children. Being gay/bi/lesbian brings up the question, why does it have to be a man and a woman? But for ace/aro/poly, it goes further. Example meta questions about this that are natural to ask for both ace/aro and poly people: what is a relationship? Why should a relationship have to include sex? Why does it also need to include romance? Why does one relationship need to be the most important? Why does it ne...

Hmm, I think I understand what you're feeling. Maybe not exactly, but to a point. The labels I use are bialterous aroace [I am also polyam]. Ive got alterous/aesthetic/sensual attracted to guys/enbys/women. But not really romantic and definatly not sexual [sex repulsed]. I guess i am aego [I'd be homo-aego, even though I'm bi, I don't think about women at all after hours if you catch what im throwing] but I just don't use it as a label, cause i dont see why anyone should know how i get off, lol. Anyway, I personally dont care a lot about labels, I use them so its easier to talk about things and to be a part of somthing with like minds, ect. Honeslty, i would just stick with asexual, demi-heteromantic, and bi/pan-aego, it doesnt have to mean you are sexually or romantically atracted to everyone. You know your feelings best. Maybe others will have better insight, hope this at least helps a little. :] November 11, 2020 at 11:53PM

This piece is well written. I relate to all the feelings portrayed too. Honestly being asexual is so difficult. Questioning your sexuality every day and trying to convince yourself that's just because you're depressed. Fuck society. November 11, 2020 at 11:52PM

I think the only one i think of is that one guy on pornhub who just does normal everyday things with no sex at all. Or at least i think that exists based on the memes i have seen. November 11, 2020 at 11:49PM

Just got one because of this post and mine was only 1$ I’m so happy, they also had a small/medium/large for sizes so that’s helpful too!! November 11, 2020 at 11:47PM

Such a feeling! November 11, 2020 at 11:46PM

It kinda seems like you're trying to fit into a label, my best advice is just listen to your body November 11, 2020 at 11:38PM

Remember. You are valid, important and accepted in the asexual community. You are one us. November 11, 2020 at 11:32PM

I think the question is a bit off. There can be asexual people in a polyamorus relationship, polyamory is love between 3+ people and does not mean all members have to sleep together. I am not polyamorus myself so I may be off but I see no reason an ace can't be part of a polyamorus relationship November 11, 2020 at 11:31PM

I'm not sure there really is a link. I'm asexual and polyamorous, but most of the asexuals I've met aren't. November 11, 2020 at 11:31PM

I mean I pee out of my belly button but that does require a surgery. wooo mitrofanoff November 11, 2020 at 11:31PM

You are right, writing is so helpful. I often write texts of this kind, so I am pretty sympathetic to them. Great to hear you are chilling now! November 11, 2020 at 11:29PM

Hell yeah! November 11, 2020 at 11:27PM

They’re adorable and I see a Lynx point- Ahem. r/asexuality would like to collectively arrange a cuddle session with the cats in approximately 2ish years or whenever things are safe. November 11, 2020 at 11:26PM

More info still needed. What treats do they like? November 11, 2020 at 11:22PM

Thanks, dude! It’s been a few months since I discovered everything so I’m chilling now but I guess writing helps me get it all out so it was kinda cathartic November 11, 2020 at 11:20PM

Right! Also, why don’t boobs only grow when necessary? I don’t want them on my body! November 11, 2020 at 11:20PM

I have no words really but this text is really powerful and well-written. I wish you the best and I hope you (will) accept yourself and feel better soon 💜 November 11, 2020 at 11:14PM

It's not even a homonym. It's asexual reproduction, not asexual. It's an adjective not a noun. Do they think heterosexual means that you are the act of sperm fertilizing egg, because that's heterosexual reproduction. We're just changing the word 'reproduction' for 'attraction' November 11, 2020 at 11:11PM

Im sex repulsed. I love sensual stuff like touching and kissing. And acidentally turning on my buddy makes me feel a bit guilty because i dont want to go further. Ive been in that situation more times then id like to admit. I'm just a bit clueless untill the situation turns. Kissing doesnt have to lead to sex. Relationships dont have to be sexual. Non sexual relationships can be sensual. Everybody is diferent, and what we do or dont want to do solo or with a consenting partner is nobodys buisness. Thes labels are just to help us and bring us together with likeminded people who understand what were going through. They are not meant to limit us. November 11, 2020 at 11:07PM

It looks like you're dooming yourself to failure before even starting. November 11, 2020 at 11:07PM