Major work crush. 99% sure he feels the same way. Been flirting for the past month and tonight spent the entire afternoon/evening talking and flirting at a work event. Was hoping he'd ask me for a drink afterwards but he didn't. We left together which he initiated and I was almost sure he was gonna ask me to meet at the local bar but another co-worker caught up to us and it didn't happen. So now I think I just need to ask him out. But I don't know how! Do I text him and ask? He kept joking tonight saying how he's comfortable showing the other more playful side of him so I was thinking of texting and being like I like that side of you- I wanna see more of it, let's meet at such-and-such a place. We don't really text, we mostly just talk at work. Or do I wait till in-person?!?! Wait till we are together again or make a way to go talk to him?!?! I've never in my 33 years asked someone out... Submitted May 11, 2019 at 04:32AM Major work crush. 99%

I (F22) started dating this great guy (M19) for about 4-5 months now (yikes to that age gap amirite lol) At first I didn’t know what to feel for him. I was “talking” to someone else at the time (M26) that kept leaving me on read for weeks at a time and never returning calls even though he told me he would. Honest to God I would send him the cutest selfies and would barely get a response. I was struggling with this while this sweet guy started getting to know me more (even though I’ve known him for years now) and he was almost like a shoulder cry on about this stupid 26yr old guy. One day he mentioned something about wanting to hang out and we did and I honestly told him that I would date him if the circumstances were different but long story short I ended up ghosting this other guy, which I don’t feel guilty about in the slightest coz whatever, and dating this guy. It was honestly the most confusing start because I was getting over the other and I’ve known him for years. I couldn’t

So like me and my boyf have been planning a double date at the beach with his friend and his friends gf. Everything was going good until like the weathers not gonna be good for the beach, my mom didn’t let me go anyway and to top it off I just got my period for the first time in a year.. so like I can’t really go. So he gets mad and just starts telling me how much of a shit year he’s had (he has, his grandma died, his family is trying to get him to move out, he feels like it’s his fault his moms relationship with her boyfriend is going sour, his car broke, he has a ticket to pay, etc) it’s just a lot for him lately, and I understand that. I really did want to go but the circumstances are like weighing me down not to go. So like am I wrong for canceling bc I know I’m gonna be in constant pain? I’ve been trying my best to be there for him. Like picking him up from his aunts house 2 hours away, taking him out to eat, helping him anyway I can and loving him all I can. Like I just can’t go

Sigh.. I think I’m leading this guy on/I’m confused with my feelings. This guy and I met 3 months ago on a dating app, I know.. Things are really good, he makes me laugh all the time and we get along good and whenever we do stuff, it’s really cute and I enjoy it. I’m just seriously not ready for a relationship and it scares me. The thought of being in a relationship turns my stomach and I can’t do it. I enjoy what we do but I don’t think I enjoy it enough to be committed to him like that. I don’t want it to stop but I also don’t want it to lead to a relationship. :// like I said, I enjoy him as a person and everything but bleh. What should I do?? Submitted May 11, 2019 at 05:31AM Sigh.. I think I’m leading this guy on/I’m confused with my feelings. This guy and I met 3 months ago on a dating app, I know.. Things are really good, he makes me laugh all the time and we get along good and whenever we do stuff, it’s really cute and I enjoy it. I’m just seriously not ready for a relat

I'm a guy in my late 20s. So, I'm on bumble, tinder, and hinge. It's sort of rare that I get a match. I typically open up with a casual question or joke. 90% of the time they either unmatch or don't respond. I've gotten a girl's number before, but she flaked out when I called her. I'm just thinking online dating is rigged; here is what I see: ______________________________________________________________ 5'6 little guys claiming they're 6 feet tall. Guy lying about how rich they are. Even lying about their degrees. Submitted May 11, 2019 at 05:31AM I'm a guy in my late 20s.So, I'm on bumble, tinder, and hinge. It's sort of rare that I get a match.I typically open up with a casual question or joke.90% of the time they either unmatch or don't respond.I've gotten a girl's number before, but she flaked out when I called her.I'm just thinking online dating is rigged; here is what I see:__________________________

So I (M 22) used to be decent at starting up a convo with women back when i was 17-20 but i went through a faze where i just stopped cuz i was going through personal problems and jumped off the "train" for about 2 years. Now everytime i talk to women i start out great but lose them after awhile. My friends say its cuz i get to goofy and blow it. Any suggestions? Submitted May 11, 2019 at 05:34AM So I (M 22) used to be decent at starting up a convo with women back when i was 17-20 but i went through a faze where i just stopped cuz i was going through personal problems and jumped off the "train" for about 2 years. Now everytime i talk to women i start out great but lose them after awhile. My friends say its cuz i get to goofy and blow it. Any suggestions?

I went on a date earlier this week with a really cool girl, and we both a great time. We met on a dating app and we met up pretty quickly. We had a lot in common in terms of interests and values. I actually felt really comfortable talking to her and physically she was my type. She even gave me her number in the middle of the date without me asking. Everything was going well, I can't think of anything wrong that happened. ​ I tried to set up a date for this weekend since our schedules didn't line up during the week. I got hit with "I had time to think about it, and I didn't feel a spark with you. I really hate to say it because you're really funny and awesome. But don't worry I'm sure some lucky lady will sweep you up in no time!" ​ I'm really glad that she was honest with me, but this is the third time I've been told that I'm a great guy but they didn't feel a spark. It kind of feels like being told "hey you're good...but

There is this girl who I am quite close with and have been friends with for years and have had feelings in some way for a while but have developed into far more over time. The only issue is that she has a boyfriend. I have met the guy and I think he is a nice guy but knowing her I don’t think he is a good fit. I won’t get into why because my personal bias is obviously a factor. But anyway I have hung out with her just us many times while she has been dating him and we click very well which is a huge reason why I have developed these feelings. I really want to tell how I feel but at the same time know I can’t do that because she is in a relationship and I care a lot about her being happy and she seems to be happy with this guy so I don’t want to mess that up for her. It is unbearable to watch her be with him but I don’t want to ruin her happiness. At the same time she is very important to me and I don’t want to lose her in my life. I am not really sure how to proceed in a way that woul

So I (20f) have been talking to Steve (22m) since about March. I met him first day we arrived at the beach on spring break when my friends boyfriend and Steve were already staying and leaving the next morning. We hung out all night and he flirted with me a decent bit but never really made a move. I followed him on Instagram and then he asked for my number. We hung out as soon as I got back from the beach. We proceeded to hang out first at his house then I I went to his house and stayed the night. Then he came to a party at my house with all of my friends. Then a group of us went to an all day concert together a week or so ago. We used to text a decent amount but neither of us really use our phones. Recently he had been blowing me off a lot last minute. We are both In college and at first he said finals were a lot and then it was all his friends are graduating so he has a ton going in and then after all this he came to my house for a game night 2 nights ago. I asked him to go on a hi

I spent the last 7 days in vacations, and met a really nice French girl, with whom I could certainly imagine my life, kids family all this. The only problem is that she lives en northeastern France, and I live far far away, like 1300 kilometers. I don’t know what to do Things were going real good between us. Do we even have a chance in the future? Submitted May 11, 2019 at 06:01AM I spent the last 7 days in vacations, and met a really nice French girl, with whom I could certainly imagine my life, kids family all this. The only problem is that she lives en northeastern France, and I live far far away, like 1300 kilometers. I don’t know what to do Things were going real good between us. Do we even have a chance in the future?

20M mutually into 22F. Way less experienced than her. Work friends before but always flirty. Lots of similar interests. ​ Took her on a date dancing, pulled away at peak point to kiss - only now I know she's the shy type but I was getting mixed signals. Interaction was great and chemistry was great so was gonna ask her back to my place, but she fell asleep in the car on the way back which killed the move. ​ Went to a concert with some friends together recently, she was giving signals but it wasn't a situation to get flirty in. Chemistry reaffirmed but fizzling out. ​ Do I shoot another shot or call it for social circle sake and fizzling chemistry? She is graduating. Submitted May 11, 2019 at 06:16AM 20M mutually into 22F. Way less experienced than her. Work friends before but always flirty. Lots of similar interests.​Took her on a date dancing, pulled away at peak point to kiss - only now I know she's the shy type but I was getting mixed signals. Interaction wa

So I have a problem. I feel like, when I approach a guy and start making conversation with him (very easy for me to do), all this leads to is him faking interest in me because I've shown my cards. He knows that if I didn't find him attractive or interesting, I wouldn't have approached. ​ So what he does is, he will pretend to want a relationship, keep showing up, asking me on dates, "the chase," and getting really into learning more about me. He will stick around for months and wait months of dating to hookup. ​ And he does this to essential never commit to me when I bring up "the talk" after a couple months. Basically trying to turn me into a FWB. ​ Should I never be approaching men because of this happening? Submitted May 11, 2019 at 06:23AM So I have a problem. I feel like, when I approach a guy and start making conversation with him (very easy for me to do), all this leads to is him faking interest in me because I've shown my cards.

We clicked pretty much at the beginning of our junior year and pronounced each other best friends at the start of our final year in high school. In just the span of 1 year we have experienced so much turmoil and change together that our bond has become truly unbreakable. Early this year she lost her mother which nearly ruined her. While her other friends rallied around her (as expected), I took it upon myself to make sure she always felt comforted. We began talking even more extensively, and eventually started face timing each other daily after school. This all has been enjoyable for the both of us over the last 5 months. However, things have progressed to the point where I fall asleep on the phone with her every night (she often has trouble sleeping). It has gotten to the point where if the call fails during the night, she'll call back until I answer and we fall asleep again. All this I have no immediate issue with, but I question where this is leading to. Where do we go from

I thought I was right for a long time. I’m far enough removed from a lot of what happened between him and I and I believe I understand where he was at finally, truly, and objectively. My dad’s cancer and everything I was trying to get through (starting my own segment of my family business in the city, closing a years worth of full time business part time, doing an undergraduate program and a masters in policy that touched on so much human suffering in terms of homelessness, incarceration, chronic pain and poverty) was clouding my ability to see our relationship rationally. Magic: Our first year was magic. My ex, let’s call him “C”, and I literally lived in a local sorority’s house on campus, would have fun running around the grocery store and talking to a degree I think a lot of people refuse to go to. He had graduated the year before and was working in a decent job. We literally were each other’s twins. We built each other to a degree that didn’t even make sense how it was possi

Title says it all. I noticed my girlfriend was acting weird after a trip with her friends out of town. She had never given me a reason to question her trust before but she was acting "off". When I calmly asked she said I was being paranoid. It wasn't until I had evidence in my hand that she admitted to texting and who knows what else. Ever since that incident I can't help but think she's talking to someone else. From a dead bedroom, to her acting anxious and just overall secretive it's really taking a toll on me mentally. I've asked and she replies with it's just who she is and if I can't accept that then that's that. It's gotten to the point where I think she's on a bluetooth headphone talking to someone and masturbating at night. She's hardly ever asleep when I come to bed but acts like she is. I don't have a clue as of what to do. We have a 3 year old son whom we both love very much but I think I've reached my wits end.

I love my friends with all my heart. They are kinda the most important people in my life. I don't have any siblings, or a significant other. So aside from my mom, no one has a bigger place in my life. We are a group of 4 guys. I have constantly told them over the years that I love them, they are like brothers to me, and my best friends. Here and there, I got the same or similar things casually said to me. I love hugs and feel so connected when I get to embrace a good friend. They don't really care much for hugs. In fact, I think they're a little against them. I know these aren't "guy" things that macho manly bros do... But I want a goddamn bromance, I see it happen everywhere! In comes the last year. My mental health took a turn for the worse and I relied on them TOO much. Embarrassed to go to my mom, they were my only outlet. I called them at too many dark times. And during mood swings, emotional outbursts, angry thoughts, and feelings of suicide, I overwh

Imma keep this short, but basically shortly after my ex and I broke up, about 5 months ago, she started talking to this guy. In fact, from the last time we talked (when we “broke up”) before I saw her again, she had seen this guy in between then, and we hadn’t seen each other in 2 weeks because she went on a family vacation. The first weekend she got back she was with this kid. Anyway, turns out she met him on tinder, and on top of this he was transferring to my school. It really upset me because it seemed like she threw away like 2 years of a relationship between us for this guy she met on tinder. And she was trying to stay friends with me while hiding the fact that she was hanging with this guy, so I told her I don’t want to talk anymore, I figured she was too far gone and I couldn’t get her back at this point. She did everything she could to convince me they were just friends, but I didn’t believe her. Anyway I stopped talking to her, I told her not to talk to me and she didn’t ho

We are both autistic. This woman never said she likes me as a boyfriend and explicitly said she only likes me as a friend and ever will, after I had told her that I like her as a girlfriend. However, her brother and our therapist told me she likes me as a boyfriend and was wary of dating anyone only because her previous ex inappropriately touched her. Our therapist also told me her mom told her she likes me as a boyfriend, and she and my mom told me that we are going on dates and she will later want to be my girlfriend if I am friends with her and do not call them dates now. Going forward, I never mentioned that I intend to be her boyfriend. She dropped obvious hints like initiating to hug and hold my hand, asking “Are you nervous?” on a date, a vibe, saying “after we are just friends” she can drive me around and asked what if we are an actual dating couple in the future. After 2 months and before our 10th date, my mom called her my girlfriend, so I asked her to kiss me because I wan

TRIGGER WARNING FOR DEPRESSION/ ANXIETY/ PANIC ATTACKS. BRIEF MENTION OF UNDERAGE DRINKING. I am 15 and nonbinary (they/them). My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years (May 26) A bit of backstory on both of us: He is 15 and FTM trans in an unsupportive house hold. He’s been dealing with depression for about a year and a half. I have also been dealing with depression and anxietyfor almost 2 years. The thing is with my boyfriend, he isn’t an “empath” where I look at someone and say “that person looks vaguely unhappy I’ll go try to help”, he needs to be directly told if someone is upset and even then he has a hard time giving support. recently I haven’t been able to give much because of my own mental state and my best friend has started to support him more and more. It’s gotten to the point where I talk to him at best once a week and see him at best once a month. He can’t deal well with me not initiating conversations, and I can’t initiate conversations because of how em

I asked this girl out on a date today to this event she told me about earlier in the day. I thought it was the perfect place and time for me to make a move since it was at an event that you'd generally bring a date to. She said no and wanted to be friends. About an hour later she texts ME about how she has no one to go to this event with. I try to change the subject but she then continues to complain about how she has no one to go with. I ask her "would you maybe want to go as friends to (event)?" Texts back "no I'm going with (insert male name) thanks though." I was surprisingly not all that beat up over it. Here's what really pissed me off. She then goes on to tell me how much I would've hated to go to this event and how she won't "succumb" me to such a boring time at this event because it was at a college I transferred away from. She claimed that I was done with my time at that college and had no reason to go back and that I would

My best friend just send me video of my wife kissing and walking hand in hand exiting a motel with a man I know.she told me she had a nephrology meeting that day (she is a MD). At the moment I am out of the country ,working at a resort I own (passed down the family ) and my 2 sons (ages 18 and 19) are learning to manage the place. The crazy thing is the guy is a private eye surgeon who stays over at the resort every year holds meetings with over 400 guests . This means that a lot has been happening whilst I was busy managing the business. I am now considering not going back and relinquishing my greencard and paying emigration tax at the Embassy. Calling her out on it and asking for a divorce without alimony , she can keep the house and all her savings , I have non over there anyway.. My boys think I am due to go back to their mom in 2 weeks.i feel like they are going to sense something is up at some point . I don't want my son's to hate their mom , how do I navigate this

TL;DR: Alexandra broke up with my friend Heidi after Heidi didn't pay rent for 4 months, and Heidi now has to live with her abusive parents while dealing with a chronic pain disorder and really bad anxiety. Heidi keeps making bad decisions and keeps trying to contact her ex with really flimsy excuses (like rabbit videos). Heidi felt like she was entitled to a relationship with Alexandra because Alexandra was supposed to keep her away from her abusive home. - - - - My friend Heidi is angry about her ex-girlfriend Alexandra breaking up with her nearly 6 months ago. Heidi has seemed to become increasingly unhinged: she uses drugs to self-medicate her medical condition as well as mental health, and has diagnosed herself with Asperger's. Heidi (F/22), Alexandra (F/22?), Sarah (F/21) and I (F/23) went to the same college in the United States. We were all in the same sorority. I was Heidi's "big sister," and felt responsible to help her as best as I could. Heidi was

I don’t know where else to go so I figured why not try here. This is gonna be a tough one to unpack, so here goes nothing. I’m a Male 19 freshman at uni and I play video games a friend of mine recommended that we get this new game coming to Xbox. And we start looking for a group to join up with. We find this group and that’s when I meet her (F23) well just call her Sena she is in a different county than me but same time zone. We join up in a party and things seem to hit off really well I stick with this group for a while, until we get our buts kicked by a better group. I message the guy who beat us and say that his group is amazing he says that I should join his group. I agree, I needed to get better at PVP to protect my closer friends, her included. I agree and I want to take Sena and friend with me. The group leader flips out that I try to take Sena. I get kicked out, the rest of that group realizes that this group leader is a control freak. I start messaging Sena more and more thro

So ya basically my parents have finally decided to divorce. I’m super sad but I think it’s the right decision for everyone. My dad had a traumatic brain injury 5 years ago due to a bicycle accident and nothing has been the same since. The event was traumatic for our whole family but my dads frontal lobe was affected by the brain injury and his personality has changed drastically. The problem is, he disagrees, refuses therapy, and is extremely stubborn in general. I have begged him to get therapy, to consider that his behavior is affected by his brain injury, but he refuses to even confront the issue. My mom is beside herself at losing her husband and she’s tried to do everything for him, but their relationship is emotionally abusive at best at this point. My dad has become controlling and gets mad if she does anything he considers wrong, from not taking out the trash enough to hanging out with her friends too often...it’s insane. I know she’ll be better off without him for sure, but I

A little bit of a backstory before I get started. I am a 19 year old Male and I just completed my first year of college. About a year ago before I left for college (5 hours away from my home town) I started having problems with my family and my girlfriend. My parents had been rude to my girlfriend and I. There has been constant arguments since and nothing has gotten better but rather in fact gotten worse. I’ve been avoiding my parents, being home as little as possible, and when going to college, not even talking to them. This has been an ongoing issue and it’s still a problem. Anyways, my girlfriend and I have been arguing for the past year. We’ve argued a lot about my parents and what is best for us. We’ve fought about numerous things. (My girlfriend is a senior in high school graduating) We have argued about long distance, trust issues, and so much more but I’m going to keep out more of the personal issues. Over the past week of posting this I have been finishing my finals and had p

TL;DR: We always fight for small things and say toxic things toward each other When we have a fight, I'm often the one to take a step back first and go sweet and easy on her so that we are not tensed anymore. And sometimes I expect that she would do the same thing for me, because I'm still childish and cannot be rational all the time to take a step down. Last night, I had a thing with my mom and I was pretty upset. I confronted my girlfriend with the problem (through text) and I accidentally said something that hurt my girlfriend. She then lost her temper and patience after that while I was just wanting to be cared for and listen to something sweet from her. So things exploded from that, no one wanted to back down. So I blocked her (which is another stupid, thoughtless thing from me to do) and we went to sleep. Often our fights would end after a sleep, but somehow this morning I still felt very pissed for not getting what I expected from her (which is letting me win and cal