Diary of Emotional Abuse & Neglect in Marriage

05/07/2019 at 10 pm,
We were craving pancakes after watching Tacoma FD. Matt forces me to pat his head and threaten to add more minutes for not patting in a way that pleases him, or else he's not gonna "take me" to iHop. I didn't want to give him the satisfaction of affection because he rarely give me any through out the day everyday; so I got up and left the couch due to his disrespect. Thanks but I can take myself out.

05/07/2019 at 10:30 pm,
It's our 10 years anniversary in a couple days. I asked Matt if he would like to invite friends and family for a dinner together or go on a trip. He said 'no, 10 years together is not that big of a deal in America; just gifts are okay.' Fine by me, so I found a gift for him and consulted him. He said he likes it, the few hundred dollars worth of couples retreat. However, he had planned no gift for me, so I suggested a few: a trip to Jurassic world in Disneyland, or a home kit for trying to have a baby together. He said no we're not doing that, we can discuss that tomorrow in marriage counseling. He said he doesn't wanna talk right now because I'm gonna get upset. The fact that I got upset over pancake last night was prove he said. He has one excuse after another about not having baby. Once again, I feel like I'm wasting my life with him achieving nothing together. I went to bed upset thinking there will be no celebration for our 10 years.

05/08/2019 at 10 am,
Matt woke up asking if I still wanna go to iHop, I said 'not anymore'. Because I'm still upset about not having 10 years celebration, and that I'm the only who's planning, the only one who cared. He then left home by himself for hours without saying a word or text while I was getting dressed from shower. We met on my way out for brunch at 2:30 pm, he was just coming home. I did not ask or said a word about his whereabouts, I just wanted to get my food. He proceed to harass me and insisted to tag along without further explanation or apology about his earlier whereabouts. He did not seem to recognize this behavior is a problem in relationship, yet he would interrogate my whereabouts in every little details when I had already told him I was running business errands.

05/08/2019 at 2:30 pm,
Out of nowhere with no previous discussion, Matt told me on the way driving to marriage counseling that he already had planned and decided to go out overnight "with his brother" this weekend, alone; and that I'm not invited or being expected, because I will be working over the weekend he said. It appears that he had already decided for me, without asking. Does that mean it's okay for me to travel alone too without any discussion or invitation to my partner? Because according to him, I can make decision for him too, right? Matthew did not seem to recognize this behavioral problem either. This is not the first time he tried to pull this trick on me to try to go out alone; we've already talked about this multiple times before that we are married, we're not roommates, it's not working obviously.

05/08/2019 at 3:30 pm,
Matt started calling me names and cursed at me during a marriage counseling section, because I wouldn't 'stop being upset about our 10 years anniversary and move forward'. I left and go home by myself due to his extreme disrespect in front of others.

05/08/2019 at 11 pm,
Matt confronted me in an aggressive manner, and screamed at me to get out of his office after seeing notifications from an unknown internet stranger on my phone trying to contact me.

05/09/2019 at 12:30 pm,
Didn't go to gym together like we have planned. I woke up early to get ready and was all dressed in gym clothes by 10:30 am doing desk work. Matt woke up and left by himself without saying a word, again. Soon after he left, I received a phone call from the marriage counselor saying Matt wanted a section together. I said no I'm not going because I did not hear a word from Matt about this. He came home at 2 pm and said 'Hi' to me, asking if we can can have a serious talk and shop groceries together. I looked at him with my face all twisted thinking "Are you fucking serious?" Unfortunately, he forgot I have a weekly dog walk at 2 pm. He insisted to tag along again. I took a deep breath and used all my best effort to suppress my angry to said he is welcomed. I seriously think that he started talking to me again because he needed me to share the grocery bill; it was over $200 dollars.

Submitted May 10, 2019 at 07:34PM

05/07/2019 at 10 pm,We were craving pancakes after watching Tacoma FD. Matt forces me to pat his head and threaten to add more minutes for not patting in a way that pleases him, or else he's not gonna "take me" to iHop. I didn't want to give him the satisfaction of affection because he rarely give me any through out the day everyday; so I got up and left the couch due to his disrespect. Thanks but I can take myself out.05/07/2019 at 10:30 pm,It's our 10 years anniversary in a couple days. I asked Matt if he would like to invite friends and family for a dinner together or go on a trip. He said 'no, 10 years together is not that big of a deal in America; just gifts are okay.' Fine by me, so I found a gift for him and consulted him. He said he likes it, the few hundred dollars worth of couples retreat. However, he had planned no gift for me, so I suggested a few: a trip to Jurassic world in Disneyland, or a home kit for trying to have a baby together. He said no we're not doing that, we can discuss that tomorrow in marriage counseling. He said he doesn't wanna talk right now because I'm gonna get upset. The fact that I got upset over pancake last night was prove he said. He has one excuse after another about not having baby. Once again, I feel like I'm wasting my life with him achieving nothing together. I went to bed upset thinking there will be no celebration for our 10 years.05/08/2019 at 10 am,Matt woke up asking if I still wanna go to iHop, I said 'not anymore'. Because I'm still upset about not having 10 years celebration, and that I'm the only who's planning, the only one who cared. He then left home by himself for hours without saying a word or text while I was getting dressed from shower. We met on my way out for brunch at 2:30 pm, he was just coming home. I did not ask or said a word about his whereabouts, I just wanted to get my food. He proceed to harass me and insisted to tag along without further explanation or apology about his earlier whereabouts. He did not seem to recognize this behavior is a problem in relationship, yet he would interrogate my whereabouts in every little details when I had already told him I was running business errands.05/08/2019 at 2:30 pm,Out of nowhere with no previous discussion, Matt told me on the way driving to marriage counseling that he already had planned and decided to go out overnight "with his brother" this weekend, alone; and that I'm not invited or being expected, because I will be working over the weekend he said. It appears that he had already decided for me, without asking. Does that mean it's okay for me to travel alone too without any discussion or invitation to my partner? Because according to him, I can make decision for him too, right? Matthew did not seem to recognize this behavioral problem either. This is not the first time he tried to pull this trick on me to try to go out alone; we've already talked about this multiple times before that we are married, we're not roommates, it's not working obviously.05/08/2019 at 3:30 pm,Matt started calling me names and cursed at me during a marriage counseling section, because I wouldn't 'stop being upset about our 10 years anniversary and move forward'. I left and go home by myself due to his extreme disrespect in front of others.05/08/2019 at 11 pm,Matt confronted me in an aggressive manner, and screamed at me to get out of his office after seeing notifications from an unknown internet stranger on my phone trying to contact me.05/09/2019 at 12:30 pm,Didn't go to gym together like we have planned. I woke up early to get ready and was all dressed in gym clothes by 10:30 am doing desk work. Matt woke up and left by himself without saying a word, again. Soon after he left, I received a phone call from the marriage counselor saying Matt wanted a section together. I said no I'm not going because I did not hear a word from Matt about this. He came home at 2 pm and said 'Hi' to me, asking if we can can have a serious talk and shop groceries together. I looked at him with my face all twisted thinking "Are you fucking serious?" Unfortunately, he forgot I have a weekly dog walk at 2 pm. He insisted to tag along again. I took a deep breath and used all my best effort to suppress my angry to said he is welcomed. I seriously think that he started talking to me again because he needed me to share the grocery bill; it was over $200 dollars.