Are butterflies actually a thing?

I (F22) started dating this great guy (M19) for about 4-5 months now (yikes to that age gap amirite lol) At first I didn’t know what to feel for him. I was “talking” to someone else at the time (M26) that kept leaving me on read for weeks at a time and never returning calls even though he told me he would. Honest to God I would send him the cutest selfies and would barely get a response.

I was struggling with this while this sweet guy started getting to know me more (even though I’ve known him for years now) and he was almost like a shoulder cry on about this stupid 26yr old guy.

One day he mentioned something about wanting to hang out and we did and I honestly told him that I would date him if the circumstances were different but long story short I ended up ghosting this other guy, which I don’t feel guilty about in the slightest coz whatever, and dating this guy.

It was honestly the most confusing start because I was getting over the other and I’ve known him for years. I couldn’t find those “butterflies” that I’ve had in the past. I kept thinking there’s something wrong with me honestly at times I still think that. I almost ended things with him and I explained what was going on and he really wanted a chance so I ended up dating him longer.

Here we are a few months later and I’m so happy with him. We’re taking things slow and just letting things develop as they come but sometimes it still nags me that I never feel butterflies around him. I feel attracted to him and we get along super well and our communication is clear. He is the sweetest most caring guy and I can’t believe I almost ended up friend zoning him.

Do butterflies have to exist for you in dating? Am I just settling? As happy as I am... idk I have my own insecurities that make me doubt things at times. Like do I even deserve him? Also I can’t believe that a guy three years younger than me has his emotions more in check while the older more “mature” guy pretty much lead me on.

As a bonus HILARIOUS note... M26 hit me up the other day on Snapchat after I posted a cute ass selfie and pointed out my lips with heart eye emojis... you know THE WORKS... like now after all this time you wanna pay attention to me and compliment me? boi byeeeeee.



Submitted May 11, 2019 at 04:42AM

I (F22) started dating this great guy (M19) for about 4-5 months now (yikes to that age gap amirite lol) At first I didn’t know what to feel for him. I was “talking” to someone else at the time (M26) that kept leaving me on read for weeks at a time and never returning calls even though he told me he would. Honest to God I would send him the cutest selfies and would barely get a response.I was struggling with this while this sweet guy started getting to know me more (even though I’ve known him for years now) and he was almost like a shoulder cry on about this stupid 26yr old guy.One day he mentioned something about wanting to hang out and we did and I honestly told him that I would date him if the circumstances were different but long story short I ended up ghosting this other guy, which I don’t feel guilty about in the slightest coz whatever, and dating this guy.It was honestly the most confusing start because I was getting over the other and I’ve known him for years. I couldn’t find those “butterflies” that I’ve had in the past. I kept thinking there’s something wrong with me honestly at times I still think that. I almost ended things with him and I explained what was going on and he really wanted a chance so I ended up dating him longer.Here we are a few months later and I’m so happy with him. We’re taking things slow and just letting things develop as they come but sometimes it still nags me that I never feel butterflies around him. I feel attracted to him and we get along super well and our communication is clear. He is the sweetest most caring guy and I can’t believe I almost ended up friend zoning him.Do butterflies have to exist for you in dating? Am I just settling? As happy as I am... idk I have my own insecurities that make me doubt things at times. Like do I even deserve him? Also I can’t believe that a guy three years younger than me has his emotions more in check while the older more “mature” guy pretty much lead me on.As a bonus HILARIOUS note... M26 hit me up the other day on Snapchat after I posted a cute ass selfie and pointed out my lips with heart eye emojis... you know THE WORKS... like now after all this time you wanna pay attention to me and compliment me? boi byeeeeee.
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