I (24M) feel kind of insecure about my relationship with GF (22F)

Ok, I’m not sure where to start, but me and my girlfriend just got in a relationship about a week ago. We’ve been dating for a couple months before that and since we were both not seeing anyone else, we just decided to make official. We live about 1:30h away from each other (her parents live in the same city I do) and she’s still in college for engineering (I work and go to grad school). So, I came out of a long relationship in January and about a month later I reconnected with my current (we were acquaintances from HS) ans we went out on a date as friends and it was fun and all, but we started to become closer the next few dates and eventually made out. After that we’d talk/text each other everyday (I don’t talk to my best friends this frequently, and neither does she - according to her), we’d meet whenever we could, she introduced me to her parents and stuff, and last week I introduced her to mine. However, now I’m feeling very insecure about the relationship, and I’m not sure if it’s because it’s too soon or because I just feel insecure about myself; she keeps ignoring me and I’m not sure if it is due to her course being hell (besides doing engineering, she is also on the university’s soccer team) or just because she isn’t interested. I’ve tried talking to her about this stuff but I feel like it would just make me look insecure and needy. I feel kind of silly talking about this stuff, but I’ve been going through some really shitty times psychologically and professionally (stuff that I feel like it is also too soon to burden her with).

Sorry if things seem unclear, English isn’t my first language, but feel free to ask for clarification!

TL;DR - started dating recently and feel insecure, like she is not interested anymore.



Submitted May 11, 2019 at 06:51AM

Ok, I’m not sure where to start, but me and my girlfriend just got in a relationship about a week ago. We’ve been dating for a couple months before that and since we were both not seeing anyone else, we just decided to make official. We live about 1:30h away from each other (her parents live in the same city I do) and she’s still in college for engineering (I work and go to grad school). So, I came out of a long relationship in January and about a month later I reconnected with my current (we were acquaintances from HS) ans we went out on a date as friends and it was fun and all, but we started to become closer the next few dates and eventually made out. After that we’d talk/text each other everyday (I don’t talk to my best friends this frequently, and neither does she - according to her), we’d meet whenever we could, she introduced me to her parents and stuff, and last week I introduced her to mine. However, now I’m feeling very insecure about the relationship, and I’m not sure if it’s because it’s too soon or because I just feel insecure about myself; she keeps ignoring me and I’m not sure if it is due to her course being hell (besides doing engineering, she is also on the university’s soccer team) or just because she isn’t interested. I’ve tried talking to her about this stuff but I feel like it would just make me look insecure and needy. I feel kind of silly talking about this stuff, but I’ve been going through some really shitty times psychologically and professionally (stuff that I feel like it is also too soon to burden her with).Sorry if things seem unclear, English isn’t my first language, but feel free to ask for clarification!TL;DR - started dating recently and feel insecure, like she is not interested anymore.
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