What comes first?

A little bit of a backstory before I get started. I am a 19 year old Male and I just completed my first year of college. About a year ago before I left for college (5 hours away from my home town) I started having problems with my family and my girlfriend. My parents had been rude to my girlfriend and I. There has been constant arguments since and nothing has gotten better but rather in fact gotten worse. I’ve been avoiding my parents, being home as little as possible, and when going to college, not even talking to them. This has been an ongoing issue and it’s still a problem. Anyways, my girlfriend and I have been arguing for the past year. We’ve argued a lot about my parents and what is best for us. We’ve fought about numerous things. (My girlfriend is a senior in high school graduating) We have argued about long distance, trust issues, and so much more but I’m going to keep out more of the personal issues. Over the past week of posting this I have been finishing my finals and had planned for my gf to pick me up from my school and take me home. The way my school handled finals was you had to leave the dorms by Friday at 9am as dorms would be closed, which is stupid because finals are Monday-Thursday. So anyways I finish my final test on thursday and get back to my dorm and start packing and I receive a text from my girlfriend saying she won’t be able to miss school and come get me. She told me I needed to figure it out on my own to get home. I looked for awhile to find ways to get home, I looked at getting a bus, a u-haul, rent a car, and so on. None of those options worked since I had too much stuff to take home I wouldn’t be able to take it all. I told my GF this and she said to just donate everything I had (Tv, printer, and other electronics and small belongings) and to just pack my clothes and medications and take a bus. My other option? Call my parents who I haven’t talked to in a month and my GF hates them (she has plenty good reason too). She said if I called my parents to take me home that she would break up with me. I panicked while packing and constantly kept looking for other options. I didn’t want to be in a car with my family who I haven’t gotten along with or talked to in a year. It was about 8pm and I still didn’t have a ride home. I was searching everywhere to find something to get home (Note: I have less than 100 dollars because of paying for college and not having a job at the time). I found nothing so I had to call my parents. They were the ones who took me home and now I’m single. We said we would talk and try and get back together but we keep arguing. Maybe this is in the wrong sub Reddit but is what I did wrong? What is there I should/can do to make things better? I’ve been trying everything to get better and I dont know what to do. Any help is much appreciated

TL;DR: My girlfriend and I just broke up over issues with my family and the way I needed to get home. I had no money, no choices, and no answers. I rode home with my parents which was the last choice I wanted. Was throwing away everything better than the choice I made?

Submitted May 11, 2019 at 06:29AM

A little bit of a backstory before I get started. I am a 19 year old Male and I just completed my first year of college. About a year ago before I left for college (5 hours away from my home town) I started having problems with my family and my girlfriend. My parents had been rude to my girlfriend and I. There has been constant arguments since and nothing has gotten better but rather in fact gotten worse. I’ve been avoiding my parents, being home as little as possible, and when going to college, not even talking to them. This has been an ongoing issue and it’s still a problem. Anyways, my girlfriend and I have been arguing for the past year. We’ve argued a lot about my parents and what is best for us. We’ve fought about numerous things. (My girlfriend is a senior in high school graduating) We have argued about long distance, trust issues, and so much more but I’m going to keep out more of the personal issues. Over the past week of posting this I have been finishing my finals and had planned for my gf to pick me up from my school and take me home. The way my school handled finals was you had to leave the dorms by Friday at 9am as dorms would be closed, which is stupid because finals are Monday-Thursday. So anyways I finish my final test on thursday and get back to my dorm and start packing and I receive a text from my girlfriend saying she won’t be able to miss school and come get me. She told me I needed to figure it out on my own to get home. I looked for awhile to find ways to get home, I looked at getting a bus, a u-haul, rent a car, and so on. None of those options worked since I had too much stuff to take home I wouldn’t be able to take it all. I told my GF this and she said to just donate everything I had (Tv, printer, and other electronics and small belongings) and to just pack my clothes and medications and take a bus. My other option? Call my parents who I haven’t talked to in a month and my GF hates them (she has plenty good reason too). She said if I called my parents to take me home that she would break up with me. I panicked while packing and constantly kept looking for other options. I didn’t want to be in a car with my family who I haven’t gotten along with or talked to in a year. It was about 8pm and I still didn’t have a ride home. I was searching everywhere to find something to get home (Note: I have less than 100 dollars because of paying for college and not having a job at the time). I found nothing so I had to call my parents. They were the ones who took me home and now I’m single. We said we would talk and try and get back together but we keep arguing. Maybe this is in the wrong sub Reddit but is what I did wrong? What is there I should/can do to make things better? I’ve been trying everything to get better and I dont know what to do. Any help is much appreciatedTL;DR: My girlfriend and I just broke up over issues with my family and the way I needed to get home. I had no money, no choices, and no answers. I rode home with my parents which was the last choice I wanted. Was throwing away everything better than the choice I made?