What’s my [19 M] best course of action at this point with my ex [18 F] considering that she probably has some sort of romantic relationship with this new guy?

Imma keep this short, but basically shortly after my ex and I broke up, about 5 months ago, she started talking to this guy. In fact, from the last time we talked (when we “broke up”) before I saw her again, she had seen this guy in between then, and we hadn’t seen each other in 2 weeks because she went on a family vacation. The first weekend she got back she was with this kid. Anyway, turns out she met him on tinder, and on top of this he was transferring to my school.

It really upset me because it seemed like she threw away like 2 years of a relationship between us for this guy she met on tinder. And she was trying to stay friends with me while hiding the fact that she was hanging with this guy, so I told her I don’t want to talk anymore, I figured she was too far gone and I couldn’t get her back at this point. She did everything she could to convince me they were just friends, but I didn’t believe her. Anyway I stopped talking to her, I told her not to talk to me and she didn’t honor it at all, reaching out to me a lot. And sure enough, it turns out the were fucking at one point.

Fast forward 4 months and a whole lot of drama, and here I am. I’m alright now, and my ex and I have been talking again. But she’s still talking to this guy, and honestly I don’t want to get in the middle of it. Now she says they’re just friends again, but I don’t really believe it, especially after she found out I hooked up with a girl. She said hooking up with him wasn’t good for her but idk I just don’t trust her at all. And from what it looks like they’re getting pretty close.

She thinks I’m going to this concert with her she really wants me to come to, and I don’t see the point of going with her after all of this. I do want to go to the concert but everything just feels wrong after what happened. I wish none of it happened, but now that it did I don’t really want to hang out with her anymore. And honestly if we did I’m sure something would happen.

I actually haven’t reached out to her in 10 days, but every day I’ll talk to her because she reaches out to me, and I reply. I guess I’ll just keep this up? I’m not sure exactly what to do about the concert, I haven’t counted it out but I’m not tryna pay $150 to catch feelings and get hurt or something. I’m not trying to “fight” over her with this new guy, and on top of that I really just don’t want a gf right now so I wouldn’t anyway.

TL;DR: my ex and I are friends right now, but she still hangs out with this guy that she was initially friends with, then was fucking, and is now just friends again (supposedly) and I’m just uncomfortable with it. They’re only getting closer and I just want no part of it. But every day she reaches out to me, I don’t initiate at all. She really wants me to come to this concert with her and I just don’t know if it’s a good idea. I feel like she kinda ruined our relationship with this new guy, and after everything that happened (check my past posts for everything) I just have no hope for anything between us even a friendship. Not sure what to do, do I just tell her I’m not going to the concert? I do want to go but feel like it will end up hurting me.

Submitted May 11, 2019 at 05:47AM

Imma keep this short, but basically shortly after my ex and I broke up, about 5 months ago, she started talking to this guy. In fact, from the last time we talked (when we “broke up”) before I saw her again, she had seen this guy in between then, and we hadn’t seen each other in 2 weeks because she went on a family vacation. The first weekend she got back she was with this kid. Anyway, turns out she met him on tinder, and on top of this he was transferring to my school.It really upset me because it seemed like she threw away like 2 years of a relationship between us for this guy she met on tinder. And she was trying to stay friends with me while hiding the fact that she was hanging with this guy, so I told her I don’t want to talk anymore, I figured she was too far gone and I couldn’t get her back at this point. She did everything she could to convince me they were just friends, but I didn’t believe her. Anyway I stopped talking to her, I told her not to talk to me and she didn’t honor it at all, reaching out to me a lot. And sure enough, it turns out the were fucking at one point.Fast forward 4 months and a whole lot of drama, and here I am. I’m alright now, and my ex and I have been talking again. But she’s still talking to this guy, and honestly I don’t want to get in the middle of it. Now she says they’re just friends again, but I don’t really believe it, especially after she found out I hooked up with a girl. She said hooking up with him wasn’t good for her but idk I just don’t trust her at all. And from what it looks like they’re getting pretty close.She thinks I’m going to this concert with her she really wants me to come to, and I don’t see the point of going with her after all of this. I do want to go to the concert but everything just feels wrong after what happened. I wish none of it happened, but now that it did I don’t really want to hang out with her anymore. And honestly if we did I’m sure something would happen.I actually haven’t reached out to her in 10 days, but every day I’ll talk to her because she reaches out to me, and I reply. I guess I’ll just keep this up? I’m not sure exactly what to do about the concert, I haven’t counted it out but I’m not tryna pay $150 to catch feelings and get hurt or something. I’m not trying to “fight” over her with this new guy, and on top of that I really just don’t want a gf right now so I wouldn’t anyway.TL;DR: my ex and I are friends right now, but she still hangs out with this guy that she was initially friends with, then was fucking, and is now just friends again (supposedly) and I’m just uncomfortable with it. They’re only getting closer and I just want no part of it. But every day she reaches out to me, I don’t initiate at all. She really wants me to come to this concert with her and I just don’t know if it’s a good idea. I feel like she kinda ruined our relationship with this new guy, and after everything that happened (check my past posts for everything) I just have no hope for anything between us even a friendship. Not sure what to do, do I just tell her I’m not going to the concert? I do want to go but feel like it will end up hurting me.