There's a whole world of drama that's just, not my circus. Not my monkeys. Ahhhhh. So relaxing. But I think my favorite part is having a unique perspective that lets me see things from angles that are hard for allos to imagine. I feel like that part can actually be useful, and interesting. February 28, 2022 at 12:31AM

yeah i’m newly ace and have looked around at ethical non-monogamy as well. it’s very mixed, some people have a great time and some not so much. we’ve still yet to try it, as we are taking it slow, but there has been a lot of discussions on about it, rules and boundaries etc. in mine and my partners eyes, we see it as, yes, just because i don’t have sexual attraction and he does, and we aren’t as sexually active as the “normal” couple is, doesn’t mean we are not compatible. we are compatible in so many other ways. there’s so many other attractions too, romantic, sensual, aesthetic, platonic etc that you can be compatible in and that could be the same for you and your girlfriend. for ethical non-monogamy side of things, at the end of the day, my partner said to me, “it’s just sex, it’s you i’ll be living my life with and coming home to” and for us, it’s definitely worth a try because it could turn out amazing, and it could be the best thing we’ve done. and if sadly, if it doesn’t work,

Not ever acting like that one person who screams, “I’m gonna die a virgin”or get upset over never having an SO. Back when I was in middle school, people were obsessed with wanting a boyfriend/girlfriend. They would even openly admit it. It was strange as to how they would be more focused on that then their grades. February 28, 2022 at 12:26AM

For me it’s realizing that I have more control over my life. From my perspective a lot of people are always obsessing over sex. I felt weird because it wasn’t like sex took over a large amount of my life. I’m happy with my own interests and not needing to focus all my time on one main thing that it seems most other people do February 28, 2022 at 12:25AM

It's rape culture, too. There's this whole "I know you want it" thing, like they think their crotch magic can conquer all, and "no" just means their target is playing hard to get in some invitation for them to prove they can make anyone accept and enjoy their advances if they just try hard enough. It absolutely does my head in. I don't understand how anyone can think that way, much less act on it. But the media and culture keeps perpetuating that attitude. I believe it's on its way out but I do wish it would die faster. February 28, 2022 at 12:24AM

I'm going out with a coworker later and I want to have things to talk about in advance. Submitted February 28, 2022 at 12:15AM I'm going out with a coworker later and I want to have things to talk about in advance.

Okay, honestly, I’m really shy talking about my relationship life because I feel I’ve always been the one who gets hurt at the end. Okay, I (29M)started dating my ex (27F) in 2020, during the Pandemic, so we didn’t really see each other till the 6th month and we’ve been dating till this January till things happened then we decided to end the relationship. But then I realised that I’ve never been in love. Like I don’t know or have never felt it. I don’t know if it is because I’m not in a relationship then I feel I’ve never felt love. I really need advice on building a relationship with love. Genuine love. Submitted February 28, 2022 at 12:15AM Okay, honestly, I’m really shy talking about my relationship life because I feel I’ve always been the one who gets hurt at the end. Okay, I (29M)started dating my ex (27F) in 2020, during the Pandemic, so we didn’t really see each other till the 6th month and we’ve been dating till this January till things happened then we decided to end th