my last was almost 4 years ago Submitted November 22, 2020 at 12:06AM my last was almost 4 years ago

I see a lot of them mention on their profiles - " a person who doesn't take themselves seriously" What context are we talking about here? Submitted November 22, 2020 at 12:09AM I see a lot of them mention on their profiles - " a person who doesn't take themselves seriously"What context are we talking about here?

I'm a 24 year old asian male (chinese, hispanic and filipino descent). I'm attractive, I look like a kpop star. Lot of girls hit on me... well, not that direct/aggressive. They just mostly stare at me with their puppy eyes and a smile, only few come at me. But all my life I've never dated, kissed or f***ed any girl yet; and I think I won't ever be. It's because most people dissapoint me. Of course, there were girls that I've liked. I've been through the "getting to know" stage with them but that's about it. I never go beyond that point as I often get dissapointed with them the more I get to know them. People have these normalized senseless antics that's just... ugghhh. It's such a turn off for me. So here's my dilemna: I know that I can handle being single all my life... for now. Statistics shows that people, get depressed later in life after focusing only on their jobs/careers and not having to start a family. And yes, we humans ...

I've been chatting for a couple of months with a dude i met online. The first 3/4 months of quarantine we weren't working so we could chat ✨properly✨ A few months ago, he started working in a supermarket at nights (between 11pm to 7am). At that time, i sleep because I work during the day ofc. He literally sleeps all the time he is not working, which i find suspicious¿? He also sleeps his two days off, all day. I told him i would stay awake in those days so he doesn't have to change his sleep schedule but at the end, i'm awake at 4am waiting for him to answer but SURPISE, he fell asleep. I feel i can't complain/tell anything because every time i tried to talk about it he makes me feel bad about it, and guilty for asking for too much. He insist on that he is only sleeping, not f#ucking other girls, which i believe, but i don't think he is putting a minimal effort. I tried to shut him down a couple of times, but he says he loves me and bla bla bla. Is it reasonabl...

thats if the person is promoting a product, read em rules November 22, 2020 at 12:05AM

Yup. I meant, like, if you can get pregnant and have sex, then be ready to get pregnant. And if you have sex at all, unless they other person has been tested and proven to be healthy, be ready to have an STD. Protection has a really small failure chance, but it has one! I didn't mean that you should take care of a child you don't want. That unfair bith for the parents and the child. You could put them on adoption. November 21, 2020 at 11:58PM

I really don't think that's fair. Just because most of us don't have a super strong urge for sex doesn't mean others in the world don't. Despite the horror stories, if you're taking bc perfectly (or using something like the implant or IUD), getting pregnant is highly, highly unlikely. I, for one, would NOT be prepared to have a kid. Or at the very, very least, keep one. I do want to try and have a sex life, though. IF I were to become pregnant, which would be unlikely but IF, the kid would go up for adoption. It would be a shitty situation all around, but it's also not likely to happen. November 21, 2020 at 11:55PM

Hi! I, 18F, was in the same situation as you a year ago or so. I don't think I've figured everything out yet, but I am feeling more comfortable everyday with what I know. So if you need someone, I am here for you.💜 November 21, 2020 at 11:46PM

Having been in relationships with people who were decidedly not asexual...yeah it honestly gets really tiring. It felt like I never got to just cuddle, because cuddling led to arousal and arousal led to sex. November 21, 2020 at 11:44PM

It seems like they all like it, as long as they get sex later. Or I assume some just like the view? Like if you have a pet, you know there are some random things your pet does that are so cute they get you cooing over them for a second. But it's mostly just a nice thing to see. Not that that's at all sexual, so may not be the best comparison. November 21, 2020 at 11:44PM

This is gonna sound really dark, but one part of why I got my tubes tied several years ago was to make sure that no one would ever be able to trap me with a pregnancy. Admittedly I was in a difficult relationship at the time and the thought "if I get pregnant this is going to get so much fucking worse" was in the back of my mind. I suppose it's moot at this point since I haven't had sex in years and wouldn't be bothered if I never had it again. November 21, 2020 at 11:42PM

Thank you ❤️ November 21, 2020 at 11:41PM

I feel like a good response to parents demanding grandkids is to ask if they're willing to raise said kids. Because if they're not then they're being selfish about wanting the fun parts while you have to shoulder the difficult stuff November 21, 2020 at 11:23PM

I am non-judgemental and understanding, though I still have a little figuring out to do myself so i might ask you a few questions too but otherwise I am open to talk. November 21, 2020 at 11:22PM

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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Asexual_Pride_Flag.svg November 21, 2020 at 11:20PM

I don't really understand it, but I could ask my husband about it. I generally don't have to do much to turn him on. I'm not sure if it's annoying to him or maybe he likes it? Idunno, he just kind of deals with it. November 21, 2020 at 11:19PM

Thank you. I have yet to tell my parents (mostly cause i honestly do not see the need for them to know that im not sexually attracted personally) but that is mostly because of my super supportive girlfriend. I honestly do not know what i would do without her. November 21, 2020 at 11:17PM

PM me of you want help November 21, 2020 at 11:17PM

Yeah its weird November 21, 2020 at 11:15PM

Geht. Vielen Dank! November 21, 2020 at 11:14PM

Of course not, thanks! November 21, 2020 at 11:13PM

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