We have been in a long distance realtionship for 3 years. We called for 2 hours 2 days ago, and he told me he isnt happy in the relationship. We dont know when we can see each other because of Corona virus. He says the uncertainty is killing him. We wanted to close the gap this year, but we dont even know if we can see each other. He proposed to me 3 months ago, but i didnt tell my parents because of my relationship with them, and it hurt him so he wants to break off the engagement. He said he wants to have a second chance when we have jobs and money with a better ring and stuff. I said i thought the enagement was a little too early cuz we dont even have jobs and he knows about my relationship with my parents and he said it was shocking for him to hear that. (im still a student and he lost his job cuz of Corona virus. We werent ready to get married. My parents still pay for my school and its my last semester. They think they can control me cuz im not fianancially independent, and i...

I currently work at Safeway but got accepted to a prestigious college (not saying which) and scholarships will hopefully knock out a lot of the cost. I don't have much in common with my controlling, infantilizing, and overbearing family and my conservative (in terms of values, not politics) relatives that are religious and use it to say what I should and shouldn't do. I really don't like my parents because they robbed me of a childhood and I don't care if they die from cōvid, that's how much I resent them. I won't intentionally pass it onto them but I wouldn't care if they got it. They took away my childhood, I'll take away their son (me). When I get out I'm making sure I move somewhere they wouldn't look. I'm also changing my phone plan and getting a new number, deactivating all social media accounts, going by aliases, ignoring their emails, and making no contact with family, only friends that I trust who don't know my family. Is thi...

I was watching my niece today while her parents were out. We're pretty close, and we've bonded a lot over her interests in video games and youtube since I'm the only one in the family that's familiar enough with that stuff to actually be able to talk about it with her. She was talking about her own youtube channel, which I knew of but hadn't looked into because I forgot the name of it, so I got the name from her and decided to check it out. I learned that she's very into the gacha life, littlest pet shop, and roblox parts of youtube, which are probably mostly innocent but I am aware that there's some pretty inappropriate content that comes from those communities, especially gacha. (For context, people use gacha characters to act out stories for videos, and if you search for them on youtube you'll see that a lot of them are sexual, violent, or have other disturbing themes very much not for kids.) It doesn't look like she's made anything that con...

Okay, without going too in-detail: Realised I was 'different' at about 13, but thought I was just being more true to myself while everyone else was pretending to experience sexual attraction. Realised this was not the case at about 16. Realised I was ace at about 17. Not interested in a relationship involving sex. I might want a long-term romantic relationship or relationships, but I also might prefer to stay single or live with a dear friend. I have dated before, but also enjoy being single. Technical labels would be asexual panromantic polyamorous man. I'd explain my orientation the same way to a stranger or a friend: You know how bisexuals combine homo and heterosexuality in a way, because they feel both the attractions which define those two orientations? Asexuals are exactly the same, except they feel both the lacks of attraction which define those orientations. I don't have either a dream or a nightmare relationship; I tend to take each relationship on its...

Demiromantic aces: “so you see,, if I explained this to you you would just tell me that what I want is ‘just a friendship’” April 09, 2020 at 12:19AM

No No No No No, Yes. April 09, 2020 at 12:19AM

I realized I was different in about 7th grade when all the girls except me were crazy about boys. Like, a boyfriend was their dream and my nightmare. I realized it in 10th grade, when the idea of romance and sex still really disgusted me, and a friend told me about asexuality and aromantics. I find sex disgusting and terrifying. At least penetrative sex. it looks to me like letting someone invade your body with the same organ they pee with. my thoughts about romance are rather complicated. I used to hate it until for some reason I wanted it, and at first I was ashamed I wanted it, but afterwards I didn’t really care anymore. I was curious. so I tried and failed, but at least I gained some knowledge. Now I hate it again but for some reason I still wanna try. This time with a girl. (My main problem is physical touch, up until now I’ve only tried dating boys and I used to be afraid of boys so it’s harder for me to touch them and be with them then girls, so I hope it’ll work out b...

Lefty, aro-ace. April 09, 2020 at 12:15AM

Left aro-ace. April 09, 2020 at 12:09AM

Right April 09, 2020 at 12:04AM

Just flat out tell her no. Explain that it means something important to you, and that she can have different colors. April 09, 2020 at 12:04AM

Left-handed Ace April 09, 2020 at 12:02AM

Excellent response. Screw that guy. Not literally. Unless you wanna. You do you. April 08, 2020 at 11:59PM

I met him 6 months ago via Hinge. We have had our fair share of issues. Many of which I feel are brought on by his lack of experience and maybe lack of common sense when it comes to dating and relationships. He has never been in any real relationships. He told me he had exes but later then said they weren’t really anything serious. He is also a virgin. I didn’t really see all this as red flags but just something that made me wonder. He’s an average looking guy... tall. He said he’s picky but I feel that that was maybe just a cover he tells people. Who knows Anyways, despite all this we did have a lot of chemistry in person and there was something about him that made me very happy. I would smile constantly around him and I felt his presence made me feel happy, light and in love. So when issues would arise I tried to remind myself about how I have felt around him but I’m beginning to wonder if this is something I should even be entertaining... He lives at home with both of his parents...

So I haven’t been in a relationship and I’m 22M I’m a bit shy and I’m not reallly good at small talk although I have been getting better due to my cashiering job. I decided this year that I would try to find a relationship but due to the pandemic that’s completely out of the window for the entire year. I’m an average dude both height and looks I’m not seeking anything casual or just for fun. So if there any apps that I can use to help a potential match. Submitted April 08, 2020 at 11:50PM So I haven’t been in a relationship and I’m 22M I’m a bit shy and I’m not reallly good at small talk although I have been getting better due to my cashiering job. I decided this year that I would try to find a relationship but due to the pandemic that’s completely out of the window for the entire year. I’m an average dude both height and looks I’m not seeking anything casual or just for fun. So if there any apps that I can use to help a potential match.

So I’ve been talking to this girl for a while and we were supposed to go on our first date and then the corona virus hit and we never got to go out. I thought that we’ve been talking to long not to have gone out yet so we are gonna have a video date tomorrow and I want to come up with something fun to do would love to hear what some of you think. Submitted April 08, 2020 at 11:51PM So I’ve been talking to this girl for a while and we were supposed to go on our first date and then the corona virus hit and we never got to go out. I thought that we’ve been talking to long not to have gone out yet so we are gonna have a video date tomorrow and I want to come up with something fun to do would love to hear what some of you think.

Why would a dude keep going on how he doesnt wanna have sex. We had sex a long time ago thats it. He lives like 2 hrs from me also Submitted April 08, 2020 at 11:52PM Why would a dude keep going on how he doesnt wanna have sex. We had sex a long time ago thats it. He lives like 2 hrs from me also

How important do you think it is to build an emotional connection before a physical one? I think building an emotional connection first can help a relationship to last. Submitted April 08, 2020 at 11:56PM How important do you think it is to build an emotional connection before a physical one? I think building an emotional connection first can help a relationship to last.

I used to text this girl a lot, and then i managed to meet up with her and we hung out a lot for a couple of weeks and then late one night i stayed in her bed with her, we hooked up in the morning and we showered together. ​ Then she started acting a little more distant and stopped texting, it became much more common for her to leave me on read so I started doing too just because it seemed like I should stop pursuing. Around 3 weeks later we go on a couple dates, made out a little but never hooked up again, but instead said she "loves hanging out with me and what we've been doing, but is not emotionally available enough right now to let it move any further, and would like to take some time to regroup and pick it back up in the future. ​ Now almost 2 months after we met for the first time she texts me a lot more, always initiates conversation with me, ususally by replying to my snapcaht stories, and doesn't leave me on read even if I don't give her a very interesti...

There's a guy I work with - we spoke a couple times, sometimes some quite deep stuff. He always seemed to give signs he liked me, yet he also physically runs away and hides sometimes - I don't get it. He who would actively turn up in the department where I work without reason, seemingly waiting for me to talk to me? But then I would suddenly speak to someone and as soon as he heard me speak, he would run away like a rabbit. He would make a lot of signals at first like very prolonged eye contact, sometimes look at me with ravenous lust. Yet also his face goes bright red at times? Sometimes he would stare from many floors above and I would catch him and his face would turn tomato red. He seems shy but also sometimes over-confident like he's putting on a front. Not too long ago, I saw him and he was like 'hey love', which baffled me, because he gives signs like he's interested but if you liked someone, why would you call them a casual thing like love, which ma...

I always mope about how I'm single, but I had a lot of opportunities to possibly enter relationships with some great women but I never took those opportunities. I seem to be attracted to women who play hard to get and play mind games. I don't know why but once I feel safe in the 'courting' process, I start to get bored ( I have had this happen three times). How do I escape this fucked up mindset? I guess I'm the male equivalent of a girl that is attracted to bad boys. Submitted April 09, 2020 at 12:10AM I always mope about how I'm single, but I had a lot of opportunities to possibly enter relationships with some great women but I never took those opportunities. I seem to be attracted to women who play hard to get and play mind games. I don't know why but once I feel safe in the 'courting' process, I start to get bored ( I have had this happen three times). How do I escape this fucked up mindset?I guess I'm the male equivalent of a girl th...

Am I a bad person if I'm snapping multiple girls but think they're all cute and I'd date them all? I feel shitty for this 😕 Submitted April 09, 2020 at 12:11AM Am I a bad person if I'm snapping multiple girls but think they're all cute and I'd date them all? I feel shitty for this 😕

He said he wants me to meet them and hangout with them even though we’re just friends. Submitted April 09, 2020 at 12:14AM He said he wants me to meet them and hangout with them even though we’re just friends.