I [18M] want to live a private and secluded life away from my family once I am able to move out. How can I?

I currently work at Safeway but got accepted to a prestigious college (not saying which) and scholarships will hopefully knock out a lot of the cost.

I don't have much in common with my controlling, infantilizing, and overbearing family and my conservative (in terms of values, not politics) relatives that are religious and use it to say what I should and shouldn't do.

I really don't like my parents because they robbed me of a childhood and I don't care if they die from cōvid, that's how much I resent them. I won't intentionally pass it onto them but I wouldn't care if they got it. They took away my childhood, I'll take away their son (me).

When I get out I'm making sure I move somewhere they wouldn't look. I'm also changing my phone plan and getting a new number, deactivating all social media accounts, going by aliases, ignoring their emails, and making no contact with family, only friends that I trust who don't know my family. Is this a good plan?

If you need at least a few reasons on why I'm cutting contact, the three most egregious would be 1. Thinking I'm handicapped because I have autism and treating me like a child my entire life then once I turn 18 they flip the switch and are like "if you want to be treated like an adult act like an adult", 2. Strict limiting and censorship of what I could access online and at what times I could even use the internet, even as a teen, and 3. Actually coming in public bathrooms to check on me and call my name even after 5 MINUTES of being in there, which is extremely embarrassing. I want nothing to do with my family as soon as I am financially able to and don't care if they die.

TL;DR: Title. I pretend to love them but in actuality I couldn't care less about them, and I'm so good at lying about it because their controlling taught me how to hide everything I do from them. I keep so many secrets it's not even funny. I will never trust them again.

Submitted April 09, 2020 at 12:30AM

I currently work at Safeway but got accepted to a prestigious college (not saying which) and scholarships will hopefully knock out a lot of the cost.I don't have much in common with my controlling, infantilizing, and overbearing family and my conservative (in terms of values, not politics) relatives that are religious and use it to say what I should and shouldn't do.I really don't like my parents because they robbed me of a childhood and I don't care if they die from cōvid, that's how much I resent them. I won't intentionally pass it onto them but I wouldn't care if they got it. They took away my childhood, I'll take away their son (me).When I get out I'm making sure I move somewhere they wouldn't look. I'm also changing my phone plan and getting a new number, deactivating all social media accounts, going by aliases, ignoring their emails, and making no contact with family, only friends that I trust who don't know my family. Is this a good plan?If you need at least a few reasons on why I'm cutting contact, the three most egregious would be 1. Thinking I'm handicapped because I have autism and treating me like a child my entire life then once I turn 18 they flip the switch and are like "if you want to be treated like an adult act like an adult", 2. Strict limiting and censorship of what I could access online and at what times I could even use the internet, even as a teen, and 3. Actually coming in public bathrooms to check on me and call my name even after 5 MINUTES of being in there, which is extremely embarrassing. I want nothing to do with my family as soon as I am financially able to and don't care if they die.TL;DR: Title. I pretend to love them but in actuality I couldn't care less about them, and I'm so good at lying about it because their controlling taught me how to hide everything I do from them. I keep so many secrets it's not even funny. I will never trust them again.