My(23F) ldr bf(24M) of 3 years said he is not happy in the relationship

We have been in a long distance realtionship for 3 years.

We called for 2 hours 2 days ago, and he told me he isnt happy in the relationship.

We dont know when we can see each other because of Corona virus. He says the uncertainty is killing him. We wanted to close the gap this year, but we dont even know if we can see each other.

He proposed to me 3 months ago, but i didnt tell my parents because of my relationship with them, and it hurt him so he wants to break off the engagement. He said he wants to have a second chance when we have jobs and money with a better ring and stuff. I said i thought the enagement was a little too early cuz we dont even have jobs and he knows about my relationship with my parents and he said it was shocking for him to hear that. (im still a student and he lost his job cuz of Corona virus. We werent ready to get married. My parents still pay for my school and its my last semester. They think they can control me cuz im not fianancially independent, and i was done with arguing with them, so im just waiting for the moment i graduate and get a job. My bf knows about it too, but it still hurts him i dont tell my parents he proposed to me. I totally get it, he deserves better)

Yesterday we called again, he said its fine cuz its just a little bump. We havent seen each other for 2 months now and its just natural to have those feelings. And he actually feels better after the talk about engagement. I asked if we could go back to normal and he said we are already back to normal.

But he is texting me less, calling me less. He always sends me sweet texts at night but last night he didn't. He also sends me pictures a lot but he didnt yesterday. He normally texts me at least every hour or 2 but yesterday not for 4 hours. I know its too early to judge because it has been only a day, but it surely makes me feel sad and insecure to see him like this. He didnt even say i love you when i texted him good night. So i said wheres i love you and he said you know i love you baby i really do. So idk.

He said he doesnt want to lose me and he still loves me, but idk what to think. Hearing all that made me think he wants to break up. I know he is hurt, I am hurt too.

I love him so much. I want him to be happy. And seems like at the moment, im not able to do so. Theres nothing i can do to change that, so it is hard. I hope its just a little bump, but maybe we are about to break up.

Tl;dr: my boyfriend says he doesnt wanna lose me but he is not happy in the relationship. He doenst text me as much. Am i ignoring signs? Should i let him go? Or does he really wanna stay with me?

Submitted April 09, 2020 at 12:25AM

We have been in a long distance realtionship for 3 years.We called for 2 hours 2 days ago, and he told me he isnt happy in the relationship.We dont know when we can see each other because of Corona virus. He says the uncertainty is killing him. We wanted to close the gap this year, but we dont even know if we can see each other.He proposed to me 3 months ago, but i didnt tell my parents because of my relationship with them, and it hurt him so he wants to break off the engagement. He said he wants to have a second chance when we have jobs and money with a better ring and stuff. I said i thought the enagement was a little too early cuz we dont even have jobs and he knows about my relationship with my parents and he said it was shocking for him to hear that. (im still a student and he lost his job cuz of Corona virus. We werent ready to get married. My parents still pay for my school and its my last semester. They think they can control me cuz im not fianancially independent, and i was done with arguing with them, so im just waiting for the moment i graduate and get a job. My bf knows about it too, but it still hurts him i dont tell my parents he proposed to me. I totally get it, he deserves better)Yesterday we called again, he said its fine cuz its just a little bump. We havent seen each other for 2 months now and its just natural to have those feelings. And he actually feels better after the talk about engagement. I asked if we could go back to normal and he said we are already back to normal.But he is texting me less, calling me less. He always sends me sweet texts at night but last night he didn't. He also sends me pictures a lot but he didnt yesterday. He normally texts me at least every hour or 2 but yesterday not for 4 hours. I know its too early to judge because it has been only a day, but it surely makes me feel sad and insecure to see him like this. He didnt even say i love you when i texted him good night. So i said wheres i love you and he said you know i love you baby i really do. So idk.He said he doesnt want to lose me and he still loves me, but idk what to think. Hearing all that made me think he wants to break up. I know he is hurt, I am hurt too.I love him so much. I want him to be happy. And seems like at the moment, im not able to do so. Theres nothing i can do to change that, so it is hard. I hope its just a little bump, but maybe we are about to break up.Tl;dr: my boyfriend says he doesnt wanna lose me but he is not happy in the relationship. He doenst text me as much. Am i ignoring signs? Should i let him go? Or does he really wanna stay with me?