You probably forgot about me in this quarantine, but I've been thinking of you the whole period, even without seeing you, I experienced happiness, sadness, surprise, regret, fear, concern, relief, hope, horniness, excitement, anxiety, delusion, pride, shame, madness, all of this just thinking about you and your implications with me, I dont remember feeling so much, I even dreamt of you three times. We had very few interactions, mostly trivial ones, but you aways was sympathic to me, when I made a scene in front of every one, you didnt go mad, you were laughing in secret to not shame me more, when I apologised, you said "It's fine" in such nice way. You aways seen to have good vibes, trying to stay positive and laugh at funny situations without taking it too seriously. You dont look like most of my colleagues, you look colourful, full of life dont fearing what people might think of you. You look more closed to strangers, maybe feeling insecure or being shy, but you ...

My girl (28) had been with me (32 M) for 2 years, and we were living together for 1 year. It was a great relationship. We had plans for marriage, kids, etc. We would express our love for each other every day and how we were lucky to have each other. We had fun together...traveling, working out, cooking, adventures with friends, etc. I make comfortable money, so she would be financially set. This seemed to be the perfect relationship. We had sex about 5 times a week, and we both loved (I thought) the sex. I gave her decent foreplay and she would cum at least once before I let loose. After, she would say that she loved it. A few days ago, after blowing me, she pulled out a vibrator and wanted me to use it on her. I wasn't excited, but I put on my best face and used it on her because I loved her and wanted to make her happy. She was loving it, but my dick went limp after about 5 minutes of it. When she saw my dick go limp she immediately had an aggressive outburst. She wouldn'...

We’ve been together for two years now and I thought we had very similar values and beliefs. My job relates to protecting vulnerable women who have been trafficked and are trying to get the help they need. I met him at an event that talked about the human trafficking industry and we instantly hit it off. My bf has a desktop at our apartment in his office and I decided to use it because my Mac is not turning on. He’s not home yet and I didn’t use his computer maliciously or try to snoop. When I turned his monitor on and typed in his password his reddit account was open. And this particular sub was of women who had done porn and were in extremely horrific situations and did not want to be there. Some were crying and in the about page, the sub said it was a collection of these types of gifs to get off on them. I felt really unsafe in the moment because this wasn’t something I expected from him. Time and time again he has said he’s extremely against the porn industry and he wants to help m...

I’ve been a lurker on here for awhile, but things have started to get worse and I need some advice :( I’ve been married to my husband for almost 4 years. We rushed into our marriage because of other factors I won’t get into, but I know we weren’t ready for it. Since we’ve been married, we’ve been unable to afford a place of our own and have been forced to live with our parents. We’re currently living in with his family in a single bedroom in a small house. And since we’ve been in quarantine due to the pandemic, shit has really hit the fan. Neither of us are working, so we are home together almost all the time and we’re confined to our single room. I don’t feel comfortable enough to go use any other space of the house because it’s not my house and it’s usually occupied with people (and I’m trying to social distance because some of his family are essential workers). For the past 3 weeks, he has been yelling at me about very trivial things and it’s really affecting my overall well-being...

First time poster, but I'll cut to the chase. Me and my roommate are exes, we moved in together whenever we were dating with my best friend (24M) and his brother (22M). We've all lived together for 2 years, I moved across the country to live here, my Roommate in Question (RQ) moved 2 hours away from home. College is way cheaper than our respective states, and all of my friends are where RQ is from. Even in our relationship, RQ would take out their stress on me, whether through emotional abuse, pinning things on me, or generally being very withdrawn and unwelcoming. Anytime I would bring it up, I'd get gaslit, you can see why the relationship ended. Despite all of that, we are actually very good as friends, we just don't mesh as a unit. Coronavirus has taken away a lot of lives for RQ, two of his family friends have died from it, and his grandma just died for unrelated reasons, but she was the only person in his family he had a real connection with. I give a lot of lee...

So, I (20f) don’t feel like I am really a huge part of my dad’s life all that much anymore. The past few years for us were rough, but I’ve never stopped caring for him. For some context, he was married to a woman who hated me and was very emotionally abusive towards me for about 10 years of my life starting at around age 6. They had my little half brother together, who I love dearly and was the reason they stayed together for so long. I love him so much and wouldn’t trade what I went through if it meant not having him here. He is a part of all this as well. They divorced in my teens, and he wasn’t single for long before starting to date again, and soon enough had plans to remarry again. He had known this woman since high school, and they didn’t even date for 6 months before deciding to get engaged. She’s way better than his last wife, but we still sadly don’t have much of a relationship, as much as I would like for us to. They got engaged the summer before my senior year of high sc...

Note: is kinda long thank you if you read it all the way i could use some advice or similar experiences I feel there are a lot of ways to be toxic of course but you look it up on Google or some self-help books it always names the same toxic traits: jealousy, need to control everything, feeling of suffocation and stuff like that. I think that I have never been those things (not entirely but it's never been a trait of mine). And like, yeah of course those are toxic but I also think that toxicity is waay more than that. Long story short: yesterday I had a realization moment where I visualized what I had been doing with my boyfriend. I had been narcissistic and completely demeaning, creating like a whole scheme between me, my family and him. Kind of giving my family certain ideas about him that where true but over exaggerated so as to feel, somehow superior to him? There are a lot of things that go into this, I'm kind of scared of myself for being like this and not realizing or...

I (15m) have been trying to get a bit of money for an instrument. I tried going to my adults but because of the corona virus I was told off. So I figure my next best option is her. She lives with us and has basically no bills and has a rather large bank account for where she works. Our relationship isn’t all that great but we are close at times. She is extremely irritable and gets upset quite easily. I’ve never asked her for money before or anything for that matter, so this would be my first time going to her for anything. I’m trying to figure out what would be the best way to approach her as to not upset her, but have the best possible outcome to the conversation. It’s not a small amount of money but it’s not much (under $1000). I’m also wondering if it would be best to ask her for the money in full or to see if she could possibly finance it for me. I have enough money to pay for it for one year and I’m hoping between then and now I can get more money to pay a few more months on it...

I've always been very good at spelling and highly value accuracy in language, including proper spelling. I think when someone doesn't spell correctly, it makes them look foolish and careless. Exceptions made obviously with later English learning or learning disabilities, but neither of those apply here. My boyfriend of 3 years consistently writes "alot," "didint," "wouldent," etc. When I started dating him I thought "it's okay, I will grow to accept it because everyone is smart in different ways." And it's true, he has a lot of the "emotional intelligence." So I didn't really notice it for a while but now it's really starting to piss me off. I know he knows how to spell the words. I've asked him. He just doesn't care. That's what turns me off - it's one thing to be unfamiliar with an uncommon word, I know he doesn't enjoy reading like I do (that's its own disappointment), but why would y...

TL;DR My friend has removed herself from everywhere after she found out I was in a relationship, I don't want to loose that friendship. Names have been changed to protect the identities. Indian Origin.In college, I went through a very tough breakup. After that once I had composed myself I started to like a junior named Rachel (friend, F22). It was a crush and nothing else, I never talked to her and never wanted to pursue her. You know how you see someone and get attracted? Innocent, nothing else.A little while after that I started dating my friend, Olivia. We were great friends for a few years and had great chemistry. I love her with all my heart. We have been together for a few years now. We have a fantastic relationship and are very close to each other. We have planned to get married soon and have our parents involved as well since in our culture parents do all the planning. Our relationship is only known to a few people and mostly regarded as best friends.After I started datin...

TLDR: I still have a fairly high sex drive, wife doesn't seem interested in sex anymore or foreplay when we do have sex. We are down to once every 2 months at best. Everything else is good but I need more physically in the relationship and want to explore more sexually. Any advice will be appreciated. Thanks My wife(30) and I(35) have been married for 8 years. In the begining we were having sex regularly and doing different things that were fun and exciting. Over the last few years our sex life has dwindled to once every couple months at best. I still have quite a high sex drive but she has next to no sex drive. Even when we do have sex I am the one that initiates it (I never force anything) it is the most boring sex ever. Quite often than not I will get a comment like “fine but you have to do all the work.” At first that started as a joke and the first couple times it was kinda fun to have her lay there and just have my way with her but she was still into it. Now it’s not so fu...

I have this really amazing friend (lets call her Elyse) who I've known since we were Juniors in college. When it got towards the end of college, we started to become closer and hang out more. We then graduated and went our separate ways, but kept in touch (mostly through skype writing workshops and what not). For the entire time I've known her she's had a boyfriend (long distance when we were in college). So I never had any romantic feelings for her besides thinking she was super cute when we first met. After we hung out and started being friends and she told me about her boyfriend, I stopped thinking about her like that and we just friends. It's always been like that. Two and a half years ago she moved to my city and we became even closer. Before she moved she crashed on my couch for a few weeks, and I helped her set up a few job interviews in my industry (I had a gf at the time, and everything was cool with her staying at my place and whatnot). When she fully moved...

Me (23M) and GF(24F) are having problems So my girlfriend and I argue very often these days. Like the other night, i was coming to pick her up from work and i arrived a bit early. So instead of waiting 10-15m i went to get gas. Where i had to wait cause there was only one employee. GF then proceed to call and question my whereabouts. Even after explaining where i was and such. I got hit with “Why couldn’t you just go with me?”. I know we are in a relationship and all, but i rather used my time more productively. Afterwards she did apologize, but what ticked me off the most was. She would try to say sorry and then point out what I did wrong to cause the argument. Ex. I’m sorry i started the argument, i had a hard day at work. But you escalate things and yell. You should work on that. Her saying things like this makes me so mad. I go through my day not trying to cause problems. Like letting thing slide if it’s not a big deal to argue about. It really ticks me off when i never started...

I don’t know how to start this. I was telling my boyfriend of couple weeks earlier why I was scared of most men, which includes my dad’s abuse towards me, past violent relationships and SA. When it came to the topic of SA, he asked about it, so I obliged. Not to get into details but I answered his questions about it and that’s it. He then said he couldn’t accept it and that it was partially my fault for partying, which really hurt me. He then dumped me. He has a really bad past which I accepted right away because I do believe people can change. I’m so hurt. What does he mean by saying he can’t accept this? I really loved him. I don’t understand his reaction. Why did he ask about it if he didn’t want to know? I’m going to look here for answer because he’s been ignoring my messages.. I told him he made me very happy and I don’t understand why he’s doing this. Will he comeback? Tl;dr :bf dumped me because some bad stuff happened to me, i want him back, i don’t understand Submitted M...

It feels like my boyfriend and I are at a crossroads, and I'm disappointed to admit that it doesn't sound feel unfamiliar... in fact it's starting to feel very much like a pattern in my relationships. I hate arguing and conflict. I hate it so much, that most times if I can possibly manage, I 'opt out' of it. That usually comes in the form of shutting down the conversation by refusing to have it, or even leaving... taking my sweet time in coming back and... even passive aggressively withholding affection because I feel like I've been slighted. A lot of the time these can be what I would expect to be small issues, but for some reason our emotions seems to run hot on them. Example, during a recent gaming session: Him: You didn't counter that ability again. You know if we don't counter that it's a loss, every time. Me: I couldn't get it. Him: Well I couldn't get it because I was doing this. Me: Well, I was doing this. Him: Why didn't...

Now that we live together, my GF and I got talking about our sexual pasts and now I’m curious as to whether or not she naturally played it down. To be honest, I slightly played mine down as I’m not proud of it. At 35 I’ve had sex with 20 women and sexual contact with a few more. I omitted the sexual contact ones even though she asked, as she balked at my number of 20. At first she said hers was 8, then 9. She said she omitted one as he didn’t come during it. She said there was no contact beyond kissing with anyone else, but has kissed a LOT of guys, maybe 50, when out clubbing. During the conversation a bit later she referred to me as the 10th, but said it was a slip of the tongue and reverted to 9. Does this sound like it’s true or is it likely she’s playing something down? I know it doesn’t matter and I don’t think 10 is a lot, but I’m curious now. It’s not about judging or shaming, I actually found our chat quite sexy and felt we really opened up. Dont want to open a can of wor...

I honestly felt like during this quarantine we would be spending more time together but I still see him only once a week. Is it weird that he doesn’t ask to hang out more than that or am I just overthinking this ? Submitted May 06, 2020 at 12:03AM I honestly felt like during this quarantine we would be spending more time together but I still see him only once a week. Is it weird that he doesn’t ask to hang out more than that or am I just overthinking this ?

I naturally do not like texting or messaging people outside of logistical communication (e.g. planning events), hence I simply dread having long-winded conversations through text with people through dating sites. Whenever I ever get a "match" I always keep conversations to a minimum (no longer than an hour) before asking for a phone number to carry conversing through calling, and then from there (after about a week), I push to set a date for meeting. Now of course, because of this pandemic, in-person dating is scratched off most peoples mind. So now I can’t go on normal dates with almost anybody. Sure, there are those "Zoom dates" or video dates that you can go on that people have suggested but it really does not feel the same. It for me just entertains the idea of long-distance dating which I also am absolutely not a fan of (I don’t even believe they hardly work). I honestly feel it’s only worth engaging in dating if the people you pursue are available to meet w...

It's been more than a year since they've been together and he's the one who broke it off. It's only been a day since we've been together, I want to tell him but I don't know how. Submitted May 06, 2020 at 12:14AM It's been more than a year since they've been together and he's the one who broke it off.It's only been a day since we've been together, I want to tell him but I don't know how.