My [23f] anti porn bf [26m] has really disturbing porn on reddit.

We’ve been together for two years now and I thought we had very similar values and beliefs. My job relates to protecting vulnerable women who have been trafficked and are trying to get the help they need. I met him at an event that talked about the human trafficking industry and we instantly hit it off. My bf has a desktop at our apartment in his office and I decided to use it because my Mac is not turning on. He’s not home yet and I didn’t use his computer maliciously or try to snoop. When I turned his monitor on and typed in his password his reddit account was open. And this particular sub was of women who had done porn and were in extremely horrific situations and did not want to be there. Some were crying and in the about page, the sub said it was a collection of these types of gifs to get off on them. I felt really unsafe in the moment because this wasn’t something I expected from him. Time and time again he has said he’s extremely against the porn industry and he wants to help me fight against trafficking. And I thought maybe it was an accident or something and I went to comments that the user had made. There were really degrading and filthy comments that he has made very recently. One said that he wishes he could do that in real life to his gf. I clicked off and feel really shaken up and unsafe. This does not feel real and makes no sense because he’s very kind and passionate and sweet in person. But the comments he made and the subs that I saw have shaken me to the core. I feel really bad for seeing that stuff and it was obvious that some of it was non consensual. Do I bring this up or just leave. The comment that he wanted to do that particular thing in real life doesn’t sit well with me. I also feel really stupid because I thought I was going to marry this man and knew what kind of person he was. And it’s not possible that this is someone else’s account, or someone else uses this computer, we’re on lockdown. What should I do? Should I talk to him about it?

TLDR: my bf is very anti porn and against human trafficking but when I accidentally saw his reddit page, he follows really degrading and scary subs with non consensual sex acts that get off on tortured women. He also made a comment about he wants to do that in real life. Should I leave or talk to him?

Edit: We both agreed that we would have a porn free relationship. He told me he didn’t watch it. And I’m leaving to go live with my family, I don’t trust him and I’m done, I don’t want anything to do with him anymore. Thank you all for the advice but his anonymous life on the internet is not something i can accept or condone. His words say something, and actions say something different. I’m safe and my brothers are driving down to get me, I’ll just tell him over the phone.

Submitted May 05, 2020 at 11:24PM

We’ve been together for two years now and I thought we had very similar values and beliefs. My job relates to protecting vulnerable women who have been trafficked and are trying to get the help they need. I met him at an event that talked about the human trafficking industry and we instantly hit it off. My bf has a desktop at our apartment in his office and I decided to use it because my Mac is not turning on. He’s not home yet and I didn’t use his computer maliciously or try to snoop. When I turned his monitor on and typed in his password his reddit account was open. And this particular sub was of women who had done porn and were in extremely horrific situations and did not want to be there. Some were crying and in the about page, the sub said it was a collection of these types of gifs to get off on them. I felt really unsafe in the moment because this wasn’t something I expected from him. Time and time again he has said he’s extremely against the porn industry and he wants to help me fight against trafficking. And I thought maybe it was an accident or something and I went to comments that the user had made. There were really degrading and filthy comments that he has made very recently. One said that he wishes he could do that in real life to his gf. I clicked off and feel really shaken up and unsafe. This does not feel real and makes no sense because he’s very kind and passionate and sweet in person. But the comments he made and the subs that I saw have shaken me to the core. I feel really bad for seeing that stuff and it was obvious that some of it was non consensual. Do I bring this up or just leave. The comment that he wanted to do that particular thing in real life doesn’t sit well with me. I also feel really stupid because I thought I was going to marry this man and knew what kind of person he was. And it’s not possible that this is someone else’s account, or someone else uses this computer, we’re on lockdown. What should I do? Should I talk to him about it?TLDR: my bf is very anti porn and against human trafficking but when I accidentally saw his reddit page, he follows really degrading and scary subs with non consensual sex acts that get off on tortured women. He also made a comment about he wants to do that in real life. Should I leave or talk to him?Edit: We both agreed that we would have a porn free relationship. He told me he didn’t watch it. And I’m leaving to go live with my family, I don’t trust him and I’m done, I don’t want anything to do with him anymore. Thank you all for the advice but his anonymous life on the internet is not something i can accept or condone. His words say something, and actions say something different. I’m safe and my brothers are driving down to get me, I’ll just tell him over the phone.