Emotional Abused by my husband and I don’t know what to do anymore. Me F (26) him M (29)

I’ve been a lurker on here for awhile, but things have started to get worse and I need some advice :( I’ve been married to my husband for almost 4 years. We rushed into our marriage because of other factors I won’t get into, but I know we weren’t ready for it. Since we’ve been married, we’ve been unable to afford a place of our own and have been forced to live with our parents. We’re currently living in with his family in a single bedroom in a small house. And since we’ve been in quarantine due to the pandemic, shit has really hit the fan.

Neither of us are working, so we are home together almost all the time and we’re confined to our single room. I don’t feel comfortable enough to go use any other space of the house because it’s not my house and it’s usually occupied with people (and I’m trying to social distance because some of his family are essential workers). For the past 3 weeks, he has been yelling at me about very trivial things and it’s really affecting my overall well-being.

Some examples include: There was a cup of water on the floor, he spilled the cup of water and cursed me out about how lazy I am, called me names and ignored me for 3 hours. Another time, he went to heat up some food for me while he was in middle of a game (I didn’t even ask him to do it, he just decided to) and told me to keep pausing it and I messed up somehow and he cursed me out again and called me a bitch and exclaimed this is what he gets for doing nice things and ignored me for 5 hours. Last night, I was concerned about one of my lymph nodes acting up and instead of being concerned and supportive, he started yelling at me that I shouldn’t let things get this bad and I always put things off til the last minute, then he ignored me and went to sleep. Just this morning I was sleeping and there was someone at the doorbell and I slept through it. He came in the room woke me up by screaming at me because I didn’t close the window and that the room is infected with coronavirus (because of the person at the door) and it’s all my fault. At the moment, he’s literally ignoring me and sitting out in his family’s living room and I’m literally at my wits end and feel like I’m gonna have a breakdown.

This happens almost every single day now and I don’t know what to do anymore. He gets mad at me for the smallest things and then proceeds to emotionally abuse me, apologize after ignoring me for hours and then repeats the cycle. It’s really taking a toll on my mental health and I literally have no place to go when he acts this way. I just don’t know what to do anymore and I’m tired of being treated this way. Any advice would be much appreciated :(

TL;DR: Spouse emotionally abuses me over the smallest shit and does it almost every single day. Because of my living situation, I literally have no where to go when he acts like this and I’m forced to stay in the same room while he ignores me and makes me feel like shit. I’m at my wits end and I don’t know what to do anymore.

Submitted May 05, 2020 at 11:26PM

I’ve been a lurker on here for awhile, but things have started to get worse and I need some advice :( I’ve been married to my husband for almost 4 years. We rushed into our marriage because of other factors I won’t get into, but I know we weren’t ready for it. Since we’ve been married, we’ve been unable to afford a place of our own and have been forced to live with our parents. We’re currently living in with his family in a single bedroom in a small house. And since we’ve been in quarantine due to the pandemic, shit has really hit the fan.Neither of us are working, so we are home together almost all the time and we’re confined to our single room. I don’t feel comfortable enough to go use any other space of the house because it’s not my house and it’s usually occupied with people (and I’m trying to social distance because some of his family are essential workers). For the past 3 weeks, he has been yelling at me about very trivial things and it’s really affecting my overall well-being.Some examples include: There was a cup of water on the floor, he spilled the cup of water and cursed me out about how lazy I am, called me names and ignored me for 3 hours. Another time, he went to heat up some food for me while he was in middle of a game (I didn’t even ask him to do it, he just decided to) and told me to keep pausing it and I messed up somehow and he cursed me out again and called me a bitch and exclaimed this is what he gets for doing nice things and ignored me for 5 hours. Last night, I was concerned about one of my lymph nodes acting up and instead of being concerned and supportive, he started yelling at me that I shouldn’t let things get this bad and I always put things off til the last minute, then he ignored me and went to sleep. Just this morning I was sleeping and there was someone at the doorbell and I slept through it. He came in the room woke me up by screaming at me because I didn’t close the window and that the room is infected with coronavirus (because of the person at the door) and it’s all my fault. At the moment, he’s literally ignoring me and sitting out in his family’s living room and I’m literally at my wits end and feel like I’m gonna have a breakdown.This happens almost every single day now and I don’t know what to do anymore. He gets mad at me for the smallest things and then proceeds to emotionally abuse me, apologize after ignoring me for hours and then repeats the cycle. It’s really taking a toll on my mental health and I literally have no place to go when he acts this way. I just don’t know what to do anymore and I’m tired of being treated this way. Any advice would be much appreciated :(TL;DR: Spouse emotionally abuses me over the smallest shit and does it almost every single day. Because of my living situation, I literally have no where to go when he acts like this and I’m forced to stay in the same room while he ignores me and makes me feel like shit. I’m at my wits end and I don’t know what to do anymore.