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Husband (30M) and I (34F) have known each other 7 yrs and married 6 yrs. We have 2.5 yr child who we planned and both adore. Problem is we have same reoccurring arguments that never actually get fixed. I have reached out for marriage counseling on four different occasions over the yrs, both pre/post baby, and all seemed like bandaids at most. The most recent session my husband opened up to the therapist (during his typical verbal and emotion abuse spout in front of her) and told her that a dr told him he was bipolar when he was younger (high school age maybe...didn’t ask specifics) and tried to medicate him with a trial set of pills. He said it seemed to help a little but messed with him more bc it was a short duration. His older brother mentioned to me in a serious but light way that he might be on the spectrum for asperger’s syndrome. When we dated yrs ago he was sweet, charming, even debonair which was a nice change from past guys I’ve dated. He won me over so we dated long distan...

You can be touch-averse without being aromantic. That's why we distinguish between romantic and sensual attraction. So I would say that can still be a crush. August 05, 2019 at 12:08AM

I don't really have that issue since I live in Japan. But, if I talk to the international community, the majority of the English speakers are white -> majority of English speaking aces are white as well. (´−｀) ﾝｰ August 04, 2019 at 11:59PM

Recently I went out with a girl I've known for a while just as a casual hangout. It wasn't anything official like a date, but I realized that I actually think she's super interesting. However, I've been getting relatively cold responses as I've been messaging her over the past week. The thing is, my friend recently started dating her best friend. However, I don't want it to come off as me using their new relationship (obviously girls talk). Is it weird for me to ask my friend to ask the girl he's dating what the girl I'm interested in thinks of me? Submitted August 04, 2019 at 11:26PM Recently I went out with a girl I've known for a while just as a casual hangout. It wasn't anything official like a date, but I realized that I actually think she's super interesting. However, I've been getting relatively cold responses as I've been messaging her over the past week. The thing is, my friend recently started dating her best friend. ...

There's been 2 things bugging me at the moment I suppose: the first is online dating. Whenever I seem to get close to a guy, they just suddenly ghost me. It seems to be a reoccurring pattern and I'm not sure why it keeps happening or if I seem to keep talking to guys who will only talk to me when they can be bothered to, instead of because they want to. But I keep getting hurt through this and whenever I get over someone doing this, I find someone new and they end up doing the same again. I don't understand what's wrong with me? I'm just sick of this happening over and over. The second is I guess real life dating. I've been in a few clubs in a few different cities and the first and only time I've had a guy who seemed interested in me was in a club when I was pretty drunk, and my friends wanted me to sober up so we could go... So i couldn't go over to that guy who was egging me on. And I massively regret it, I know it could have easily been nothing, bu...

My last relationship way about four years ago, and the was very unhealthy for both of us. I currently have the perfect job a place of my own. I have tried OKC and Match, and I can't get woman to respond and if they do and we meet I can't get a second date. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I have friends look over my profile and they can't see anything wrong. They just say "its very me". Is there anyone out there willing to help I would really appreciate it. link below Submitted August 05, 2019 at 12:02AM My last relationship way about four years ago, and the was very unhealthy for both of us. I currently have the perfect job a place of my own. I have tried OKC and Match, and I can't get woman to respond and if they do and we meet I can't get a second date. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I have friends look over my profile and they can't see anything wrong. They just say "its very me". Is there anyone out there wi...

After getting out of a toxic relationship I’ve tried getting back on the dating scene. Now I’ve been ghosted before but I could kinda see it coming bc the guys had red flags waving anyways. What’s recently really got to me though is being ghosted twice in a row by guys that seem like genuine good guys. The first one I brushed off bc it was more casual and we hadn’t gotten physical at all so there wasn’t really an attachment. But I started dating this guy and we instantly hit it off. No red flags, nothing about him I didn’t like. So sweet and affectionate and attentive. And Friday night he ghosts me out of no where. Nothing bad or weird happened, not fight or anything. We were talking about what we were gonna do this weekend and then I just never heard from him again. I’ve texted him but nothing. I know he has his phone and is seeing everything bc he’s even opened my snap. But nothing st all. It’s completely out of character for him too and he always talks about how being consistent is...

TL;DR: Don't approve of friend marriage, I don't want to go to his wedding. How do I tell him? I don't want to lie and make up some shit about how I'm busy on the date. edit: He's 24 not 23 sorry***** I've been playing video games with my friend group for the last 2, going on 3 years. Despite knowing each-other for a short time, we became fast friends (turned out randomly we're all obsessed with Runescape). Group has A [24/M], B[27/M], C[25/M], D[20/M], E[24/M](E is the one getting married). Quick summary of relationships because I think its important to context of their inputs. A and B are brothers who have known C and D since school. E has known them since school as well, and he was in the same grade/class as A. A: Doesn't think E should get married because he doesn't like his wife. He has known her since high school and still judges her by the decisions shes made in the past. I don't like this, however some of the mistakes in the past hav...

This happened today, and I've been trying to figure out how I feel so that I can see how to process this in a productive way. My sister called me this afternoon and said in a calm voice that I should know that my parents have admitted to not loving me as much as her and my other sister. For background information, my parents are extremely religious, somewhat conservative, and recently divorced for almost a year and a half. My relationships with them have always been strained due to my mental health issues that I've struggled with in the past. I was a troubled pre-teen, and I with depression, PTSD, and disordered eating. My family was very good about keeping up appearances when I was dealing with that. Both of them were emotionally abusive to me all of my siblings. I was pushed to me this image of a ‘good Christian’. I can still hear my mother’s voice in my head criticizing me for anything and everything. I’ve always been the ‘different’ one due to my beliefs and how I’ve want...

I know this may be wrong and I’m not trying to justify what I did, but I’ve been in a relationship with a woman for a year who’s a few years older than me. I started talking to this other girl who is younger and I think more attractive and we’ve been flirting for the past few weeks and she wants to hang out but my morals are kicking in and I think what I’m doing isn’t right but I’m stuck in a situation where it would upset the younger girl if I cut it off with her but it would break the heart of my girlfriend if I left her. It seems the other girl would be pissed at me if she knew I was in a relationship and at the very least would want me to break things off with my girlfriend before she would ever consider dating me but I shouldn’t have even done this in the first place. Lust is telling me to go for the girl who’s younger and more beautiful but love is telling me that this is wrong and I should break it off and never talk to the other girl again. Tl;dr: I’m cheating on my girlfrien...

[Tl:dr - girlfriend seems to be hiding me from some of her friends, have had some hiccups over time but have let them go, don’t really understand why she’s hiding me...] I’ll try to keep this short. We have been seeing each other since last October and I asked her out in January. There’s been some hiccups along the way which I’ll go into shorty (her texting/being flirty with guys over text, not telling family about me etc.) but I just wanted to get another opinion on what might be going on.. To summarise some of the hiccups: Went on first holiday together at the start of the year - found out she was talking to another guy in the days before it, got dick pics, told her friends and said she’d send a pic back (we were on a beach holiday at the time) We went away again a few months later and found she told her parents that she was away with one of her girlfriends I admittedly have snooped a little on her phone to see messages related to the above, and did see her flirting a lit...

TL;DR: I am confused about my feelings, I don't think I'm a healthy partner and don't know what to do with my boyfriend. Very long post, sorry. In march my friend and also classmate told me that one of his friend wanted to go back to school, and chose to go to ours. He also told me that his friend and I have so much in common and would make a lovely couple. I, coming from a bad break up, laughed and said that I wasn't interested, but I was happy to have a new friend. He came to school, my classmate introduced us to each other and we talked a lot. He asked my ig and texted me every day since. My ex and I lasted only two months but I was really REALLY fond of him. After the no contact break up he kept showing up out of nowhere irl asking me if I was dating someone else without any intentions to get back together, and also a mutual friend told me that he started doing coke, so the whole acceptance and move on thing has been really rough. Anyway, after a week of textin...

Obvious throwaway. It has been almost a week since I have stumbled upon his secret account and confronted my boyfriend about his secret twitter. I still feel bitter about it, because he was actively commenting on cam girl videos and having conversations with them in the feed. There were no private dms, but the comments alone were enough to make me feel disgusted with him. I have been in a relationship with him for almost 2 years and I thought we had a normal relationship. He was kind and loyal, in general his whole persona was innocent and playful. I am shocked to find this new side of him and dissapointed because I had told him that my ex had cheated on me with a girl online before. My boyfriend seems to think this does not count as cheating, but I can't help but feel betrayed and I find myself comparing myself to the cam girls he flirted with sexually. I have told him my feelings about everything and he has since deleted the account and apologized profusely, but I cannot let t...

My wife (31/F) and I (33/M) and been together for about 12 years and married about 10. We got married young when she got pregnant. Since then, we’ve started careers, had more kids, bought a house, etc. Essentially, we’ve made a life together. Despite all this, I’ve never felt like we are particularly compatible. We come from different backgrounds, have different values, different personalities, different ... everything it seems like sometimes. We just feel like two totally different people. She has also dealt with some mental health issues over the years that have posed a challenge to our marriage and left me feeling more like a caretaker than a husband at times. We’ve had good times and it’s not all bad, but we bicker at least weekly and have been through couples counseling on three separate occasions. Everything came to a head earlier this year. The last 12 months have had a lot of external stressors - money, jobs, our house, etc. - more so than in a typical year. We argued more ...

We planned this before my ex and I seperated. However, I then discovered he had a second cell phone, he was on snap chat after agreeing in couples counselling to not use it plus it said he was active on dating sites. I broke up with him. He left for his deployment with the navy, so now he's busy in Spain getting drunk and doing whatever. We're not in contact unless it's regarding our child. It's been a month now. His mother messaged me saying she still expects me to go on this camping trip, and I don't want to anymore. Not only has his mother told everyone that we're separating, but she peddled his narrative that I'm controlling and crazy and he denied all of his sketchy behaviours such as sleeping around, calling his ex in the middle of the night, etc. I found out all of this from his aunt who was begging me to "Stop trying to control ex" and that "it's so sad he had to lie to you to go be friends with other women". After that, I ...

I've been dating my girlfriend for 6 months. We decided to take out first vacation together. We went to Disney with my sons. Surprisingly, my soon to be ex wife was completely ok with this. Long story short, she decided to invite one of her friends (also 30F) so they could have fun while I was doing dad activities. Not exactly what I had planned, but went along for it. I wanted everyone to have fun. My girlfriend and her friend decided to go to Epcot and get drunk. They met up with my kids and I in Animal Kingdom. We all went on the safari and things took an unfortunate turn. The 30 year olds started acting up and tried to get off the safari to pet the animals. I had to get my girlfriend to calm down. Luckily, after talking with the guide they did not get in any trouble, but my kids told my ex this and now she's pissed. I'm also pissed she acted like this and have told her she CANNOT do this around my kids or it will cause issues. She never drinks so I don't know why t...

Childish? Maybe. Am I an asshole? Definitely. Should I break up? I don't know. My boyfriend isn't unattractive or anything. He's very good looking. Although not stylish and bad at keeping groomed he's a good looking guy. His brother? Absolute fucking supermodel. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months and first met his brother a month ago. It didn't bother me at first but over time it has really started to bother me. Every time I meet his brother my mind just goes like "fuck, I'm unlucky". I don't want to break up with my boyfriend. He's an awesome guy with a great personality, he's smart and has a bright future. I'm just a dickwad for being this shallow tbh What doooo? Tl;dr: my boyfriend is hot, but his brother is a supermodel. Whenever I meet his brother I feel like I got the short straw. What do? Submitted August 04, 2019 at 11:59PM Childish? Maybe. Am I an asshole? Definitely. Should I break up? I don't know.My...

I lost an amazing girl because I was too naive and shortsighted I’m in so much pain right now. I feel like such a fool. I had an amazing girl by my side; loving, supportive, caring, sweet, gorgeous, open minded, great career, and really intelligent. After a year and a half, I broke it off with her because I didn’t know how to deal with her binge drinking. It wasn’t often, but after a year and a half, it took it’s toll on me. Our relationship was perfect outside of the drinking. We understood each other, we were cut from the same cloth, we connected on so many levels. She was patient with me, she loved me unconditionally in spite of my flaws. I was a bit pushy with our sex life, but she guided me and showed me how to approach the matter in a healthier way. It’s changed my life for the better and even today I see it’s positive effect it’s had on my life. She was kind and understanding all the way through it. It was a dark time for me, but it changed me for the better. When I broke up...

Tl:dr at the bottom. Sorry for the long text. I would love some advice and dont know where else to turn to. My boyfriend and I (both 32, and I am female) have been together for almost a year now. We live together as well, and I have 2 daughters from a previous marriage and he has a son from a previous marriage as well. When we met, he was getting out of his very unhealthy, tumultuous marriage. I had been divorced for 5 years at that point. We started off kind of rocky trying to get used to each others issues, his being learning how to be in an actual healthy relationship. He was emotionally abused by her and was cheated on openly, among other things, and my previous marriage was destroyed by infidelity. I think we recognized that the other was broken and we felt safe together, which may be what drew us together at first (hence the rocky start). Over this year, we have grown alot, learning each other's needs, blending our parenting styles, becoming a family. It's been great...

We've been together since October 2016. Late last year I developed anorexia, and it got kind of bad. In April, I was hospitalized and I was in 24 hour care until late May. On one of my first few days there, I told him that I would call him at 6:30PM so that he would know when to expect my calls and be able to answer them. Over and over, though, he didn't answer the phone. I'd call him at 6:30 and figure that maybe he was distracted at the time, and call him again a little while later, and again a little while later. I think that I was able to get him on the phone three times, and I called him every day. During one of the phone calls, I told him that the hospital allows meals on Skype, so we could potentially share a meal together, and he said no, which really hurt. I was aware that he's uncomfortable with Skype calls, but I felt like he should have been willing to take steps to be more comfortable because we had been together for so long and because I was in the hospit...