My boyfriend (24) hid a secret twitter account full of cam girls from me (26f)

Obvious throwaway.

It has been almost a week since I have stumbled upon his secret account and confronted my boyfriend about his secret twitter. I still feel bitter about it, because he was actively commenting on cam girl videos and having conversations with them in the feed. There were no private dms, but the comments alone were enough to make me feel disgusted with him. I have been in a relationship with him for almost 2 years and I thought we had a normal relationship. He was kind and loyal, in general his whole persona was innocent and playful. I am shocked to find this new side of him and dissapointed because I had told him that my ex had cheated on me with a girl online before.

My boyfriend seems to think this does not count as cheating, but I can't help but feel betrayed and I find myself comparing myself to the cam girls he flirted with sexually. I have told him my feelings about everything and he has since deleted the account and apologized profusely, but I cannot let this go. Am I overreacting? Is this really just a grey area of porn? Does this really not count as cheating?

TLDR; Boyfriend hid a secret twitter account containing cam girl followers and had explicit comments on their videos. Does not agree that this is cheating, but just for fun.



Submitted August 04, 2019 at 11:55PM

Obvious throwaway.It has been almost a week since I have stumbled upon his secret account and confronted my boyfriend about his secret twitter. I still feel bitter about it, because he was actively commenting on cam girl videos and having conversations with them in the feed. There were no private dms, but the comments alone were enough to make me feel disgusted with him. I have been in a relationship with him for almost 2 years and I thought we had a normal relationship. He was kind and loyal, in general his whole persona was innocent and playful. I am shocked to find this new side of him and dissapointed because I had told him that my ex had cheated on me with a girl online before.My boyfriend seems to think this does not count as cheating, but I can't help but feel betrayed and I find myself comparing myself to the cam girls he flirted with sexually. I have told him my feelings about everything and he has since deleted the account and apologized profusely, but I cannot let this go. Am I overreacting? Is this really just a grey area of porn? Does this really not count as cheating?TLDR; Boyfriend hid a secret twitter account containing cam girl followers and had explicit comments on their videos. Does not agree that this is cheating, but just for fun.
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