Ghosting really needs to stop being a thing. IMO it’s more damaging then just being up front

After getting out of a toxic relationship I’ve tried getting back on the dating scene. Now I’ve been ghosted before but I could kinda see it coming bc the guys had red flags waving anyways. What’s recently really got to me though is being ghosted twice in a row by guys that seem like genuine good guys. The first one I brushed off bc it was more casual and we hadn’t gotten physical at all so there wasn’t really an attachment. But I started dating this guy and we instantly hit it off. No red flags, nothing about him I didn’t like. So sweet and affectionate and attentive. And Friday night he ghosts me out of no where. Nothing bad or weird happened, not fight or anything. We were talking about what we were gonna do this weekend and then I just never heard from him again. I’ve texted him but nothing. I know he has his phone and is seeing everything bc he’s even opened my snap. But nothing st all. It’s completely out of character for him too and he always talks about how being consistent is important. I can’t help but be really upset and wondering why he ghosted me out of the blue when things were going well and can’t even give me a reason. The only thing I could think of that would make sense to me since there wasn’t anything that happened between us that set it off is maybe he’s seeing someone behind my back and thinks ignoring me is the way to go about it? But that doesn’t help either bc then it makes me think well why am I not enough? Which is something I’ve been struggling with a lot in the past so to find someone who seemed so good and genuine to completely abandon me like this without even enough respect to give me an explanation really messes with my mind and heart and makes me wonder if something if wrong with me.

I’ve vented to my friends about it. Everyone just says he’s an asshole and must not have actually been a good person. I still don’t see how someone could do a complete 180 like that within 24 hours. I sent him one final text basically just basically explaining that I’m blind sided by this behavior and it really hurts me and I’d rather have an explanation than be left clueless but that I’m not gonna keep sitting here looking like a fool begging for a response and that I’m not gonna reach out to him again unless he reaches out to me.

This really sucks though. I just moved back to my hometown to live with my family while I’m in my last semester of grad school. I don’t have friends here and stay home most of the time so not only was he someone I really liked and could actually see something long term with, it hurts even more bc I’m here alone with no friends or anything. This is all just so mind boggling to me. What could make a guy go from sending a girl good morning texts every single day and being so sweet and affectionate and then less then 24 hours of talking about seeing each other suddenly ghost her and ignore her and not even give an explanation? I’ve been going back through our texts to see if I missed anything or a sign but there’s literally nothing. This literally came out of no where with no warning.

Sorry if I’m just rambling now. I’m just really upset and I know some people might think I’m taking it too hard but I’ve been through a lot of shit dating wise the past year and a half and I thought things were finally looking up and then I get a blow like this that I honestly never saw coming.

For those of you out there who ghost people, you’re a shitty person.

Submitted August 05, 2019 at 12:06AM

After getting out of a toxic relationship I’ve tried getting back on the dating scene. Now I’ve been ghosted before but I could kinda see it coming bc the guys had red flags waving anyways. What’s recently really got to me though is being ghosted twice in a row by guys that seem like genuine good guys. The first one I brushed off bc it was more casual and we hadn’t gotten physical at all so there wasn’t really an attachment. But I started dating this guy and we instantly hit it off. No red flags, nothing about him I didn’t like. So sweet and affectionate and attentive. And Friday night he ghosts me out of no where. Nothing bad or weird happened, not fight or anything. We were talking about what we were gonna do this weekend and then I just never heard from him again. I’ve texted him but nothing. I know he has his phone and is seeing everything bc he’s even opened my snap. But nothing st all. It’s completely out of character for him too and he always talks about how being consistent is important. I can’t help but be really upset and wondering why he ghosted me out of the blue when things were going well and can’t even give me a reason. The only thing I could think of that would make sense to me since there wasn’t anything that happened between us that set it off is maybe he’s seeing someone behind my back and thinks ignoring me is the way to go about it? But that doesn’t help either bc then it makes me think well why am I not enough? Which is something I’ve been struggling with a lot in the past so to find someone who seemed so good and genuine to completely abandon me like this without even enough respect to give me an explanation really messes with my mind and heart and makes me wonder if something if wrong with me.I’ve vented to my friends about it. Everyone just says he’s an asshole and must not have actually been a good person. I still don’t see how someone could do a complete 180 like that within 24 hours. I sent him one final text basically just basically explaining that I’m blind sided by this behavior and it really hurts me and I’d rather have an explanation than be left clueless but that I’m not gonna keep sitting here looking like a fool begging for a response and that I’m not gonna reach out to him again unless he reaches out to me.This really sucks though. I just moved back to my hometown to live with my family while I’m in my last semester of grad school. I don’t have friends here and stay home most of the time so not only was he someone I really liked and could actually see something long term with, it hurts even more bc I’m here alone with no friends or anything. This is all just so mind boggling to me. What could make a guy go from sending a girl good morning texts every single day and being so sweet and affectionate and then less then 24 hours of talking about seeing each other suddenly ghost her and ignore her and not even give an explanation? I’ve been going back through our texts to see if I missed anything or a sign but there’s literally nothing. This literally came out of no where with no warning.Sorry if I’m just rambling now. I’m just really upset and I know some people might think I’m taking it too hard but I’ve been through a lot of shit dating wise the past year and a half and I thought things were finally looking up and then I get a blow like this that I honestly never saw coming.For those of you out there who ghost people, you’re a shitty person.