To be fair his first work "The Aetiology of Hysteria" was shot to hell because it insinuated that upstanding men of noble birth were sexual predators that affected their victims (women) heavily well into adult life. It got much hate that the man back pedalled with this bull and spreaded it until he died. May 18, 2020 at 12:01AM

I only saw him once and I was moving anyway, so yeah. I still need that new doctor though. May 18, 2020 at 12:00AM

I identify as sex-indifferent, hetero-romantic, asexual. I was 36 before I figured it out. I sought out a therapist from an online LGBT friendly service. The person was nice but didn't have any experience with asexuality. I was trying to find out what I could do to save my marriage because my husband thought something was wrong with me or that I was faking/lying. When I tried talking to her about how to help my husband understand that I love him, but just don't feel sexual attraction, her suggestion was to just have sex more with him. I'd like you and other therapists to know that it's not as simple as just having more sex. Even though I am open to the possibility of sex, it is a chore. It is something I do because the person I love enjoys it. But it is a very intimate act that if I don't feel in the mood, raises issues of true consent. By saying to just have sex, you are saying that I should just give up my body for the use of someone else regardless of my willing

Imagine people being massively confused about this thing the whole world tells us is essential, needing to talk about this thing in order to be less confused. May 17, 2020 at 11:59PM

Early 2000's ANTM was straight wildin loool they did stuff like this all the time. May 17, 2020 at 11:59PM

What the fuck? That's just so unprofessional, hope you've found a new doctor since? May 17, 2020 at 11:55PM

I think he saw me like a daughter. He basically said as much. May 17, 2020 at 11:53PM

I'd be very concerned about someone who is possibly ace going into a marriage with someone who is probably not, without finding out first if you can be sexually compatible. It's a recipe for heartbreak. May 17, 2020 at 11:51PM

I had a somewhat similar experience with my dad when I came out to him, I told him that I think I’m ace, and that I’d prefer to identify as ace for as long as I’m comfortable with that label. He said to me “I think it’s too early for you to truly know if you’re ace, but I don’t honestly care since you’re not attracted to girls”, I’m roughly the same age as you, and I honestly felt kinda weird and uncomfortable when he told me that cause it was blatantly homophobic, but I chose to ignore that and focus on the fact that he seemed to accept me for who I am. But the difference is, is that I’ve been out for roughly a year, and he still tries to talk to me about do I find guys attractive and asks if I’m just lying to myself, and all kinds of things like that. While my sister is really accepting and nice and even though she doesn’t really understand it, she asks questions and tries to be polite. So my advice is to come out to a sibling or other trusted friend/family member in order to talk t

This I’d the stupidest thing I’ve ever read. May 17, 2020 at 11:45PM

Sex positivity =/= sexual attraction. Some asexual people don't mind sex, but they don't actively feel sexual attraction. It's okay for an asexual who is comfortable with sex to have sex with an allosexual partner as a favor. It requires communication and respect, but it can be a way to keep an allo/ace relationship alive. It is not okay to assume all aces are capable of this compromise, and if an ace does not want a sexual relationship at all, that's okay, too. May 17, 2020 at 11:44PM

Frued is discredited May 17, 2020 at 11:37PM

I also had a similar experience with my mom. It took a little bit of her own exploration(she had childhood trauma and she ignored her sexuality for many years until she came out as pansexual recently), but now she understands now that saying that is very invalidating and unfair. Especially compared with never saying that to a young straight person. She did, and still does occasionally, ask me things about asexuality, but she's long since accepted me. May 17, 2020 at 11:36PM

My therapist keeps telling me, every time we try to set life goals, that I should look for a relationship. And that she can’t wait for me to be in a relationship. Relationship relationship relationship. But look, I’m depressed and I don’t want a relationship. I’m content with my ace self and not being in a relationship. And I don’t want my happiness to hinge on my ability to be in a relationship. I don’t look at people and think: life would be better if I had one of those with me. Please don’t stuff relationships down anyone’s throat. Especially if they say they aren’t interested in being in one. May 17, 2020 at 11:33PM

Wow! You’ve done some amazing work! That’s a lot of flags! May 17, 2020 at 11:31PM

Yah I think coming out to her might help, mainly to give her a sense that she isn't alone in the way she feels. May 17, 2020 at 11:31PM

Great news everyone I‘m an infant apparently! Can I stop paying taxes now? May 17, 2020 at 11:30PM

Hmmmm last time I checked I didn’t want to bang my family May 17, 2020 at 11:29PM

Ah yes, Freud, the 19th century psychologist who did massive amounts of drugs and thought a desire for incest was a normal part of the developmental process. Certainly a more trustworthy source than modern researchers who build their knowledge from the centuries of science that have happened between then and now. May 17, 2020 at 11:27PM

A thing asexuals and aromatics hear a lot is ‘what if you change your mind in the future?’ Please never say this. Most aces have doubted their asexuality. It’s very frustrating to hear that because everyone is capable of changing their mind in the future, not just asexuals, but other people aren’t constantly lectured when they make a decision because ‘what if you change your mind’. It shouldn’t even be a big deal if we change our mind. People change. Also, please do not pity us. We are not missing out. It’s not like we have a terrible illness preventing us from doing this thing we enjoy. We’re just people who have different preferences to others. Some people really love chocolate cake, just looking at it or thinking about it makes them hungery. For us (and I’m generalising here) we just aren’t interested in the cake, it’s ok we guess, some of us will have a bite, but we prefer garlic bread. May 17, 2020 at 11:24PM

I just want to know what kind of show makes that question so relevant. But that girls response was amazing! “I just want to cuddle! What’s wrong with cuddling?” Genius May 17, 2020 at 11:24PM

I feel like male therapists and doctors just have a way more heteronormative view of sexuality in general, pretty much only had bad experiences with males in that regard, that's why I'm never going to go to a male therapist again. May 17, 2020 at 11:23PM

You’re so very welcome! I’m so glad I could be of assistance. Please do treasure your feelings with the goofiest of smiles :D Best of luck with your relationship! <3 May 17, 2020 at 11:23PM