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There was a post the other day about someone getting hemorrhoids from an anal injury but it seems to be deleted now. I'm in a similar situation. I've been dealing with bleeding anally for over a month now. Saw my doctor about it, they gave me suppositories. Even after the treatment, I'm still dealing with pain sometimes. Only recently has blatant bleeding from pooping stopped, but I'm still getting pain every 2 or 3 movements. Last night I tried starting anal play again and my ass was burning from using the smallest dilator I have! For a while I couldn't even do one finger. Most of my pain seems to be from inside the rectum? Like right on the inside of the sphincter "ring". It's so frustrating (and a bit demoralizing). I want to not be afraid of shitting and butt stuff. I've brought this up with my doctor and I might follow up again, but what things can I do from home to help with symptoms? I saw some comments on the previous post about warm w...

My girlfriend is going out with a group of her friends and a gay guy is it bad that i get turned on thinking about her getting fucked by him? Submitted September 11, 2021 at 12:26AM My girlfriend is going out with a group of her friends and a gay guy is it bad that i get turned on thinking about her getting fucked by him?

I want to introduce porn into our sex life, I know I should just come out and ask and have an adult conversation (which I will). I was curious if this is something that many do? If so from a female perspective, is it enjoyable to those of you who have tried it? Just seeking opinions and experiences. Submitted September 11, 2021 at 12:27AM I want to introduce porn into our sex life, I know I should just come out and ask and have an adult conversation (which I will).I was curious if this is something that many do? If so from a female perspective, is it enjoyable to those of you who have tried it?Just seeking opinions and experiences.

Hey, thanks for reading. So I (mid20sF) have been in a relationship for 6+ years with my bf (mid20sM). Recently we had a bad rough patch where I broke up with him, though we pretty quickly got back together. As such, over the last 2mo or so we’ve been trying to improve our relationship in all the ways it was messed up, one of which has been sexually, which I’m having a very difficult time with. Basically, a year into our relationship he told me about certain fetishes of his, including anal (on him). Before this all the sex we’d had had been initiated by me excluding I think once, and had happened sub 10 times after almost a year together. After that, the sex decreased even more, and now after nearing 7 years we have actual sex probably once every 2 years? Something like that. I’ve tried to introduce anal into having regular sex but that seems to decrease his enjoyment of the anal. In the past I’d also tried to introduce him giving me oral but after he called my pussy disgusting when ...

So, long story short, Im inviting a friend that i've know for years over and we've been sexually flirting for a couple days now, she's been asking if she can come over and I think that this Sunday it might happen, im 17 and trust me I know to wear protection, so don't worry, but here's my fear, My penis is around 5.3 inches, I've had sex before with my ex and she didn't mind, but for some reason I still have that fear that she will look at it and laugh? is that normal for all guys? even if they've had sex in the past? Im super excited but also in the back of my head I want to cancel the plans because of my fear. Im guessing 5 inches is fine and I know how to make a girl cum with my mouth/fingers so Im not worried about that, but just being laughed at is scary. Also I know that talking about sex with a minor can be weird so thank you to all that help! Submitted September 11, 2021 at 12:44AM So, long story short, Im inviting a friend that i've k...

Ok so usley when I get home from work I strip off my clothes grab a shower. Wednesday it was really nice and sunny so after my shower I went out on the back deck and sat in the sun. I was playing on my phone and nodded off for a few minutes. Well shortly after I went back in the house I felt it was so sore. Now it still hurts. I have be putting vitamin e on it. Any idea to help? Submitted September 11, 2021 at 12:48AM Ok so usley when I get home from work I strip off my clothes grab a shower. Wednesday it was really nice and sunny so after my shower I went out on the back deck and sat in the sun. I was playing on my phone and nodded off for a few minutes. Well shortly after I went back in the house I felt it was so sore. Now it still hurts. I have be putting vitamin e on it. Any idea to help?

I've never posted before so bear with me please, but I'm stuck in a weird situation that I've not experienced before and could use some objective interpretation. A week ago, my partner(26nb) and I(23nb) split up after two months of dating because I asked them to increase our communication when we weren't together. Background, we hung out a few times a week and I was becoming pretty good friends with their roommate(26F) as well, and I thought things were going great. But about a little over a month in, communication started to fall off. They were texting me less through out the day, offering to hang out less and less, and even when we were together, were becoming less physically affectionate and conversationally involved. I didn't mind at first, because I knew they were stressed with some intense life circumstances, obviously the honeymoon phase ends, and I was really falling for them and wanted to be with them. They then got into a pretty serious car accident, wh...

A few days ago, I deleted all my dating apps but I was left with a bunch of guys on my phone I didn’t know what to do with. I had an alright conversation with one of them, I gave him my number but he didn’t text me. He was online on the app and so was I, talking to other people. I lost interest because he didn’t make any effort to talk to me and other guys caught my attention. I had so many matches and conversations to keep up with. All were dead ends. I wrote it off but now that I’ve deleted the app. He messaged me on Wednesday and now I feel like talking. Maybe I overreacted and I could be interested in him. Lol is there any way of saving it after ignoring him on Tuesday (I think) and Wednesday? We’ll save it without setting up a “I’m okay with texting every few days” sort of situation lol Submitted September 10, 2021 at 11:59PM A few days ago, I deleted all my dating apps but I was left with a bunch of guys on my phone I didn’t know what to do with. I had an alright conver...

For context I’m 21M, have never done anything sexual with a girl (haven’t even kissed one). I matched with this girl on Tinder and we’ve been talking for a few weeks. I really like her and we get along super well, but since we live in different states I won’t see her for another week and a half. I matched with this other girl on Tinder who was only looking for something casual. I’m not super interested in her but I’m not opposed to doing anything, and we’re set to “hang” tomorrow. My question is whether I should wait to do anything serious (maybe not even that serious, but making out or fooling around) with someone I care more for, or whether I should get experience with someone I don’t really have feelings for/we both know it’s casual so I’m not absolutely horrible my first time with the girl I’m interested in a long term relationship with. Thanks for the help Edit: for context the girl out of state is 23, so likely has some experience, the girl I would do something casual with is ...

I (20M) went to a concert and had a super fun time by myself (was supposed to go with a friend but he cancelled last minute.) It was general attendance in a small venue so everyone was mushed together. By the end of the concert there was a special appearance by Avril Lavigne. Everyone was freaking out. I was wearing an Avril shirt and the 2 girls around me were massive fans as well and they were going crazy. I filmed the entire appearance and so did the two girls. By the end of it the girl to my right handed me her phone and asked to put in my number so I can send her the video I recorded. I put my number in and texted myself. She then hugged me twice. I took a picture with her and then I left. I texted her later that night with my name and the picture of us so she'd know who I was. She said Hey and then immediately asked for the video. I ended sending it to her Snapchat cause I was having trouble sending it via SMS. She thanked me and it seemed like that was it. I asked her if sh...

My co-worker tends to help me a lot even though he’s in another section, not sure if this is just friendliness as I work with nice people. Today when helping me, he put his hand on my shoulder. I have a low key crush on him and it didn’t make uncomfortable. But I would never put my hand on a co-worker and very attuned to touch. I’m wondering if this was a flirty move to break the touch barrier or something men do platonically? Submitted September 11, 2021 at 12:16AM My co-worker tends to help me a lot even though he’s in another section, not sure if this is just friendliness as I work with nice people. Today when helping me, he put his hand on my shoulder. I have a low key crush on him and it didn’t make uncomfortable. But I would never put my hand on a co-worker and very attuned to touch. I’m wondering if this was a flirty move to break the touch barrier or something men do platonically?

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The ending kinda hit- September 10, 2021 at 11:35PM

Mhm, it can be a lot to figure out but in time, if you keep learning and listen to yourself, you'll get it. September 10, 2021 at 11:34PM

I do too. It’s really nice to look at and I like all the colors in the flag. (My fav color is actually purple) so it works out nice for me. :3 September 10, 2021 at 11:33PM

yep... companies are nobody's ally September 10, 2021 at 11:33PM

I just finished a therapy session and when I brought up the topic of sex after sexual abuse. I told my therapist I’d been reading here. She said dating is the journey and sex is the destination. I’m not sure if I agree with that, can’t it be both? Like you get to know each other, have sex, and know each other better. She talked about the importance of both people being attracted to one another before sex. I found this confusing as well. If I only took off my clothes for someone I found attractive then I’d never have had any sex. If I only took off my clothes for something that felt good I’d just be eating a lot of Nutella in the buff. Can’t sex be about wanting to briefly feel good or cementing a relationship or just wanting to be normal? Though I have started to find men attractive so maybe it’s coming? I ended the session telling her to go ahead and book the family a trip to Disney World- because I think by the time I’m done sorting all this out she could spring for Grand Floridia...

My boyfriend hasn't said anything about anal so far, but I wanted to surprise him for a special occasion. It had been 3 months since we first dated and I thought I'd surprise him with a plug. I expected him to be at the very least excited even if he wasn't interested in anal sex. To be honest, I'm not a huge fan of anal but I love being plugged. To my shock, he was a bit surprised, then dead quiet, then kinda awkward about foreplay, and he went very slow with sex, asking me if everything was ok. He kinda got soft too, very terrible all around :( I just lost all enthusiasm, didn't feel sexy at all. Now I dunno if I shouldn't have done this. And what kinda guy doesn't like his girlfriend who is kinky? It's not like I asked him to do anything?? It's not like he needs to do an effort, and all my exes have all loved loved loved it. If anything they wanted more. Am I overreacting? Should I expect better from him? He didn't alk about it and just said...

I have only orgasmed once, a year ago with my then partner. Ever since then I’ve been trying to reach it again but I just haven’t been able to. Until last night when I squirted 6 times in under an hour. And what I realized is I truly think it comes down to mentality. I usually have to be quiet when I pleasure myself do to lack of privacy. But I was completely alone last night and I could scream, and make all of the crazy sounds I needed. I think it’s hard to reach orgasm when we’re not fully comfortable and we’re holding back. I just wanted to write this to give hope to other ladies. I myself was discouraged for so long thinking I could never orgasm again. Or that it was a one time thing. But now I feel more confident. Submitted September 10, 2021 at 11:07PM I have only orgasmed once, a year ago with my then partner. Ever since then I’ve been trying to reach it again but I just haven’t been able to. Until last night when I squirted 6 times in under an hour. And what I realized i...