Here! May 19, 2022 at 12:26AM

I’m a 22(m) and haven’t been in a serious relationship for about two years now. My last relationship ended right before Covid, and since then I’ve kinda have been in a slump. Tinder and online dating really isn’t my thing, and was wondering if y’all have any advice on how to get out of this slump . I never used to have issues talking to girls , and but Being locked up in the house do to Covid for that year made me anxious around girls. I just get very nervous to approach them and start a conversation. If y’all could give me any advice or conversation starters I would appreciate it. Submitted May 19, 2022 at 12:00AM I’m a 22(m) and haven’t been in a serious relationship for about two years now. My last relationship ended right before Covid, and since then I’ve kinda have been in a slump. Tinder and online dating really isn’t my thing, and was wondering if y’all have any advice on how to get out of this slump . I never used to have issues talking to girls , and but Being locked up

I just need to get this out of me, I feel like I’m going insane. I’m so terrified of ruining every relationship I come into. All i can think is “well guess you just screwed that up” or “that’s any respect they had for you gone” It hurts so fucking much to feel these things because I know damn well how irrational they are— I used to have major depression and as much as I hate to admit it I’m still holding on to that. People always want to protect me because they see me as emotional and vulnerable but I dont want to be that way! I don’t want to be afraid like this! I don’t feel this way with my friends. Only romantic partners. I never ever tell my partners this because I feel like they’ll think I’m clingy and leave me. I’m so scared all the time and it makes dating hell. I am an extremely affectionate person and love being in relationships because it allows me to express that but I don’t know how to stop feeling this way. It is absolute hell on earth Submitted May 19, 2022 at 12:09

A bit of background I’m 23 male. I haven’t had a serious relationship since I was in high school. I have been working on personal growth, and learning to love myself. It hasn’t been easy, and by no means am I a perfect person. But I think I have matured and come a long way. I have been trying to get back into the dating game, and it’s been difficult. I have asked two women out (not back to back, over the span of months) and the first one turned out to prefer woman (this is an ongoing theme, o often have crushes on women that turn out to not be into men). We are friends and she’s a cool person. The other person said they were not available for the month. I’ve chatted with some of my female friends asking about how I can improve, or what kind of red flags I put up. Other than being to nice (not r/niceguys but just overly nice), I would make a rad significant other. I’m quirky, passionate, funny, and lack some self confidence. I just find it difficult to get out to places or to find me

I(22F) have never worked in my life, I live in a third world country where there’s no part time job. Since the pandemic hit, I had to stop going to university because my family members are worried about Covid while having members with chronic diseases. Since we don’t need to work and have income from our investments, no one works. I’m very comfortable in this life style but sometimes I feel so useless. I have wanted to settle abroad but I don’t want to work 8 hours daily to barely cover rent. My dad offered some money to help me get a degree in Aus, I am scared to do everything alone. I’ve a bf (21M) (hidden from my family except my brother) my family would be against of because of his religion,we used to date locally but he had to go the states for college. He’d come live with me if I move to Aus but I can’t let my family know. They’d cut me off entirely, I don’t want to stop seeing my family. I don’t want to find out my dad died while we didn’t talk for years. It haunts me even in m

So like I mentioned, I and my partner have been together for 3 years and have had a lovely time, we love each other dearly but my bf keeps suggesting open relationships and arrangments like those. He has been suggesting that for a while and since I am not as comfortable with it I have informed him of the same. Just today, when I asked if he considers himself polyamorous he says he just wishes to 'fuck more people'. And I have told him he's free to do as he pleases and if wishes to explore this he may do so but I don't want to be in an open relationship so I shall be walking out of this relationship and his life cordially but I don't think I can take that. Especially after unstable relationship of my parents which includes adultery made my life difficult. I don't wish to restrict him or what he does I just don't wish to be in an open relationship. We both join graduate school and he earlier mentioned he can't do long distance if it's cross country

Is this a new thing? Reminds me of when I used to say "yee yee" (in a high voice) in high school trying to be a redneck :D. May 18, 2022 at 11:06PM