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are these red flags?

So I'm going to try to keep this short. This is my first time meeting someone off a dating app. It's not their first time though. I've been alone and single for over the past year. I stopped drinking and faced some bad trauma I was hiding relating to being used sexually. I've l hung out with this person 3 times now and they keep telling me they really like me. Which freaks me out because I feel like people need more time to get to know one another. On our second date we tried to have sex. I had a panic attack and basically was holding back tears. (We were drinking) They stopped right away and gave me space. Wanted me to stay the night and talk about it. After that date they still want to see me.... This person seems like a player though, handsome, talks about how he's dated Instagram models (but that they are mean on the inside). They tell me that they like "nice girls" and that they are usually into heavy people (I'm not that kind of heavy). But

/u/Vagabond_Explorer on Could my wife be asexual?

The edit does help with more info. I respect you trying to save things. Still, I don’t think any of us can really give you an answer. Could she be? She could, it could also be something completely different. Have you tried something like couples counseling? It really sounds like you need someone like that to work with both of you to find out what’s really going on. December 21, 2022 at 12:42AM

/u/NomiMaki on Are u still considered asexual even if u watch p*rn

"If someone watches The Room by Tommy Wiseau it's because they have no taste in movies" is exactly what you sound like. December 21, 2022 at 12:40AM

/u/HopieBird on Could my wife be asexual?

What is sad is that a guy who loves his wife. Has a beautiful 18 month baby girl and a home he has worked his ass off to provide for his family. Is here literally begging for some suggestions because his marriage is falling apart, and all i get is berated. It's very easy to tell that some of the responses are dripping with the posters own historical trauma. But i am not your past parter. I'm a genuine guy sincerely trying to keep his marriage together. I don't want to collect my daughter every weekend from a petrol station because i didn't try everything possible. I don't understand what it is you want from us. Say she is asexual, then what? How will that magically fix your marriage. Will you then understand you aren't sexually compatible, (finally) accept it and live happily ever after? December 21, 2022 at 12:37AM

Why do guys retreat?

Just curious… why do most guys retreat and internalize if they get stressed? My boyfriend goes silent for days and won’t answer texts or calls if he is stressed. I have communicated with him about him just letting me know he’s okay because he has a very high risk job, but I may as well not exist for a week and then he reaches out like no silence ever occurred. It is very frustrating. Submitted December 21, 2022 at 12:06AM Just curious… why do most guys retreat and internalize if they get stressed? My boyfriend goes silent for days and won’t answer texts or calls if he is stressed. I have communicated with him about him just letting me know he’s okay because he has a very high risk job, but I may as well not exist for a week and then he reaches out like no silence ever occurred. It is very frustrating.

Would you wear(at bars) a light up bracelet that indicates what you’re looking for ?

I just graduated college and am a single guy and have gone out a few times with friends. I think it’s safe to say that people go to bars to be social, meet people, make friends and potentially meet a special someone. I noticed sometimes there can be a bit of misunderstanding when someone is looking for something beyond a conversation. For example when I had this idea in a bar there was a girl who had talked to probably 10 guys but her roommate ended up telling me she had a boyfriend. This is completely fine and a woman should be able to do what she wants but this is where the idea sparked What if bars sold bracelets that would light up and you can press a button and the color changes and each color is relating to your status. The two basic colors would be Red means taken, green could mean single open to a conversation. There could also be a few colors and the band of the bracelet could be the bar’s name/design. I know there’s some drawbacks like if a girl has green men can potentia