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How do I stop being ghosted

So I've been trying internet dating for a while and ive gotten some hits but I get like a short conversation before I'm ghosted. I've had issues with being too much or overbearing so I try to let them lead but I don't know if I'm going about it wrong. Submitted October 07, 2022 at 02:14AM So I've been trying internet dating for a while and ive gotten some hits but I get like a short conversation before I'm ghosted. I've had issues with being too much or overbearing so I try to let them lead but I don't know if I'm going about it wrong.

Was this man ever interested or was he simply playing games the whole time?

I feel like this guy completely wasted my time and I still have no proper answers as to why he has so much attitude towards me and what his true intentions really were. Matched him on an app not long before the pandemic began, so just over two years. During that time period he was making lots of effort and he stated he's genuinely looking for something serious/a relationship. But I was busy with work and life etc, so didn't put in as much effort. Basically he seemed more intentional and I wasnt. But then not long after I realised I needed to actually try to get to know the guy more as otherwise whats the point of being on an app and I was interested enough to do so. For some reason it just never worked out after that . We never managed to be on the same page. And obviously the pandemic and multiple lockdowns hit and caused problems with regards to being able to actually meet the guy properly.m We kept disconnecting then reconnecting. He kept coming out with the same lines i....

/u/Synval2436 on Writing as an aro-ace

First rule of anything is learn by example - you want to write, read books in a style / genre you like and see how they're doing them. If you feel uncomfortable with sex scenes, you can skip them / suggest they happened and just cut to the next chapter / scene. It's called "fade to black" or "closed door". If you want to see how to write romance without much sex, Christian romance usually does that because sex is supposed to happen after marriage. Many YA books don't describe sex much (some do, so you need to pick the ones that don't). As for romantic feelings, you can describe aesthetic attraction and developing emotional connection as a close approximation of romantic feelings. Keep in mind that unless you write romance as a genre, the romantic plot doesn't need to be a focus and in some genres you can do completely without (if you're writing a detective / crime mystery do you really need a romance in there?). October 06, 2022 at...

/u/I-just-wanna-talk- on So um I was at a sleepover

🧐 is it sexual attraction or some kind of aesthetic attraction? I have strong aesthetic and romantic attraction. Kinda like "OMG this person looks so beautiful, I love them aaaaaaa" or "this guy's style is ON POINT, I can't stop looking!!". But it doesn't mean I find them hot in a sexual way. It can be confusing to tell these apart. I always thought that "crushes" just meant feeling romantic & aesthetic attraction and that - for most people - sexual attraction only happens when you're in a relationship. LOL October 06, 2022 at 11:09PM

is a girl really interested if she says so but doesn't show it ?

I matched with this girl on tinder and she messaged me first about how we have the same music taste. We hit it off really well and from the way she messages me I think she does like me. The issue is that we've been talking for a couple of weeks and I have already asked her out twice and she said she was busy. I believe her and this isn't what I have a problem with. What's really confusing to me is the fact that I find myself always messaging first and trying to initiate things. So I told her that if she wanted to go out with me she should let me know and we can set something up. She told me that she really wants to go out but isn't very good at initiating things like this, and that I should let her know if I had another plan for something that we could do. As much as I like her and I think she's telling the truth, I really don't want to ask her out for the 3rd time and her ending up being busy again. Should I stop messaging first and asking her out and wai...

Advice for building to asking a girl out

So there's a cute girl in one of my classes. I saw her in uni the gym the other day so I decided I'd go up and talk to her about it before class. We just had a quick conversation (maybe a couple minutes) about the gym and I'm wondering how you guys think I should go about asking her to grab coffee. I figure I'll just walk up to her to chat again and get her name next time but I've never successfully asked a girl out. Any advice is appreciated. Looking for a bit of a step by step guide lol. Submitted October 07, 2022 at 12:15AM So there's a cute girl in one of my classes. I saw her in uni the gym the other day so I decided I'd go up and talk to her about it before class. We just had a quick conversation (maybe a couple minutes) about the gym and I'm wondering how you guys think I should go about asking her to grab coffee. I figure I'll just walk up to her to chat again and get her name next time but I've never successfully asked a girl out....