Asexuality is certainly not constant for some people, so you should absolutely not feel invalid about that. You may be somewhere on the grey end of the a-spec, but that's totally fine. Ultimately it's only about how you feel about sex, if you never want it (even if you get 'excited' sometimes) then you're asexual, full stop. But even if you want it only under certain circumstances, or you have some hormone swings that make you feel different sometimes, you can still be in the a-spec. Most importantly it's only a function of how you feel, not what other people perceive you to be. Good luck, and I hope you have some more understanding "friends". July 12, 2020 at 11:37PM