Broken Marriage or broken wife?

Tonight the sustained wind really kicked up at the new house. We noticed some tree branches grinding on the roof right above our son's second story bedroom and thought it would likely keep him awake. So I made a quick trip to Lowe's before they closed to get a telescoping tree pruner so the roof didn't get screwed up during the long night.

When I got back, I also had the vine guide wire that my wife requested I get since I was going anyway. She came out, looked at it and fiddled a bit to get it ready. No problem.

When I was finishing up attaching the pruning blade and tossing out the packaging etc., I asked my wife to grab my hands-free head lamp from inside (where she was already headed) and toss it out so I could see what I was doing in the dark and target the right branches etc.

"I'm cold" she huffed as she walked in - irritated that I had the audacity to ask for her to help me a bit and allow me to speed up and parallelize the urgent task at hand.

Such a simple task on her part was getting my head lamp, while mine was dodging bugs, pollen, saw dust, wind-blown dirt, and heavy falling branches while sawing and threading through dense brush. Her only part was to add one simple mutually beneficial task to her couch-sitting que and enable the real work to get done in a timely fashion. Completion of this also lets our boy get to sleep AND PROTECT THE HOUSE WE ALL LIVE IN. What in the living fuck is that behavior?

She wasn't cold when looking at her gardening wire, but conveniently got miffed when returning to her padded pampered lifestyle I facilitate when she actually had to help do some heavy lifting for once.

I am beyond done feeling hesitant to get her to help with the simpler parts of the heavy lifting I continually do, all while I continue paying for everything.

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Broken Marriage or broken wife?



Submitted April 14, 2019 at 06:42AM

Tonight the sustained wind really kicked up at the new house. We noticed some tree branches grinding on the roof right above our son's second story bedroom and thought it would likely keep him awake. So I made a quick trip to Lowe's before they closed to get a telescoping tree pruner so the roof didn't get screwed up during the long night.When I got back, I also had the vine guide wire that my wife requested I get since I was going anyway. She came out, looked at it and fiddled a bit to get it ready. No problem.When I was finishing up attaching the pruning blade and tossing out the packaging etc., I asked my wife to grab my hands-free head lamp from inside (where she was already headed) and toss it out so I could see what I was doing in the dark and target the right branches etc."I'm cold" she huffed as she walked in - irritated that I had the audacity to ask for her to help me a bit and allow me to speed up and parallelize the urgent task at hand.Such a simple task on her part was getting my head lamp, while mine was dodging bugs, pollen, saw dust, wind-blown dirt, and heavy falling branches while sawing and threading through dense brush. Her only part was to add one simple mutually beneficial task to her couch-sitting que and enable the real work to get done in a timely fashion. Completion of this also lets our boy get to sleep AND PROTECT THE HOUSE WE ALL LIVE IN. What in the living fuck is that behavior?She wasn't cold when looking at her gardening wire, but conveniently got miffed when returning to her padded pampered lifestyle I facilitate when she actually had to help do some heavy lifting for once.I am beyond done feeling hesitant to get her to help with the simpler parts of the heavy lifting I continually do, all while I continue paying for everything.​Broken Marriage or broken wife?
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