Emotional intimacy???

I love my SO but as the years go on, I feel more distant and withdrawn. I'm emotional exhausted. I honestly don't have anymore care in me.

Even though we do not have any major issues, I feel as though the emotional intimacy is gone. He would tell a stranger anything he'd tell me. He would never stand up for me. I can trust him romantically but I know he'd never have my back. I can't confide in him bc it would be fair game in any conversation he has. He wouldn't discuss our sex life but that's about it. And I wouldn't even care if he did.

Before we got married I was really his first real gf. He's work oriented. He's always on a task. But our relationship just falls to the side. I feel as though he doesn't try. He doesn't put in an effort. I feel like I have the same relationship he does with one of his friends or his grandmother.

I run myself crazy trying to find a way to be seen. Always looking for a gesture to be like omg he cares. He filled my car up two months ago and I cried. Like omg he thought of me. Lol.

Do you have any tips on how it increase emotional intimacy in a marriage? Or crap how to make myself less pitiful. I'm feeling emotional starved. We've been together eight years. My self worth continues to decrease as nothing changes. Idk. Any advice would be appreciated.

Submitted April 14, 2019 at 06:18AM

I love my SO but as the years go on, I feel more distant and withdrawn. I'm emotional exhausted. I honestly don't have anymore care in me.Even though we do not have any major issues, I feel as though the emotional intimacy is gone. He would tell a stranger anything he'd tell me. He would never stand up for me. I can trust him romantically but I know he'd never have my back. I can't confide in him bc it would be fair game in any conversation he has. He wouldn't discuss our sex life but that's about it. And I wouldn't even care if he did.Before we got married I was really his first real gf. He's work oriented. He's always on a task. But our relationship just falls to the side. I feel as though he doesn't try. He doesn't put in an effort. I feel like I have the same relationship he does with one of his friends or his grandmother.I run myself crazy trying to find a way to be seen. Always looking for a gesture to be like omg he cares. He filled my car up two months ago and I cried. Like omg he thought of me. Lol.Do you have any tips on how it increase emotional intimacy in a marriage? Or crap how to make myself less pitiful. I'm feeling emotional starved. We've been together eight years. My self worth continues to decrease as nothing changes. Idk. Any advice would be appreciated.