Navigating the early days between dating and relationship

I'm dating a woman that I met from an app and it's going well so far. We've been seeing each other since mid February and it's progressing - we hang out weekly and she's stayed over a few times. I'm not going to rush it, because we only see each other weekly right now it's still too early I feel to define the relationship, however if it's still going well in a month I'll bring it up I think.

In the meantime I'm trying to subtly move things along and get closer to her. I want to see her more regularly and talk more. However she works several jobs and is a genuinely busy person - working 6 out of 7 days a week. I recently brought up in conversation that I respect how much she works but wondered if we could see each other at least twice a week. She replied that she hardly has time for herself as it is with her work, so that idea was kind of shut down.

I don't want to scare her off being too full on too early, so I guess I'll see if there's opportunities to see each other during the weeks ahead. I also mentioned doing a day trip somewhere or an overnight stay out of town and she's receptive. I'm going to invite her to hang out with me and my friends soon so that'll be another step.

One thing that bothers me though and is a bit of a red flag for me is she is very slow at replying to texts. I'm talking sometimes not responding for a day. I don't think there's any bad reason for this, but I do wonder. I think she's genuinely at work most of the time or tired after work. I'd like to set expectations of communication early on but I'm reluctant to mention the texting because it could come off the wrong way. Have you experienced this?

I'm the type of person who overthinks so while I'm enjoying getting to know this woman I'm also worried it'll all go wrong. Trying not to think that way.

TLDR: been dating a woman for over a month but hanging out weekly at best, she takes a long time to reply to me, trying to see her more often and hear from her more often to get closer to her as we hopefully transition from dating to something more.



Submitted April 14, 2019 at 02:31AM

I'm dating a woman that I met from an app and it's going well so far. We've been seeing each other since mid February and it's progressing - we hang out weekly and she's stayed over a few times. I'm not going to rush it, because we only see each other weekly right now it's still too early I feel to define the relationship, however if it's still going well in a month I'll bring it up I think.In the meantime I'm trying to subtly move things along and get closer to her. I want to see her more regularly and talk more. However she works several jobs and is a genuinely busy person - working 6 out of 7 days a week. I recently brought up in conversation that I respect how much she works but wondered if we could see each other at least twice a week. She replied that she hardly has time for herself as it is with her work, so that idea was kind of shut down.I don't want to scare her off being too full on too early, so I guess I'll see if there's opportunities to see each other during the weeks ahead. I also mentioned doing a day trip somewhere or an overnight stay out of town and she's receptive. I'm going to invite her to hang out with me and my friends soon so that'll be another step.One thing that bothers me though and is a bit of a red flag for me is she is very slow at replying to texts. I'm talking sometimes not responding for a day. I don't think there's any bad reason for this, but I do wonder. I think she's genuinely at work most of the time or tired after work. I'd like to set expectations of communication early on but I'm reluctant to mention the texting because it could come off the wrong way. Have you experienced this?I'm the type of person who overthinks so while I'm enjoying getting to know this woman I'm also worried it'll all go wrong. Trying not to think that way.TLDR: been dating a woman for over a month but hanging out weekly at best, she takes a long time to reply to me, trying to see her more often and hear from her more often to get closer to her as we hopefully transition from dating to something more.
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