Looking for marriage advice

Hi guys, I'm looking for some advice here. The hubs and i have been married 6 years this year, together for 11. We've gone through lots of hardships together and I think overall we have a pretty strong marriage. But in the past we've gone to couple's therapy for "lack of intimacy" as in hubs was completely ignoring me and playing video games every chance he could, and i was naturally feeling very abandoned, etc. Things have gotten significantly better on that end, ever since therapist flat out confronted him saying "if you want to stay married you need to make spending time with your wife a priority." I think this similar sort of situation is playing out in other relationships now, and i think I'm realizing hubs doesn't "prioritize" relationships like i do. He doesn't have friends he hangs out with at all, and all family visits (his family) are coordinated by me. Now it's playing out like not visiting family members that are important to me (my side of the family). I have always visited my family without him. Some of this is due to finances but if I'm being honest i know it's because it doesn't rank high on his priority list. It bothers me. I have really worked hard to develop relationships with his family, but he hasn't done the same and it pisses me off. Sorry if rambly, I'm still trying to figure out my own feelings here and trying to figure out what to do. I'm open to suggestions at this point because I'm not really sure what i should do.

Thanks guys. :)

Submitted April 13, 2019 at 09:24PM

Hi guys, I'm looking for some advice here. The hubs and i have been married 6 years this year, together for 11. We've gone through lots of hardships together and I think overall we have a pretty strong marriage. But in the past we've gone to couple's therapy for "lack of intimacy" as in hubs was completely ignoring me and playing video games every chance he could, and i was naturally feeling very abandoned, etc. Things have gotten significantly better on that end, ever since therapist flat out confronted him saying "if you want to stay married you need to make spending time with your wife a priority." I think this similar sort of situation is playing out in other relationships now, and i think I'm realizing hubs doesn't "prioritize" relationships like i do. He doesn't have friends he hangs out with at all, and all family visits (his family) are coordinated by me. Now it's playing out like not visiting family members that are important to me (my side of the family). I have always visited my family without him. Some of this is due to finances but if I'm being honest i know it's because it doesn't rank high on his priority list. It bothers me. I have really worked hard to develop relationships with his family, but he hasn't done the same and it pisses me off. Sorry if rambly, I'm still trying to figure out my own feelings here and trying to figure out what to do. I'm open to suggestions at this point because I'm not really sure what i should do.Thanks guys. :)