How to behave after one night stand?
I 24YOF slept with 35YOM from Tinder last week. The sex was actually pretty good. Normally all my ONS have been awful (lasting less than 5 minutes). I packed up and left immediately after the sex. I was pretty stone cold towards him after sex- but he was nice to me and said he'd pack up, gathered my things for me whilst I was getting changed and stated that he wasn't kicking me out.
He texted me immediately after I walked out the door asking if I got in my Uber okay. He then seemed pretty concerned for me as my uber took the wrong route home and he texted/called multiple times apologising for texting multiple times but that he was worried and asked me to share my uber route with him so he could make sure I got home okay. My phone died. Early Sunday morning I woke up to all the texts and I replied apologising for scaring him and that I was home safely and appreciated his concern. He replied saying something along the lines of thanks for letting him know and that he was relieved.
This was unusual for me as normally after casual encounters it's radio silent on both ends- even going as far to unmatch and never speak again. I checked my tinder today and he's still there.
We haven't spoken since. I've been doing my own thing busy with work and I'm sure he has too.
We didn't speak at all about what we were looking for/what expectations were. It was pretty spontaneous as I had been out for drinks earlier in the day. Our texts previously had been pretty flirty/risky so after a few wines I invited myself over on Saturday night for some more wine and fun.
I spoke with a girlfriend about it today and she urged me to see him again as he sounds nice/caring. To be honest I've been single for a long time and I would ideally like to meet someone and create something. Originally I had put this experience down to a casual encounter, but on reflection I wouldn't mind seeing him again.
I've never met up with someone I've randomly slept with before. I've been single/independent so long I don't really know how to behave in a vulnerable way. So how do I navigate this? Do people just invite their ONS out to dinner the next week? Do I just brush it off and leave it as a ONS?
Submitted November 11, 2020 at 12:03AM
I 24YOF slept with 35YOM from Tinder last week. The sex was actually pretty good. Normally all my ONS have been awful (lasting less than 5 minutes). I packed up and left immediately after the sex. I was pretty stone cold towards him after sex- but he was nice to me and said he'd pack up, gathered my things for me whilst I was getting changed and stated that he wasn't kicking me out.He texted me immediately after I walked out the door asking if I got in my Uber okay. He then seemed pretty concerned for me as my uber took the wrong route home and he texted/called multiple times apologising for texting multiple times but that he was worried and asked me to share my uber route with him so he could make sure I got home okay. My phone died. Early Sunday morning I woke up to all the texts and I replied apologising for scaring him and that I was home safely and appreciated his concern. He replied saying something along the lines of thanks for letting him know and that he was relieved.This was unusual for me as normally after casual encounters it's radio silent on both ends- even going as far to unmatch and never speak again. I checked my tinder today and he's still there.We haven't spoken since. I've been doing my own thing busy with work and I'm sure he has too.We didn't speak at all about what we were looking for/what expectations were. It was pretty spontaneous as I had been out for drinks earlier in the day. Our texts previously had been pretty flirty/risky so after a few wines I invited myself over on Saturday night for some more wine and fun.I spoke with a girlfriend about it today and she urged me to see him again as he sounds nice/caring. To be honest I've been single for a long time and I would ideally like to meet someone and create something. Originally I had put this experience down to a casual encounter, but on reflection I wouldn't mind seeing him again.I've never met up with someone I've randomly slept with before. I've been single/independent so long I don't really know how to behave in a vulnerable way. So how do I navigate this? Do people just invite their ONS out to dinner the next week? Do I just brush it off and leave it as a ONS?
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