My boyfriends (20M) dad hates me (20F). What should I do next ?

My boyfriends dad use to like me a lot until I went on a family holiday and I wasn’t in a good place mentality, I was having a lot of issues with my mum which for me affected my mood. So now his dad hates me and thinks I’m ungrateful about the holiday (bare in my mind I paid for myself on the holiday, not one meal I didn’t pay for). His dad would never ask me any question and even engage in conversation with me the whole holiday which made me feel really out of place as well. I would try and to make conversation but they didn’t really work, so basically I felt alone the whole time. The only person I felt comfortable to talk to was my boyfriend. By the end I completely forgot to say thank you for the trip to his dad which was completely my fault, I was really worried about going home and having to deal with issues with my mum and I completely forgot to say thank you. Which I do understand was very wrong and ive apologised many times. His dad had a talk with him after saying how ungrateful I am and how I wasn’t appreciative of the holiday. As soon as my boyfriend told me about that conversation I immediately sent his dad a message of how sorry I was about not saying thank you and told him how grateful I was to have been invited, he read my message and never replied. So I went out and bought him a gift and a card to say thank you again and left it at the house for when he got home because he was at work and I was busy that afternoon to drop it off. He then had a conversation with my boyfriend saying how he doesn’t forgive me because I never said thank you in the first place and I had to be reminded to say thank you to actually do it. After that didn’t work on Valentine’s Day I bought everyone in the family very expensive gifts just because i like doing that for people and nothing after that. Whenever I go to his house to stay over I always say hi when I come in and he just ignores me. We both don’t say anything to each other and now my boyfriend likes to keep us separate because of the awkward tension.

It’s been 4 months since everything went down and he still hates me. I’ve had a few talks with my boyfriend about it and he says I can’t tell him what to think and at the end of the day it’s his house. I really want to make the relationship better with his dad for the sake of our relationship. This issue is the only thing hard or bad in our relationship, we get a long so well and he’s my best friend. I don’t know what to do at this point and I even questioning if we should stay together because I want my boyfriend to be with someone his dad likes.

TL;DR my boyfriends dad hates me despite me trying to fix the relationship many times. Nothing is working and I’m worried about the future of the my relationship with my boyfriend

Submitted April 21, 2019 at 05:53AM

My boyfriends dad use to like me a lot until I went on a family holiday and I wasn’t in a good place mentality, I was having a lot of issues with my mum which for me affected my mood. So now his dad hates me and thinks I’m ungrateful about the holiday (bare in my mind I paid for myself on the holiday, not one meal I didn’t pay for). His dad would never ask me any question and even engage in conversation with me the whole holiday which made me feel really out of place as well. I would try and to make conversation but they didn’t really work, so basically I felt alone the whole time. The only person I felt comfortable to talk to was my boyfriend. By the end I completely forgot to say thank you for the trip to his dad which was completely my fault, I was really worried about going home and having to deal with issues with my mum and I completely forgot to say thank you. Which I do understand was very wrong and ive apologised many times. His dad had a talk with him after saying how ungrateful I am and how I wasn’t appreciative of the holiday. As soon as my boyfriend told me about that conversation I immediately sent his dad a message of how sorry I was about not saying thank you and told him how grateful I was to have been invited, he read my message and never replied. So I went out and bought him a gift and a card to say thank you again and left it at the house for when he got home because he was at work and I was busy that afternoon to drop it off. He then had a conversation with my boyfriend saying how he doesn’t forgive me because I never said thank you in the first place and I had to be reminded to say thank you to actually do it. After that didn’t work on Valentine’s Day I bought everyone in the family very expensive gifts just because i like doing that for people and nothing after that. Whenever I go to his house to stay over I always say hi when I come in and he just ignores me. We both don’t say anything to each other and now my boyfriend likes to keep us separate because of the awkward tension.It’s been 4 months since everything went down and he still hates me. I’ve had a few talks with my boyfriend about it and he says I can’t tell him what to think and at the end of the day it’s his house. I really want to make the relationship better with his dad for the sake of our relationship. This issue is the only thing hard or bad in our relationship, we get a long so well and he’s my best friend. I don’t know what to do at this point and I even questioning if we should stay together because I want my boyfriend to be with someone his dad likes.TL;DR my boyfriends dad hates me despite me trying to fix the relationship many times. Nothing is working and I’m worried about the future of the my relationship with my boyfriend