Is this just a lack of alone time getting to me?

Hi guys. I’m in a interracial relationship with this girl that I absolutely was drooling over for two months before we started dating. As soon as we started dating, things moved quick. She spends almost every night at my house with the exception of one or two nights. I absolutely love being with this girl and couldn’t wait to see her every night, but over the last week I think my lack of alone time has gotten to me. I’m pretty outgoing, but I’ve always needed time away from people to recharge. With my friends, I usually only spend up to 8 hours with them max before I have to leave and be by myself. Nothing against my friends, but being around people 24/7 exhaust me. However, I was able to spend pretty much every moment with this girl for four weeks and wasn’t tired of it. We work together, so I almost am around her everyday at work too. Usually I get two days off a week though and I think that balanced things because I could have those days to myself and have some alone time. Last week though she was sick, so she was with me for both days off, every night, and when she was better worked the exact same days with me. I’ve had no alone time for 8 days straight, but she will be out of town for the next 4 days. After 5 days straight of being with her, the lack of alone time started to get to me I was like “do I have to break up with her? How can I have some alone time” but I reassured myself that I love her and I just am not used to no independence. The relationship just hasn’t had that spark for me for the last few days, but she absolutely loves me and wants to be around 24/7. Am I just panicking? Is this just the introverted side of me wanting some alone time? I feel like such a piece of shit for feeling this way. I love this girl and want things to continue. Have any of you ever felt this way? This is my first real relationship so I might just have to adjust to having a partner.



Submitted August 23, 2019 at 12:12AM

Hi guys. I’m in a interracial relationship with this girl that I absolutely was drooling over for two months before we started dating. As soon as we started dating, things moved quick. She spends almost every night at my house with the exception of one or two nights. I absolutely love being with this girl and couldn’t wait to see her every night, but over the last week I think my lack of alone time has gotten to me. I’m pretty outgoing, but I’ve always needed time away from people to recharge. With my friends, I usually only spend up to 8 hours with them max before I have to leave and be by myself. Nothing against my friends, but being around people 24/7 exhaust me. However, I was able to spend pretty much every moment with this girl for four weeks and wasn’t tired of it. We work together, so I almost am around her everyday at work too. Usually I get two days off a week though and I think that balanced things because I could have those days to myself and have some alone time. Last week though she was sick, so she was with me for both days off, every night, and when she was better worked the exact same days with me. I’ve had no alone time for 8 days straight, but she will be out of town for the next 4 days. After 5 days straight of being with her, the lack of alone time started to get to me I was like “do I have to break up with her? How can I have some alone time” but I reassured myself that I love her and I just am not used to no independence. The relationship just hasn’t had that spark for me for the last few days, but she absolutely loves me and wants to be around 24/7. Am I just panicking? Is this just the introverted side of me wanting some alone time? I feel like such a piece of shit for feeling this way. I love this girl and want things to continue. Have any of you ever felt this way? This is my first real relationship so I might just have to adjust to having a partner.
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