My boyfriend (Trans M 18) didn’t treat me (Trans M 19) all that good when we started dating and it’s been bothering me, do i talk to him about it?

we were together for about two months before we broke up for a while. since, we’ve gotten back together and it’s been almost a year. it’s an amazing, healthy, and happy relationship now, but before we broke up it wasn’t, and the farther away from it we get the more i look back at it and resent him a little.

i asked him out in high school because i liked him a lot, and he agreed and we started a relationship. he never paid attention to me, so everyday i’d be just watching him have fun and mess around with everyone in class and never really give me the time of day unless he had to. if i ever asked him about it he told me he was going through a hard time so he was being distant to people, when i was clearly the only one he was being distant with. he rarely texted me and if he did he would barely respond. we would plan dates and then day-of he’d bail. the two dates we went on were only 3 hours long, and the last one we had our first kiss. it was my first kiss ever so at the time it meant a lot, which he knew, and then just a few days later he broke up with me. over text. in the middle of class. and then avoided me for days after. i felt like dirt, i don’t have to say, but i just accepted it. i could go into stuff he did when we were apart where he texted his friends and posted cryptic things online about me that weren’t true, for whatever reason. but then he came around and apologized for it all (at least all of the broken up stuff). i don’t even think he realized how crappy he was to me when we were dating too. again,

everything it fine now. we’ve both grown and for an entire year now he’s been a completely different person. i try not to hold it all against him since he’s shown me now that i’m worth more and that he’s a better person than that but as of late i’ve realized that i don’t know if i can just let it go. i read my journal entries of the time and it breaks my heart the way i talked about it and how little self-respect i’d had. do i talk to him about it or would that just bring up old dirt? if i should talk to him, how?

(tl;dr) my boyfriend didn’t treat me that good when our relationship started and it still bugs me, do i talk to him about it?

Submitted September 08, 2019 at 11:47PM

we were together for about two months before we broke up for a while. since, we’ve gotten back together and it’s been almost a year. it’s an amazing, healthy, and happy relationship now, but before we broke up it wasn’t, and the farther away from it we get the more i look back at it and resent him a little.i asked him out in high school because i liked him a lot, and he agreed and we started a relationship. he never paid attention to me, so everyday i’d be just watching him have fun and mess around with everyone in class and never really give me the time of day unless he had to. if i ever asked him about it he told me he was going through a hard time so he was being distant to people, when i was clearly the only one he was being distant with. he rarely texted me and if he did he would barely respond. we would plan dates and then day-of he’d bail. the two dates we went on were only 3 hours long, and the last one we had our first kiss. it was my first kiss ever so at the time it meant a lot, which he knew, and then just a few days later he broke up with me. over text. in the middle of class. and then avoided me for days after. i felt like dirt, i don’t have to say, but i just accepted it. i could go into stuff he did when we were apart where he texted his friends and posted cryptic things online about me that weren’t true, for whatever reason. but then he came around and apologized for it all (at least all of the broken up stuff). i don’t even think he realized how crappy he was to me when we were dating too. again,everything it fine now. we’ve both grown and for an entire year now he’s been a completely different person. i try not to hold it all against him since he’s shown me now that i’m worth more and that he’s a better person than that but as of late i’ve realized that i don’t know if i can just let it go. i read my journal entries of the time and it breaks my heart the way i talked about it and how little self-respect i’d had. do i talk to him about it or would that just bring up old dirt? if i should talk to him, how?(tl;dr) my boyfriend didn’t treat me that good when our relationship started and it still bugs me, do i talk to him about it?