I (21f) had an awkward date with new guy (23m), unsure if he is still interested or if I'm overthinking

I hooked up with my friend's coworker after a gig last Friday night. We were both pretty drunk and I just saw it as a bit of fun so went back to his place. To my surprise he asked me for a coffee a couple of days later! We went for the coffee which was really nice and we got along super well. We kept talking through messenger and he asked me for dinner a couple days later on a night I was free. We had dinner, he took me to a bar afterwards and ice cream. He kissed me at the end of the night, saying he had wanted to do that all night. There was a lot of banter and we generally got along well. I then went back to his place where we had sex but I did not stay over as I had told my parents I'd be home that night and he had work in the morning. We continued to talk and my best friend (and his coworker) was having drinks so he met me and my best friend at her place where we had a few drinks, everyone had fun and he asked me to go back to his place, saying he just wanted to cuddle (lol). We went back to his and ended up having sex anyway and cuddling all night. The next morning, he said I could borrow his car to drop him at work and drive myself home as Ubers were expensive. He said to pick him up from work and we could go get dinner so I agreed. When I picked him up he seemed very tired and hungover and the vibe seemed a bit off. I was finding it difficult to be myself and banter with him as he seemed a little moody but not too bad. I was also feeling extremely anxious due to this different vibe he was giving off. After dinner he suggested going back to his to watch a football game and I suggested we go back to mine since I lived closer, and told him my parents would be home as I live with them. He said it would be nice to meet my parents, so he drove to his place where he showered, changed and shaved and we headed to mine where he met my parents. He chatted to them for a bit and made a good impression. We watched a movie after that on the couch, and I was super exhausted by this point and we shortly went to my bed and I fell asleep quickly so nothing happened. In the morning we made eggs for breakfast and things were ok. His friends were flying in for a gig so he was going to hang out with them in the morning so left after breakfast, gave me a hug and a quick kiss goodbye. That was this morning and we haven't spoken since then. I have been feeling SO anxious today worrying that he has lost interest in me and it's done. I'm very upset by this as we are such a good match, have very similar interests and it's nice to meet a guy I actually like! Am I completely overreacting or is it good to listen to your gut? Keep in mind he got out of a long-term relationship about 2 months ago but she lives in a different city and they broke up due to long distance.

TL;DR; hooked up with great guy, thought it was just one night stand but we've been on several dates now. Last date that he initiated he was tired and hungover and gave off a weird vibe and it came off like he wasn't as into me. However that same night he decided to meet my parents and stayed at my place (no sex) so I could be completely overreacting. The next morning we made breakfast and then he left. That was this morning and we haven't spoken since. Do I listen to my gut and assume he's lost interest or what is the best course to take from here? Please be kind as I have anxiety which doesn't help in situations like this.

Submitted May 04, 2019 at 05:45AM

I hooked up with my friend's coworker after a gig last Friday night. We were both pretty drunk and I just saw it as a bit of fun so went back to his place. To my surprise he asked me for a coffee a couple of days later! We went for the coffee which was really nice and we got along super well. We kept talking through messenger and he asked me for dinner a couple days later on a night I was free. We had dinner, he took me to a bar afterwards and ice cream. He kissed me at the end of the night, saying he had wanted to do that all night. There was a lot of banter and we generally got along well. I then went back to his place where we had sex but I did not stay over as I had told my parents I'd be home that night and he had work in the morning. We continued to talk and my best friend (and his coworker) was having drinks so he met me and my best friend at her place where we had a few drinks, everyone had fun and he asked me to go back to his place, saying he just wanted to cuddle (lol). We went back to his and ended up having sex anyway and cuddling all night. The next morning, he said I could borrow his car to drop him at work and drive myself home as Ubers were expensive. He said to pick him up from work and we could go get dinner so I agreed. When I picked him up he seemed very tired and hungover and the vibe seemed a bit off. I was finding it difficult to be myself and banter with him as he seemed a little moody but not too bad. I was also feeling extremely anxious due to this different vibe he was giving off. After dinner he suggested going back to his to watch a football game and I suggested we go back to mine since I lived closer, and told him my parents would be home as I live with them. He said it would be nice to meet my parents, so he drove to his place where he showered, changed and shaved and we headed to mine where he met my parents. He chatted to them for a bit and made a good impression. We watched a movie after that on the couch, and I was super exhausted by this point and we shortly went to my bed and I fell asleep quickly so nothing happened. In the morning we made eggs for breakfast and things were ok. His friends were flying in for a gig so he was going to hang out with them in the morning so left after breakfast, gave me a hug and a quick kiss goodbye. That was this morning and we haven't spoken since then. I have been feeling SO anxious today worrying that he has lost interest in me and it's done. I'm very upset by this as we are such a good match, have very similar interests and it's nice to meet a guy I actually like! Am I completely overreacting or is it good to listen to your gut? Keep in mind he got out of a long-term relationship about 2 months ago but she lives in a different city and they broke up due to long distance.TL;DR; hooked up with great guy, thought it was just one night stand but we've been on several dates now. Last date that he initiated he was tired and hungover and gave off a weird vibe and it came off like he wasn't as into me. However that same night he decided to meet my parents and stayed at my place (no sex) so I could be completely overreacting. The next morning we made breakfast and then he left. That was this morning and we haven't spoken since. Do I listen to my gut and assume he's lost interest or what is the best course to take from here? Please be kind as I have anxiety which doesn't help in situations like this.