Am I Doing Something wrong? (Would like advice please)

So I (26M) have never been in a relationship before. Previously, I never wanted to be in a relationship. All throughout high school and college my friends and I were all single and I felt that being in a relationship would take away from being able to hang out with them.

Since then my attitude on all that has changed. I feel that overall I am very happy. I'm a medical student who has amazing friends and amazing family. I workout regularly, have a diverse range of hobbies, like going out, like staying in etc. This past year, I've put a big effort into putting myself out there to try and find someone but have had literally no luck so far and would like some advice on what I could do differently.

I've gone out with probably 10 women in the past year, none of them at the same time. I met them both through everyday life and online dating. 7 of the 10 ghosted me after the first date. 3 of the 10 I went out with for at least 3 weeks and all ended telling me that they didn't think they were ready to date or weren't ready for anything serious. It's these 3 that I would really like some advice on. For these 3, everything would always seem to be going great, and then all of a sudden they would text me one day saying that they didn't feel like they were ready to date or for something serious. They would always tell me how sweet I was, how attractive they found me, how much they appreciated me and then literally a couple days later their attitude would completely change. This always took me by surprise because I didn't go out with them for a significant period of time and never suggested that we make our relationship anything "serious".

Any advice on what I may be doing wrong or how I could approach dating different would be greatly appreciated, thanks.

Submitted September 28, 2021 at 12:12AM

So I (26M) have never been in a relationship before. Previously, I never wanted to be in a relationship. All throughout high school and college my friends and I were all single and I felt that being in a relationship would take away from being able to hang out with them.Since then my attitude on all that has changed. I feel that overall I am very happy. I'm a medical student who has amazing friends and amazing family. I workout regularly, have a diverse range of hobbies, like going out, like staying in etc. This past year, I've put a big effort into putting myself out there to try and find someone but have had literally no luck so far and would like some advice on what I could do differently.I've gone out with probably 10 women in the past year, none of them at the same time. I met them both through everyday life and online dating. 7 of the 10 ghosted me after the first date. 3 of the 10 I went out with for at least 3 weeks and all ended telling me that they didn't think they were ready to date or weren't ready for anything serious. It's these 3 that I would really like some advice on. For these 3, everything would always seem to be going great, and then all of a sudden they would text me one day saying that they didn't feel like they were ready to date or for something serious. They would always tell me how sweet I was, how attractive they found me, how much they appreciated me and then literally a couple days later their attitude would completely change. This always took me by surprise because I didn't go out with them for a significant period of time and never suggested that we make our relationship anything "serious".Any advice on what I may be doing wrong or how I could approach dating different would be greatly appreciated, thanks.