Went on a first date that went extremely well, sent a follow up text the next day...two days later, still haven't received a reply. What do I do now?

On Friday night I went on a date with a guy from Tinder. We went out for a few drinks at a nice cosy place in town. The conversation was really easy and we hit it off straight away. Four hours flew by, and before we knew it, the staff were telling us they were closing and we were the last ones there. We laughed a lot, he complimented me a lot, told me I was a lot more interesting than his previous tinder dates...so I guess you could say all the signs were there. After we left we walked outside in the cold for a bit, he gave me his jacket and put his arm around me. Then we waited in his car listening to music while I booked my Uber. As soon as the Uber came, I said goodbye and left. Looking back now, I almost feel like I left too quickly...I didn't even give him a hug or anything. I don't know why. I just opened the car door and jumped out and said "drive safely". I feel so silly!

Anyway, I texted him the next evening (Saturday) saying: "Hey thank you for last night, it was lovely to meet you. I'm sorry we didn't get to listen to more of that BB king playlist. Hope you got home alright :)"

Today is Monday. I haven't heard a thing. Granted, he's not a big texter and made it clear he prefers getting to know someone in person, not over messages. But I'm sure my text warrants a reply? I truly thought we had a great night and he was giving me all the signals that he was really into me. I'm worried I was too cold at the end.

What do I do now? Do I message him again or just let it be? It's really confusing (and a little dispiriting) that I could've read the whole night wrong. I was thinking of sending something along the lines of this: "Hey, it'd be nice to see you again so if you aren't interested please just let me know, as I thought we had a great time together"

Thank you in advance, friends <3



Submitted August 11, 2019 at 11:25PM

On Friday night I went on a date with a guy from Tinder. We went out for a few drinks at a nice cosy place in town. The conversation was really easy and we hit it off straight away. Four hours flew by, and before we knew it, the staff were telling us they were closing and we were the last ones there. We laughed a lot, he complimented me a lot, told me I was a lot more interesting than his previous tinder dates...so I guess you could say all the signs were there. After we left we walked outside in the cold for a bit, he gave me his jacket and put his arm around me. Then we waited in his car listening to music while I booked my Uber. As soon as the Uber came, I said goodbye and left. Looking back now, I almost feel like I left too quickly...I didn't even give him a hug or anything. I don't know why. I just opened the car door and jumped out and said "drive safely". I feel so silly!Anyway, I texted him the next evening (Saturday) saying: "Hey thank you for last night, it was lovely to meet you. I'm sorry we didn't get to listen to more of that BB king playlist. Hope you got home alright :)"Today is Monday. I haven't heard a thing. Granted, he's not a big texter and made it clear he prefers getting to know someone in person, not over messages. But I'm sure my text warrants a reply? I truly thought we had a great night and he was giving me all the signals that he was really into me. I'm worried I was too cold at the end.What do I do now? Do I message him again or just let it be? It's really confusing (and a little dispiriting) that I could've read the whole night wrong. I was thinking of sending something along the lines of this: "Hey, it'd be nice to see you again so if you aren't interested please just let me know, as I thought we had a great time together"Thank you in advance, friends <3
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