I(20f) dont know whether to trust this guy(21f)

Tldr; guy I met online a week ago says he loves me and wants to marry me plans to visit in two months I changed ages to remain anonymous

So basically I went online and met a guy and we got to talking and on day two he told me he loves me and was willing to send me money to help me out financially (I refused the offer) and I went with it because I thought if we ever met up it would be far enough to where it was real, because he lives super far. And then he sent me a package and he needed my address do I gave it to him (I'm a dumbass) and he sent me a screenshot of him sending it. He doesn't seem to be catfishing me because he sends me snaps and pictures of him. We are literally texting all the time.

 Then he suggested visiting me in 3 months, and I think like it's enough time to visit me if we keep talking for 3 months, but I'm not sure.

He never asks me for nudes or anything sexually which is a good sign I guess, he seems really onboard in wanting a long term relationship.

My friends say this is stupid and he might be a murderer but if he does come here obviously I won't meet him alone and he will meet my sister and my friends before I go off alone with him, so they can get to know him. I'm fine being his girlfriend but I think he's moving a little too fast.

He doesn't seem clingy to me I think we are just in the honeymoon stage.

Basically all my friends think that this isn't a good idea and I was stupid for rolling with it (which I agree) but I really like him and I don't think this relationship is a bad idea.

Also he has expressed he wants to marry me but I think in like a few years since he says he wants me to graduate and he wants to go to the military and I told him I wasn't gonna marry him until we both live together( which he accepted with Grace)

Would it be crazy if he visited me three months from now? Is that enough time to totally trust someone? Is there anything I can do to prevent me from being harmed? I apologize if I appear mad stupid to you but he has me sappy af. Thank you for your time.



Submitted September 08, 2019 at 12:13AM

Tldr; guy I met online a week ago says he loves me and wants to marry me plans to visit in two months I changed ages to remain anonymousSo basically I went online and met a guy and we got to talking and on day two he told me he loves me and was willing to send me money to help me out financially (I refused the offer) and I went with it because I thought if we ever met up it would be far enough to where it was real, because he lives super far. And then he sent me a package and he needed my address do I gave it to him (I'm a dumbass) and he sent me a screenshot of him sending it. He doesn't seem to be catfishing me because he sends me snaps and pictures of him. We are literally texting all the time. Then he suggested visiting me in 3 months, and I think like it's enough time to visit me if we keep talking for 3 months, but I'm not sure. He never asks me for nudes or anything sexually which is a good sign I guess, he seems really onboard in wanting a long term relationship.My friends say this is stupid and he might be a murderer but if he does come here obviously I won't meet him alone and he will meet my sister and my friends before I go off alone with him, so they can get to know him. I'm fine being his girlfriend but I think he's moving a little too fast.He doesn't seem clingy to me I think we are just in the honeymoon stage.Basically all my friends think that this isn't a good idea and I was stupid for rolling with it (which I agree) but I really like him and I don't think this relationship is a bad idea.Also he has expressed he wants to marry me but I think in like a few years since he says he wants me to graduate and he wants to go to the military and I told him I wasn't gonna marry him until we both live together( which he accepted with Grace)Would it be crazy if he visited me three months from now? Is that enough time to totally trust someone? Is there anything I can do to prevent me from being harmed? I apologize if I appear mad stupid to you but he has me sappy af. Thank you for your time.
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