Do you think I’m wrong for completely disowning my nieces and sister?

My nieces are 19 and 17 years old. Background info on kids: They both have deadbeat dads and live with their mother. I used to watch them all the time when they were little because their mother was working or trying to find a new man or whatever. She paid me every single time because trust me I wouldn’t watch these kids for free. They have also always misbehaved and acted out and got bad grades at school, had no friends, been suspended and made to go to therapy in order to go back to school etc

Let’s just say they were both pretty defiant and they would tag team against me. Their own mother rarely disciplined them. They had terrible mouthy attitudes and would frequently mouth off. Nobody else would watch them because they were that bad of kids. They even got kicked out of daycare.

One time (probably 6 and 8 years old) they decided it would be a great idea to put glue all over the toilet seat at my house and put cotton swabs all over it and clog the toilet, in the middle of the night and also clog the sink and let it overflow onto the floor. They frequently would throw food behind my couch or put it in between the cushions. At one of my kids parties, (they were 11 and 13) they threw plastic cups/plates off the porch all over my yard and somebody spit out a chewed hot dog on the seat of my car. They would both frequently lie and try to blame my own kids. I took them camping for what was supposed to be a weekend (11 and 13) but no we came back the next day. They dug their feet into the campers mattress and completely destroyed it. They were teaching my kids words to sexual songs while I wasn’t around. They were teaching them to push over port a potty’s and throw rocks at golf carts, when they were supposed to go on a walk with my husbands older nephew who joined in with the two. They didn’t let anybody sleep that night because they kept rocking the camper, making fart noises and “having to go to the bathroom”. They thought it was hysterical to not bring or wear deodorant and stink up my car. Their mother just gave me money for a new mattress and didn’t discipline them at all.

I was not allowed to discipline them at all. If I yelled they yelled back and tag teamed against me. It was a bad cause and effect thing going on. I tell the kids to stop acting like that, drop the attitudes, leave my kids alone and stop bullying them and they would tag team against me. Calling their mother didn’t work because their mother never really answered her phone. My mother (their grandma) didn’t really even like watching them.

When my youngest niece was 14 and the other one was 16, my youngest niece somehow manipulated my youngest daughter into sending her pictures of our house and secretly video recording me while I wasn’t watching. My niece also took pictures/recorded me when she was at my house. And was laughing. I told her to stop taking pictures of me and asked her why she was doing it but got nothing but laughter. They made a fake profile using my name and wrote all these terrible captions “White trash” “lazy fat disgusting cow” “worlds biggest loser” etc with pictures/videos taken from around my house and while I wasn’t looking. I told their mother they are banned from my house and the account needs deleted. I also made my daughters block them on social media.

Last summer, one of them somehow hacked into mine and my daughters accounts and stole pictures (we weren’t able to log in because password was changed). And they made fake accounts on twitter for every one who lived in my house saying very hurtful derogatory things and tagged one of my favorite singers. They found a video of me dancing and changed it to one of the singers songs and tagged the singer and said I can’t wait to jump on stage and suck your d!ck baby oh I’m so ready for poundtown adventures. They also found porn and was tagging my account saying disgusting disturbing things to the singer pretending it was me. They said terrible things about my children with fake accounts for them using their actual names. Overall absolutely appalling. I told my sister and my sister got mad and started defending them and then wrote a very nasty hurtful email to me. My sister said it was one of my daughters.

My daughters NEVER got in trouble at school, my daughters have friends, have good grades, involved in a lot of activities and would never do that.

Her kids have been known as troublemakers their whole lives. They cause trouble and play the victims and blame everyone else. They mouth off and have no respect for authority figures and they never have.

I blocked all of them on social medias and phone numbers are blocked. I haven’t spoke to any of them since June last summer and I don’t plan on it.

TL;DR - it would really be worth the read because a short paragraph describing the situation I’ve been placed in for years isn’t enough to grasp how horrible my nieces are

Submitted February 03, 2020 at 10:44PM

My nieces are 19 and 17 years old. Background info on kids: They both have deadbeat dads and live with their mother. I used to watch them all the time when they were little because their mother was working or trying to find a new man or whatever. She paid me every single time because trust me I wouldn’t watch these kids for free. They have also always misbehaved and acted out and got bad grades at school, had no friends, been suspended and made to go to therapy in order to go back to school etcLet’s just say they were both pretty defiant and they would tag team against me. Their own mother rarely disciplined them. They had terrible mouthy attitudes and would frequently mouth off. Nobody else would watch them because they were that bad of kids. They even got kicked out of daycare.One time (probably 6 and 8 years old) they decided it would be a great idea to put glue all over the toilet seat at my house and put cotton swabs all over it and clog the toilet, in the middle of the night and also clog the sink and let it overflow onto the floor. They frequently would throw food behind my couch or put it in between the cushions. At one of my kids parties, (they were 11 and 13) they threw plastic cups/plates off the porch all over my yard and somebody spit out a chewed hot dog on the seat of my car. They would both frequently lie and try to blame my own kids. I took them camping for what was supposed to be a weekend (11 and 13) but no we came back the next day. They dug their feet into the campers mattress and completely destroyed it. They were teaching my kids words to sexual songs while I wasn’t around. They were teaching them to push over port a potty’s and throw rocks at golf carts, when they were supposed to go on a walk with my husbands older nephew who joined in with the two. They didn’t let anybody sleep that night because they kept rocking the camper, making fart noises and “having to go to the bathroom”. They thought it was hysterical to not bring or wear deodorant and stink up my car. Their mother just gave me money for a new mattress and didn’t discipline them at all.I was not allowed to discipline them at all. If I yelled they yelled back and tag teamed against me. It was a bad cause and effect thing going on. I tell the kids to stop acting like that, drop the attitudes, leave my kids alone and stop bullying them and they would tag team against me. Calling their mother didn’t work because their mother never really answered her phone. My mother (their grandma) didn’t really even like watching them.When my youngest niece was 14 and the other one was 16, my youngest niece somehow manipulated my youngest daughter into sending her pictures of our house and secretly video recording me while I wasn’t watching. My niece also took pictures/recorded me when she was at my house. And was laughing. I told her to stop taking pictures of me and asked her why she was doing it but got nothing but laughter. They made a fake profile using my name and wrote all these terrible captions “White trash” “lazy fat disgusting cow” “worlds biggest loser” etc with pictures/videos taken from around my house and while I wasn’t looking. I told their mother they are banned from my house and the account needs deleted. I also made my daughters block them on social media.Last summer, one of them somehow hacked into mine and my daughters accounts and stole pictures (we weren’t able to log in because password was changed). And they made fake accounts on twitter for every one who lived in my house saying very hurtful derogatory things and tagged one of my favorite singers. They found a video of me dancing and changed it to one of the singers songs and tagged the singer and said I can’t wait to jump on stage and suck your d!ck baby oh I’m so ready for poundtown adventures. They also found porn and was tagging my account saying disgusting disturbing things to the singer pretending it was me. They said terrible things about my children with fake accounts for them using their actual names. Overall absolutely appalling. I told my sister and my sister got mad and started defending them and then wrote a very nasty hurtful email to me. My sister said it was one of my daughters.My daughters NEVER got in trouble at school, my daughters have friends, have good grades, involved in a lot of activities and would never do that.Her kids have been known as troublemakers their whole lives. They cause trouble and play the victims and blame everyone else. They mouth off and have no respect for authority figures and they never have.I blocked all of them on social medias and phone numbers are blocked. I haven’t spoke to any of them since June last summer and I don’t plan on it.TL;DR - it would really be worth the read because a short paragraph describing the situation I’ve been placed in for years isn’t enough to grasp how horrible my nieces are