Asking out the Friend of someone who I had feelings for.

I am a Sophomore in College (Male, Heterosexual, 19) and I get really lonely this time of year;I have been for a long time. I had a relationship that ended pretty badly about a year ago, and I haven’t dated anyone or even flirted since. Recently, I finally felt like I was ready to get back into dating and had this resolution to find somebody. So I nutted up and asked my crush, let’s call her “Abby” (Female, 20) out for a cup of Coffee last Friday. She said yes, but at the end of it, she told me (very respectfully and kindly) she wasn’t looking to date anyone rn and only saw me as an old friend from high school, so I moved on. However she invited me to a party at her sorority to watch the Super Bowl, since we are still friends. I said sure and I went with her to the party. I met a really nice girl there, Let’s call her “Natalie” (Female, 20) and she seemed to be into me, and I was attracted to her too. I’m just wondering if it would be wrong of me to ask out “Natalie” if she is good friends with “Abby”; They are both part of the same sorority. Again, I’m just really lonely and I felt things towards both of them but I know that “Abby” doesn’t have feelings for me atm. I’m just really confused and conflicted on what I should do. I would like to ask out “Natalie” but I’m wondering if it’s a fucked up thing to do to “Abby”.

Submitted February 03, 2020 at 11:56PM

I am a Sophomore in College (Male, Heterosexual, 19) and I get really lonely this time of year;I have been for a long time. I had a relationship that ended pretty badly about a year ago, and I haven’t dated anyone or even flirted since. Recently, I finally felt like I was ready to get back into dating and had this resolution to find somebody. So I nutted up and asked my crush, let’s call her “Abby” (Female, 20) out for a cup of Coffee last Friday. She said yes, but at the end of it, she told me (very respectfully and kindly) she wasn’t looking to date anyone rn and only saw me as an old friend from high school, so I moved on. However she invited me to a party at her sorority to watch the Super Bowl, since we are still friends. I said sure and I went with her to the party. I met a really nice girl there, Let’s call her “Natalie” (Female, 20) and she seemed to be into me, and I was attracted to her too. I’m just wondering if it would be wrong of me to ask out “Natalie” if she is good friends with “Abby”; They are both part of the same sorority. Again, I’m just really lonely and I felt things towards both of them but I know that “Abby” doesn’t have feelings for me atm. I’m just really confused and conflicted on what I should do. I would like to ask out “Natalie” but I’m wondering if it’s a fucked up thing to do to “Abby”.