My (24 F) partner (35 M) seems to be attached to his ex. Should I stick it through or leave now?

Me (24 F) has entered a new relationship with H (35 M) for 4 months. I've know him for 3 years as friends. He is freshly divorced and and invited me over for a playdate 4 months ago ( I'm a single mom of a 16 month old daughter and he has a 7 year old daughter from his previous marriage) things have spiralled strangely from there. I have a house key and we have had a few romantic nights. I live with my parents and don't speak with my child's father. I help him a lot financially. (I know isn't the smartest) His ex left him for his best friend after 12 years. She left a lot of her things behind which she slowly asked for one at time . He eventually gave her everything except her wedding dress. I asked what he planned to do with it and he stated he wanted to give it to his daughter. Her razor and shaving cream are still there. She has the safe and house key one of which she can't seem to find and won't return the one she has until she has both keys. When I asked him about the dress he got defensive. He also lets her in the house and they chat for a good half hour about everything when they swap their daughter. She has "run into him" at the store when he's told her where he was to talk about the same thing they've texted and she's called him about. I understand that they will always talk and that it's not been long. He talks about us moving in together but I'm concerned about it. I feel like he is still attached to his ex and won't admit it and that I'm being used to help him emotional move on. Is this a situation I should stay in or should I move on?

td;lr My (24 F) partner (35 M) seems to be attached to his ex. Should I stick it through or leave now?



Submitted February 03, 2020 at 10:44PM

Me (24 F) has entered a new relationship with H (35 M) for 4 months. I've know him for 3 years as friends. He is freshly divorced and and invited me over for a playdate 4 months ago ( I'm a single mom of a 16 month old daughter and he has a 7 year old daughter from his previous marriage) things have spiralled strangely from there. I have a house key and we have had a few romantic nights. I live with my parents and don't speak with my child's father. I help him a lot financially. (I know isn't the smartest) His ex left him for his best friend after 12 years. She left a lot of her things behind which she slowly asked for one at time . He eventually gave her everything except her wedding dress. I asked what he planned to do with it and he stated he wanted to give it to his daughter. Her razor and shaving cream are still there. She has the safe and house key one of which she can't seem to find and won't return the one she has until she has both keys. When I asked him about the dress he got defensive. He also lets her in the house and they chat for a good half hour about everything when they swap their daughter. She has "run into him" at the store when he's told her where he was to talk about the same thing they've texted and she's called him about. I understand that they will always talk and that it's not been long. He talks about us moving in together but I'm concerned about it. I feel like he is still attached to his ex and won't admit it and that I'm being used to help him emotional move on. Is this a situation I should stay in or should I move on?td;lr My (24 F) partner (35 M) seems to be attached to his ex. Should I stick it through or leave now?
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