Fiancé (M30) doesn’t post me (F26) on his social media

Fiance (M30) doesn’t post me (F26)on social media

Before I get into it I’m just gonna admit that I know this is petty but it’s still something that bothers me.

We’ve been together 3 years, engaged 1, and getting married next year. In this whole time we’ve been together he has never posted anything about me on social media until very recently. It was after I talked to him about it for the second time, about how it was bugging me and I think to make me feel better he posted me on his story.

After the first time I talked to him about this he stopped posting on Instagram at all, just on his story and at the time. Before this he didn’t ever really post on his story. I didn’t even think the two things were linked. And after the second time we talked about it he posted me on his story a few days later and I thought it was a sweet gesture but honestly now thinking back to it I feel like he could have just blocked certain people from seeing his story. He also said he would post me when we had the second conversation, but it was said it out of frustration and it was definitely “if it makes you happy but I feel forced to” kind of offer. I told him not to do anything he doesn’t want to do and he didn’t post anything.

In all the time we’ve been together I have only met the same group of friends. He has lots of other friends that I haven’t met and for the most part they all seem to be women, I haven’t really met most of them ( to be fair he doesn’t really see them too often). When he does talk about them he’ll tell me that they talked about life and that I even came up in conversation and stuff but I’m not sure if he’s being honest.

Recently I posted a pick of us and he wouldn’t even approve it in his tags, even after I mentioned it. I don’t see any reason for this because my profile is private and only mutual followers would be able to see it. I’ve posted him before to and he actually removed the tag for one of the pictures but not the other. I was just feeling so trusted about being with someone for 3 years and them not posting me even once and then all this weird stuff about the tags that I just got frustrated and deleted all the pictures of us together. And I decided that I won’t be posting him on my story anymore either. If he wants to act single on social media, then I will too. He didn’t say anything about me deleting the posts and we haven’t talked about it since.

Another thing I should mention is that once when we were hanging out with his friends (the same group that it always is), he was talking to his friends about a boys trip and how they’re gonna take such cool pictures and he can’t wait to post them. I honestly didn’t think anything of it because I was very distracted and enjoying myself, but he actually looked over at me and after a few second said to his friend “we should make boys squad Instagram to post in”. I don’t know what that was about and I didn’t ask him. It just weirded me out a lot.

I just don’t know if I’m overreacting but 3 years together seems so long for not posting or acknowledging me on social media, except of course the one time I’m his story. I guess I’m just here looking for an outside prospective. I’m open to any advice, please and thank you!

Tl;dr - been together 3 years, getting married soon, appears to be single on social media

Submitted January 22, 2020 at 12:16AM

Fiance (M30) doesn’t post me (F26)on social mediaBefore I get into it I’m just gonna admit that I know this is petty but it’s still something that bothers me.We’ve been together 3 years, engaged 1, and getting married next year. In this whole time we’ve been together he has never posted anything about me on social media until very recently. It was after I talked to him about it for the second time, about how it was bugging me and I think to make me feel better he posted me on his story.After the first time I talked to him about this he stopped posting on Instagram at all, just on his story and at the time. Before this he didn’t ever really post on his story. I didn’t even think the two things were linked. And after the second time we talked about it he posted me on his story a few days later and I thought it was a sweet gesture but honestly now thinking back to it I feel like he could have just blocked certain people from seeing his story. He also said he would post me when we had the second conversation, but it was said it out of frustration and it was definitely “if it makes you happy but I feel forced to” kind of offer. I told him not to do anything he doesn’t want to do and he didn’t post anything.In all the time we’ve been together I have only met the same group of friends. He has lots of other friends that I haven’t met and for the most part they all seem to be women, I haven’t really met most of them ( to be fair he doesn’t really see them too often). When he does talk about them he’ll tell me that they talked about life and that I even came up in conversation and stuff but I’m not sure if he’s being honest.Recently I posted a pick of us and he wouldn’t even approve it in his tags, even after I mentioned it. I don’t see any reason for this because my profile is private and only mutual followers would be able to see it. I’ve posted him before to and he actually removed the tag for one of the pictures but not the other. I was just feeling so trusted about being with someone for 3 years and them not posting me even once and then all this weird stuff about the tags that I just got frustrated and deleted all the pictures of us together. And I decided that I won’t be posting him on my story anymore either. If he wants to act single on social media, then I will too. He didn’t say anything about me deleting the posts and we haven’t talked about it since.Another thing I should mention is that once when we were hanging out with his friends (the same group that it always is), he was talking to his friends about a boys trip and how they’re gonna take such cool pictures and he can’t wait to post them. I honestly didn’t think anything of it because I was very distracted and enjoying myself, but he actually looked over at me and after a few second said to his friend “we should make boys squad Instagram to post in”. I don’t know what that was about and I didn’t ask him. It just weirded me out a lot.I just don’t know if I’m overreacting but 3 years together seems so long for not posting or acknowledging me on social media, except of course the one time I’m his story. I guess I’m just here looking for an outside prospective. I’m open to any advice, please and thank you!Tl;dr - been together 3 years, getting married soon, appears to be single on social media