Am I ghosted?

(x-posted as a comment in another thread)

Been talking to a guy for a month. We both aren't the "daily texts and daily check-ins" type, so it took us about 3 weeks of sporadic texting and flirtation before our schedules aligned to meet up for a first date. Went well, but now I don't know quite how to feel about this particular moment I've run into. Our first date was Thursday of the other week. Thanked him for a good time, he reciprocated and said he definitely is looking forward to the next time. We didn't text again over the course of the weekend.

Last Monday, I specifically told him that in lieu of texting, I'd prefer to have a quick phone call at or near the end of the week, just to check in and catch up. He said it sounded like a good plan. He's busy, I'm busy, and we've already familiarized ourselves by having a good, hour long phone call prior to our first (and only) date. We don't talk again the rest of Monday or Tuesday.

Out of the blue on Wednesday, he sends me a super sweet text and I thanked him and said I still hope he's okay with me wanting to check in via a call on Thursday or Friday. He says we should play it by ear, he doesn't know how to predict what his weekend will look like yet. For further context, his sister, who he's very close with, is moving out of the state tomorrow and he made it clear he was intending on spending as much time as possible with her. I've known about this for a few weeks now, and he's been pretty vocal about it and how much his sister means to him. This I totally understand, and it's another reason why I didn't feel like keeping a text conversation going right now when we truly are just feeling things out with each other. Well, Friday morning I woke up and was itching to talk to him, so I sent him a good morning text and that if he's free at all today, that I'm available for a little phone call.

Ghosted. He never replied and still hasn't messaged me. It's not in me to follow up further, because I don't want to impose on him. I just don't know what I could have done differently? Particularly when he had just sent that very sweet and complimentary text on Wednesday, and now it's crickets.



Submitted August 30, 2020 at 11:41PM

(x-posted as a comment in another thread)Been talking to a guy for a month. We both aren't the "daily texts and daily check-ins" type, so it took us about 3 weeks of sporadic texting and flirtation before our schedules aligned to meet up for a first date. Went well, but now I don't know quite how to feel about this particular moment I've run into. Our first date was Thursday of the other week. Thanked him for a good time, he reciprocated and said he definitely is looking forward to the next time. We didn't text again over the course of the weekend.Last Monday, I specifically told him that in lieu of texting, I'd prefer to have a quick phone call at or near the end of the week, just to check in and catch up. He said it sounded like a good plan. He's busy, I'm busy, and we've already familiarized ourselves by having a good, hour long phone call prior to our first (and only) date. We don't talk again the rest of Monday or Tuesday.Out of the blue on Wednesday, he sends me a super sweet text and I thanked him and said I still hope he's okay with me wanting to check in via a call on Thursday or Friday. He says we should play it by ear, he doesn't know how to predict what his weekend will look like yet. For further context, his sister, who he's very close with, is moving out of the state tomorrow and he made it clear he was intending on spending as much time as possible with her. I've known about this for a few weeks now, and he's been pretty vocal about it and how much his sister means to him. This I totally understand, and it's another reason why I didn't feel like keeping a text conversation going right now when we truly are just feeling things out with each other. Well, Friday morning I woke up and was itching to talk to him, so I sent him a good morning text and that if he's free at all today, that I'm available for a little phone call.Ghosted. He never replied and still hasn't messaged me. It's not in me to follow up further, because I don't want to impose on him. I just don't know what I could have done differently? Particularly when he had just sent that very sweet and complimentary text on Wednesday, and now it's crickets.
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