Can't tell if he is legitimately busy, or just not interested. Did I do the right thing?

A little history on the situation: For a few months I just talking to a guy fairly regularly. We went on a handful of dates and seemed to enjoy ourselves. We both live busy lives and live a few hours apart. From around November until (April) we lost contact. Late on he messaged me out of the blue and we talked a lot! He asked to hang out and asked when would work for me. I told him the days that I could and he said he would let me know if any of thise days would work. We established a soft day, but when I confirmed the plans the day of, he said that he no longer could. He then suggested that he might be able to the following weekend, but never gave a day. I let him know that it might work for me, but we would have to hang out closer to where I live this time. He said that should work. We talked for a few days longer, then he kind of trailed of keeping in contact.

So here is what I did: After not talking for a few days, I sent him a message. I'm very much into being direct and others being direct. Why play games and waste time, right? The message said, " Are you actually interested in hanging out, or were you just wanting to have a couple of fun nights? Not hard feelings, just curious.". Do you think my approach was the right one? Or do you think I should have waited until after the weekend we were supposed to hang out to message him?

*I understand that if be wanted to he would. I'm a direct person though and want a direct answer. I have repeatedly given him the benefit of the doubt, and would like to stop if he really doesn't mean well.

Submitted April 23, 2020 at 11:26PM

A little history on the situation: For a few months I just talking to a guy fairly regularly. We went on a handful of dates and seemed to enjoy ourselves. We both live busy lives and live a few hours apart. From around November until (April) we lost contact. Late on he messaged me out of the blue and we talked a lot! He asked to hang out and asked when would work for me. I told him the days that I could and he said he would let me know if any of thise days would work. We established a soft day, but when I confirmed the plans the day of, he said that he no longer could. He then suggested that he might be able to the following weekend, but never gave a day. I let him know that it might work for me, but we would have to hang out closer to where I live this time. He said that should work. We talked for a few days longer, then he kind of trailed of keeping in contact.So here is what I did: After not talking for a few days, I sent him a message. I'm very much into being direct and others being direct. Why play games and waste time, right? The message said, " Are you actually interested in hanging out, or were you just wanting to have a couple of fun nights? Not hard feelings, just curious.". Do you think my approach was the right one? Or do you think I should have waited until after the weekend we were supposed to hang out to message him?*I understand that if be wanted to he would. I'm a direct person though and want a direct answer. I have repeatedly given him the benefit of the doubt, and would like to stop if he really doesn't mean well.