Relationship ruined during quarantine

Hi everyone hope you’re all staying safe!! So my ex and I broke up a few days ago because of the stay at home rules happing now. I’m still going to work and life for me hasn’t changed much but my ex has been on paid leave since the shutdown started. We have been friends and colleagues for a year now but started talking romantically in February and made things official mid March. We were getting to really know each other when the shutdown happened For that reason I had not seen her since st Patrick’s day. I work a lot so we hadn’t really been texting either and things just didn’t feel the same we stated that we were starting to feel indifferent towards each other. I decided that it wasn’t the best time for us to be together. We agreed to go back to being friends for the time being. I was more than willing to see her from the safety of my car just to drive by her house but she said she was already in bed and had an exam early the next day. In my head that was a test where I wanted to see if there was still a spark between us when we saw each other. The next day I decided to end things. We ended on mutual terms until yesterday when I saw she posted on her Snapchat story that she was in San Diego (were from LA) and she has an ex there who she was with before me. I feel very upset and hurt that she wasn’t willing to get out of bed to see me when I was willing to go to her house but she somehow ended up in San Diego with her ex the day after we broke up. I understand that we aren’t together and yes I want her to be happy even if it’s not with me but I feel very hurt by this action and feel like damage has been done that could end our friendship I don’t know if I should bring it up or not. It also bothers me that I feel she did it on purpose by posting it to social media where I could see. I just want the healthiest way to cope with this because I am genuinely hurt and feeling down now and don’t feel like I want someone in my life that I can’t trust. any advice or similar stories are welcomed and appreciated ❤️❤️



Submitted April 23, 2020 at 11:26PM

Hi everyone hope you’re all staying safe!! So my ex and I broke up a few days ago because of the stay at home rules happing now. I’m still going to work and life for me hasn’t changed much but my ex has been on paid leave since the shutdown started. We have been friends and colleagues for a year now but started talking romantically in February and made things official mid March. We were getting to really know each other when the shutdown happened For that reason I had not seen her since st Patrick’s day. I work a lot so we hadn’t really been texting either and things just didn’t feel the same we stated that we were starting to feel indifferent towards each other. I decided that it wasn’t the best time for us to be together. We agreed to go back to being friends for the time being. I was more than willing to see her from the safety of my car just to drive by her house but she said she was already in bed and had an exam early the next day. In my head that was a test where I wanted to see if there was still a spark between us when we saw each other. The next day I decided to end things. We ended on mutual terms until yesterday when I saw she posted on her Snapchat story that she was in San Diego (were from LA) and she has an ex there who she was with before me. I feel very upset and hurt that she wasn’t willing to get out of bed to see me when I was willing to go to her house but she somehow ended up in San Diego with her ex the day after we broke up. I understand that we aren’t together and yes I want her to be happy even if it’s not with me but I feel very hurt by this action and feel like damage has been done that could end our friendship I don’t know if I should bring it up or not. It also bothers me that I feel she did it on purpose by posting it to social media where I could see. I just want the healthiest way to cope with this because I am genuinely hurt and feeling down now and don’t feel like I want someone in my life that I can’t trust. any advice or similar stories are welcomed and appreciated ❤️❤️
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