I (25M) think my gf (25F) might be attracted to women

Hi Reddit, this is my first post on here because I don't know where else to go for advice. So I'll do my best to get to the point.

So, my gf (25F) and I (25M) have been dating for almost 6 years now. For the longest time we've had a very healthy sex life, having sex about 2-3 times a week. Until about 8 months ago, now we maybe have sex twice a month and every sexually encounter feels very forced on her part, to the point where I've had to tell her that if she's not feeling it then don't force it. I've tried talking to her about it, but she just gets mad or doesn't want to talk about it then, so I've just dropped it.

During that time I've noticed some really odd behavior on her part. First, a couple months back she had me check something on her phone, so I unlocked it and after I was done checking it I went to dismiss all the unused apps (it's a habit of mine) and I noticed that her internet was open what looked to be a porn site. Curiosity got the best of me and I saw it was opened to a lesbian porn video, which I found very odd because she had told me that she had absolutely no interest in women. I shrugged it off and thought nothing of it.

Then, two months ago she was hanging out with her friends at our place while I was at work, and they had been drinking heavily. When I got, I noticed that my gf was very drunk and so was one of her friends. Then after a bit her other friends left, besides the one who was drunk because I she couldn't drive home, and it was just my gf, her friend, and I. Then I noticed my God getting very handsy with her friend and acting very sexual towards her friend, and her friend was returning the sexual comments and being handsy as well. I couldn't tell if it was just the alcohol or what, but the next morning they both acted as if nothing had happened.

So I'm at a total loss at what to do. I love her very much, and I would do anything for her. But given everything that's happened the last couple of months (the sharp decline in our sex life, the lesbian porn on her phone, and the very sexual night of drinking with her friend) I just can't help but feel like she's not attracted to me anymore, and might be attracted to women. What do you guys think? Am I just being ridiculously paranoid or how should I approach this situation? Thanks in advance.

TL;DR: The sex life between my gf (25F) and I (25M) has sharply declined, I found lesbian porn on her phone and after a night of drinking she was extremely sexual with one of her friends. Is she attracted to women or am I just paranoid?



Submitted August 02, 2019 at 12:15AM

Hi Reddit, this is my first post on here because I don't know where else to go for advice. So I'll do my best to get to the point.So, my gf (25F) and I (25M) have been dating for almost 6 years now. For the longest time we've had a very healthy sex life, having sex about 2-3 times a week. Until about 8 months ago, now we maybe have sex twice a month and every sexually encounter feels very forced on her part, to the point where I've had to tell her that if she's not feeling it then don't force it. I've tried talking to her about it, but she just gets mad or doesn't want to talk about it then, so I've just dropped it.During that time I've noticed some really odd behavior on her part. First, a couple months back she had me check something on her phone, so I unlocked it and after I was done checking it I went to dismiss all the unused apps (it's a habit of mine) and I noticed that her internet was open what looked to be a porn site. Curiosity got the best of me and I saw it was opened to a lesbian porn video, which I found very odd because she had told me that she had absolutely no interest in women. I shrugged it off and thought nothing of it.Then, two months ago she was hanging out with her friends at our place while I was at work, and they had been drinking heavily. When I got, I noticed that my gf was very drunk and so was one of her friends. Then after a bit her other friends left, besides the one who was drunk because I she couldn't drive home, and it was just my gf, her friend, and I. Then I noticed my God getting very handsy with her friend and acting very sexual towards her friend, and her friend was returning the sexual comments and being handsy as well. I couldn't tell if it was just the alcohol or what, but the next morning they both acted as if nothing had happened.So I'm at a total loss at what to do. I love her very much, and I would do anything for her. But given everything that's happened the last couple of months (the sharp decline in our sex life, the lesbian porn on her phone, and the very sexual night of drinking with her friend) I just can't help but feel like she's not attracted to me anymore, and might be attracted to women. What do you guys think? Am I just being ridiculously paranoid or how should I approach this situation? Thanks in advance.TL;DR: The sex life between my gf (25F) and I (25M) has sharply declined, I found lesbian porn on her phone and after a night of drinking she was extremely sexual with one of her friends. Is she attracted to women or am I just paranoid?
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