I [16 F] was asked out by [17 NB] and I am getting mixed signals in terms of their intentions.

FYI- I have no experience with romantic relationships. I’ve never dated before and I am pretty bad at picking up social cues :/.
I had been asked out through DM by a person on Twitter. (I do know this person, and they are not crazy or creepy). They started out by introducing themselves and we had a chill conversation about the upcoming school year and situations with friends. Then this person asked how my week was looking, and I said it was pretty boring as I had nothing planned. They said that it might be better if I went on a date with them. I said sure a date would be fun. We then started talking about potential plans and this person said that they were going to think about potential date ideas, and I replied okay sounds good.
I texted them the next day asking hey how is it going? And they left me on read for two days. I swallowed my pride and texted them that I would like to maybe go to a movie. The person responded saying they could not do this weekend maybe next. I replied maybe half an hour later saying Saturday would be good. I was left on read again and there is still no reply. Nothing they said ever hinted at the fact that they didn’t want to go out anymore, in fact the texts were encouraging more planning. And even though it was encouraging more planning- barely any plans were made. The timing is sort of planned in terms of when it will occur, but nothing about what is going to happen and where it’s going to be.
I am feeling pretty discouraged and somewhat hurt because they approached me first. They made me feel really good, and kept complimenting me, and now the radio silence is frustrating. I had asked friends and they are encouraging me to continue to text and plan with this person, and they are excited for me. Admittedly I was excited at first but now I’m not feeling it anymore.
What should I think about this person’s behaviour? Should I continue making plans with this person or just leave it? Is this normal?

Tl:dr- I have been asked out by an acquaintance but this person is very slow to reply to my messages and barely provides any information or potential plans. Should I continue with this person? Do their actions seem normal? What should I think about this person’s behaviour?



Submitted August 02, 2019 at 12:06AM

FYI- I have no experience with romantic relationships. I’ve never dated before and I am pretty bad at picking up social cues :/.I had been asked out through DM by a person on Twitter. (I do know this person, and they are not crazy or creepy). They started out by introducing themselves and we had a chill conversation about the upcoming school year and situations with friends. Then this person asked how my week was looking, and I said it was pretty boring as I had nothing planned. They said that it might be better if I went on a date with them. I said sure a date would be fun. We then started talking about potential plans and this person said that they were going to think about potential date ideas, and I replied okay sounds good.I texted them the next day asking hey how is it going? And they left me on read for two days. I swallowed my pride and texted them that I would like to maybe go to a movie. The person responded saying they could not do this weekend maybe next. I replied maybe half an hour later saying Saturday would be good. I was left on read again and there is still no reply. Nothing they said ever hinted at the fact that they didn’t want to go out anymore, in fact the texts were encouraging more planning. And even though it was encouraging more planning- barely any plans were made. The timing is sort of planned in terms of when it will occur, but nothing about what is going to happen and where it’s going to be.I am feeling pretty discouraged and somewhat hurt because they approached me first. They made me feel really good, and kept complimenting me, and now the radio silence is frustrating. I had asked friends and they are encouraging me to continue to text and plan with this person, and they are excited for me. Admittedly I was excited at first but now I’m not feeling it anymore.What should I think about this person’s behaviour? Should I continue making plans with this person or just leave it? Is this normal?Tl:dr- I have been asked out by an acquaintance but this person is very slow to reply to my messages and barely provides any information or potential plans. Should I continue with this person? Do their actions seem normal? What should I think about this person’s behaviour?

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