Grilled on "why" I was still a virgin at 28 today, feel like giving up.

I'm so sick of having to answer the same questions, get the same shocked looks, see the interest fade away slowly.

This time I thought great hes muslim like me AND he even asked while we were texting so I thought PERFECT it wont come up in conversation. But nope, not only did it come up, I felt like I was being grilled! The questions/remarks I got:

- Why are you virgin?

- But you go clubbing? But you drink? (yes I have a social life, and no clubbing doesn't=sex)

- So when you were dating you never got the urge?

- I'm surprised a guy dated you for 3 months without having sex (thanks, claimed that was a bad joke)

-Tell me your entire dating history (like legit said start with your first then goes here I'll go first ugh, I lied too said longest I dated someone was 8 months, didnt want to say the truth was 3 lol)

- What about your friends? What about your sisters? (are you kidding me are you really asking if my friends and sisters are virgins too?!)

- So when you say your a virgin what does that mean are we talking PG-13 ***

This is where I snapped. I said wow, that is a personal question. He apologized and I said are you seriously asking for details about what I've done sexually ON THE FIRST DATE?! All the questions threw me off and I ended up being a blubbering mess. Locked my keys in my car so he had to drive me home to get it, told him I was born in Rome and then moved to Italy (??) just kept on fumbling. Ugh the date was awful and awkward and I don't want to do it again. WORST somehow I felt like I was the one in the wrong and had to explain myself, like "well I moved out when I was 19 and when I was in uni I was focused on school and didnt date much and then etc etc etc" like WHY should i go into all that?

UGH! I'm so sick of having to tell people I'm a virgin, they always want an explanation. This is a rare case where it happened on the first date, usually it happens on the third but each time I end up feeling this pit of anxiety and like somehow I'm "abnormal" for being the way I am. And yes I know its odd and people are allowed to be curious but whatever... gonna be taking a long break. I honestly would love to enjoy my summer with my family and friends and not deal with the stress of dating! But this is how I got to 28. Each bad experience (and I know this isnt bad compared to what my friends have gone through) I'll take a 6 month break haha.

Submitted May 03, 2019 at 03:18AM

I'm so sick of having to answer the same questions, get the same shocked looks, see the interest fade away slowly.This time I thought great hes muslim like me AND he even asked while we were texting so I thought PERFECT it wont come up in conversation. But nope, not only did it come up, I felt like I was being grilled! The questions/remarks I got:- Why are you virgin?- But you go clubbing? But you drink? (yes I have a social life, and no clubbing doesn't=sex)- So when you were dating you never got the urge?- I'm surprised a guy dated you for 3 months without having sex (thanks, claimed that was a bad joke)-Tell me your entire dating history (like legit said start with your first then goes here I'll go first ugh, I lied too said longest I dated someone was 8 months, didnt want to say the truth was 3 lol)- What about your friends? What about your sisters? (are you kidding me are you really asking if my friends and sisters are virgins too?!)- So when you say your a virgin what does that mean are we talking PG-13 ***This is where I snapped. I said wow, that is a personal question. He apologized and I said are you seriously asking for details about what I've done sexually ON THE FIRST DATE?! All the questions threw me off and I ended up being a blubbering mess. Locked my keys in my car so he had to drive me home to get it, told him I was born in Rome and then moved to Italy (??) just kept on fumbling. Ugh the date was awful and awkward and I don't want to do it again. WORST somehow I felt like I was the one in the wrong and had to explain myself, like "well I moved out when I was 19 and when I was in uni I was focused on school and didnt date much and then etc etc etc" like WHY should i go into all that?UGH! I'm so sick of having to tell people I'm a virgin, they always want an explanation. This is a rare case where it happened on the first date, usually it happens on the third but each time I end up feeling this pit of anxiety and like somehow I'm "abnormal" for being the way I am. And yes I know its odd and people are allowed to be curious but whatever... gonna be taking a long break. I honestly would love to enjoy my summer with my family and friends and not deal with the stress of dating! But this is how I got to 28. Each bad experience (and I know this isnt bad compared to what my friends have gone through) I'll take a 6 month break haha.